What should you do if someone challenges you to a fight?

[Cearbhall]

Should you fight them or should you walk away?

Decline. Call for help if you don't think the person will respect your answer.

 

[keith99]

It depends.... do you think you can win.... are you justified to fight... and do you want to fight?

I say.... yeah. I never look for a fight. So if I find myself fighting.... it's probably in self defense.

BTW.... people don't challenge you to a fight. They don't say.... hey.... we're fighting. They simply hit you. If they scream, holler, and invade your personal space.... you better fight. You don't know if they are trying to intimidate you or coming to attack you. So you better play it safe and protect yourself. And the best defense.... is a good offense. If they don't expect you to attack.... that's when you should attack.

Does god want you to fight? Probably in self defense. But god would not like it if you looked for trouble. It's not good for you. It doesn't help spread the word. And overall you are suppose to be kind to people.

Bingo.

I never recall having heard Put up your dukes or hit me with yuor best shot.

Oh wait I have, but only in song and If that happens to me I sure am not punching her. Maybe the John Wayne forceful kiss, but no punch.

 

[JustMeSee]

I am too old and experienced to have physical fights any more. They hold no real value for me.

I would protect and defend, but I would not fight. I have a cell phone with speed dial.

Either diffuse the situation or seek help to end the conflict.

I had my encounters of being a punching dummy. For me, emotional pain is far worse than physical pain.

Meet me after school to fight is something old and tired. Win or lose, nothing is really resolved.

 

[keith99]

Walking away is always the right option if you have the option.

I don't know much about fights though. I've only been punched once for no real reason, and I apologized automatically which confused him enough to defuse the situation.

Always is such a dangerous word. There are so many cases when I could just walk away and leave someone else to suffer.

 

[Strathos]

Call the police? Assuming they're not corrupt.

 

[DogmaHunter]

Should you fight them or should you walk away?

If by "challenge" you literally mean just a challenge, then I walk away.

If by "challenge" you mean the person being hellbend on fighting you, then I'll do whatever I must to either avoid fighting, or the fight being over asap. Whatever that means depends on the situation.

 

[dgiharris]

I'm glad your relatives held you back. Fighting would of made you look like an animal and would of just increased his racism. .

I find the notion that violence is only acceptable during extreme cases of self defense offensive. It reeks of moral indignation and superiority and is just counter to Darwinism, logic, and the way the real world works.

I submit there are some acts in which violence is not only an appropriate response but the only response. Violence is nothing more than the extension of politics. Violence is a form of argument. Sometimes there can be no meeting of the minds.

Now, does this mean we should think with our fists in every circumstance? No. But to be overly dismissive in the use of violence is at best naive and at worst irresponsible.

....The only lesson he would of learned is to use a weapon next time.

Actually, I could easily argue that by not using violence I just incentivized him to escalate since he suffered no penalty or punishment for his actions. Human beings learn from positive and negative reinforcement. So by not administering negative reinforcement, I have embolden him to not only continue his behavior but I also incentivized him to escalate.

This is a pattern supported by tons of crime data. Criminals escalate, starting off small and growing larger and bolder in their offenses.

Walking away is always the right option if you have the option.

Ridiculous statement. Sometimes walking away is the right option, sometimes it is not.

Nature follows the path of least resistance. You take crap from someone one day, you end up taking crap from that same someone everyday. I refuse to live my life like that.

Sometimes you have to stick up for yourself. Sometimes, there is no reasoning with the other person.

I don't know much about fights though.

Obviously

I've only been punched once for no real reason, and I apologized automatically which confused him enough to defuse the situation.

I've seen people turn the other cheek against bullies and it rarely ever worked out well for them. They submitted to abuse and high school became their living hell. Conversely, people that stood up for themselves had a much better go of it as the bullies will almost always move on to weaker prey.

I saw one kid get hit then walk away as the bully continued to taunt and laugh at him. So no real damage done.

I saw another kid get hit then walk away, but the bully wasn't content and hit the kid in the back of the head, knocking him out, kid landing face first on the pavement, broke his nose and lost three of his front teeth. So walking away didn't work out so well for him.

Just sayin, real life is not a Disney cartoon and these After School Special type notions about turning the other cheek don't always work in the real world...

 

[TerranceL]

People generally wont "challenge" you.

It's a look, then an attack.

I have never heard of an actual, "meet behind the gym after school and we'll fite!" that actually ended up in a fight.

 

[TerranceL]

I saw another kid get hit then walk away, but the bully wasn't content and hit the kid in the back of the head, knocking him out, kid landing face first on the pavement, broke his nose and lost three of his front teeth. So walking away didn't work out so well for him.

When I was in school I would put up with the abuse until I had had enough then the bully would find out that the big quiet guy wasn't nearly the push over he thought.

Years later I realized that allowing it to go on so long didn't help me out in anyway.

 

[MissRowy]

For me the answer is simple...walk away and if i am actually physically threatened then I will use self defence. I will not participate in a fight that was started for the fun of it

 

[Solaris]

I would demand that they sign a waiver of intent. In that way I would not be liable for their hospital bills.

 

[Autumnleaf]

Depends on the person and the situation. Sometimes you have to fight. Most of the time you can talk your way out of it.

Just walking away is sometimes a very bad move. Better to show a bit of crazy so they hope you walk away first. Sometimes fear incites blood lust.

 

[sunshine456]

"What reason is there to fight or retort back?"

"Or what reason is their to offer railing for railing?"

Remember that the enemy(devil)is roaring around us like a lion seeking whom it can devour. We must be vigilant and stand ready against the wiles of the devil and all it's schemes; which is to undermine, corrupt, and destroy.

If we love others and are fighting for them then that is different, but the principles of JESUS CHRIST is of the spirit nature NOT the flesh; which is opposition to the spirit of GOD the heavenly father.

Galatians 5:14-26King James Version (KJV)

14 For all the law is fulfilled in one word, even in this; Thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself.

15 But if ye bite and devour one another, take heed that ye be not consumed one of another.

16 This I say then, Walk in the Spirit, and ye shall not fulfil the lust of the flesh.

17 For the flesh lusteth against the Spirit, and the Spirit against the flesh: and these are contrary the one to the other: so that ye cannot do the things that ye would.

18 But if ye be led of the Spirit, ye are not under the law.

19 Now the works of the flesh are manifest, which are these; Adultery, fornication, uncleanness, lasciviousness,

20 Idolatry, witchcraft, hatred, variance, emulations, wrath, strife, seditions, heresies,

21 Envyings, murders, drunkenness, revellings, and such like: of the which I tell you before, as I have also told you in time past, that they which do such things shall not inherit the kingdom of God.

22 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith,

23 Meekness, temperance: against such there is no law.

24 And they that are Christ's have crucified the flesh with the affections and lusts.

25 If we live in the Spirit, let us also walk in the Spirit.

26 Let us not be desirous of vain glory, provoking one another, envying one another.

Praise be to GOD the heavenly father and his son lord JESUS CHRIST forever>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>

 

[xTx]

Should you fight them or should you walk away?

Turn the left cheek but get out of there before the smack.

 

[keith99]

I would demand that they sign a waiver of intent. In that way I would not be liable for their hospital bills.

Probably would be effective.

That it would be effective reminded me of my now deceased alpha dog. He did something I've only seen one other dog do. He would click his teeth. It said far more than a growl. It was cold as ice and deadly. It simply said do you really want t piece of this.

No other dog ever said yes to him or the one time I saw another dog do it.

Only fight Wheatley had was when 2 other dogs started picking on his packmate, a 65 Lb puppy. Just keeping himself unbothered was not enough ion that situation. He started and ended things in seconds. Seems 2 65 or so dogs were no match for 1 105 lb. protector.