What Should I do?

[soashamed890]

I'm not sure where the right spot is to post this question-so I'll post it here as well.

Hello. I'm a young 19 year old female and have been in a relationship with a guy for a few years. I love him dearly and we plan on getting married someday. However, he is away at college. I was going through a rough and confused time a few months ago, and ended up being unfaithful to him with two different men. I felt so much guilt, I prayed and prayed for help. I ended up telling him I was unfaithful, but ended up only telling him about 1 of the men. We are working on repairing our relationship and I am praying to God to forgive me and to help me to be a better person, yet the guilt of not telling the whole story is eating me up. I don't know what to do at this point because I don't want to hurt him or cause any sort of violence, but I am not sure how God feels about going through life without being completely honest with a loved one. What should I do? Thank you.

 

[Kixa]

I do know that being completely honest is deffinatly the best thing. If he loves you for who you are, he'll love you for every secret and aspect of who you are. And if he is the one and only one for you, then it's worth waiting for him. I'm sure if say, he cheated,(not saying he would) but you would want to know with whom, and how many girls. Good luck, and I hope it all works out between you for the best desplay of God's glory.

 

[EyesOfKohl]

Shlomo, I think you should tell him the whole truth, always be honest. That way the relationship can be repaired properly, without you having to live with this guilt. Ask his forgiveness, he will no doubt be upset and angry, but forgiveness is greater and if he really loves you, then he will stay with you. Follow that which feels right from your heart. Seek righteousness before your desire. Good luck!

May YHWH (Sacred by His name) guide us!

 

[MusicLover242]

Go and have sex, it's really fun it'll put your mind at ease, Grasshopper.

 

[soashamed890]

Thank you both! He is living out of state currently but is coming home for the holidays. I am planning on telling him sometime then in case he does want to make it work, then we can work on both fully healing. (I'm feeling a lot of guilt and sadness over the whole issue.) But I'm just so scared of hurting him and losing him I guess I will just leave it in God's hands Any ideas of how I should go about telling him?

And I'm not sure I know what you mean Musiclover!

 

[HarborOrange]

So, I'm with a girl, and she "cheated" on me. Though, she only cuddled with another guy for a few minutes, she felt as if she had been unfaithful to me. So, she came out and told me all about it not even an hour after it happened. I probably would have been pretty angry at her if she kept it from me and I found out from another person. However, since she told me, we were able to talk it all out, and now she and I are closer than ever. I think you should tell him flat out what happened.

 

[Morgan93]

admitting guilt is the only way to forgiveness and without forgiveness your relationship is lacking something