What should i do? ex-gf caught up in crime

[Thomas222]

she is an adult, let her make the discissions for herself. Even if we make bad decisions, sometimes its best to not get involved, else the situation may perpetuate itself. Unless her situation gets really out of control, then maybe you will be her last resort. In which case help her, but even then be reluctant to get involved.

if she is managing ok for the moment, leave her be.


For the time being, just keep an eye on her. Ask her how she is going very now and then.


I would also take caution, it is possible she will try to use you and your kindness, if she is involved with criminal activity you don't know how desprate she could really be.

If she asks for money or any financial help, say no! You have good reason not to give this girl all your trust.

 

[Paxton25]

Intervene in the sense of contacting her mother and describing the situation as her daughter did to me, and if need be, go the the police. I don't want to see the girl hurt herself, I know she's my ex, and an ex who hurt me greatly, but it would not be right to not help her, as I believe that's what the lord would want from me. I will continue to pray for her, and monitor the situation, and of course, further advice is appreciated.

When dealing with criminal elements, it's no longer just about your ex, is it? This woman has entangled herself with a shady character with known criminal connections, implying organized crime. Have you thought how this guy and his 'family' might react to your getting involved in his personal relationship?

Do you really have the moral right to put your family and friends in jeopardy for a woman that betrayed you and deliberately put herself in this potentially dangerous situation? I don't think you do.

Tell this ex what you think if you must, but the choices she makes are hers and hers alone; that should be obvious to you by now.

 

[thfdoc]

Well done. You did good, handled it good.

I think you should let her make her own decisions I guess, but still offer suggestions if she is near. It is up to her to take your advice, suggestions, help, ect.

 

[jacks]

It is a tough situation.

Some random questions:
When you were in a relationship was it a victim/rescuer thing? If so is she using this to get your attention? Do you see her as driftwood upon the waves, unable to set her own course? Is it a way of saying "this guy is so bad, he forces me to go astray, so forgive my past indiscretions"? What sort of crime is it? Are they the Soprano's or just smoking dope?

And finally you might also simply ask her if she wants your help.

When all is said and done perhaps DayDreamGurl had the best advice.

 

[stilicho]

i would definitely agree with you, as for her being akin to driftwood on the sea, as i often had to help her with much of her decision making. And through the course of her relationship, i had to "rescue" her from numerous things, like her nad grades, money problems, family issues, etc. maybe it is a ploy for attention, idk. thing is, i do miss her, and she is trying to reach out, i just dont know if i could ever trust her again, or if id ever feel th same way about her...

as for the crime, its worse than drugs, but not as bad as murder or things along that line, more like money stuff......

 

[Armistead14]

I don't care who she is, if she is involved in criminal activity or with those that are, you have two choices.

If you have facts and know it's a crime, report it to the police.
If you don't have hard facts, mind you're own business and butt out.

When it comes to advice, remember the old saying.

Wise people don't need it, fools won't heed it...

 

[rhinoman22]

i would definitely agree with you, as for her being akin to driftwood on the sea, as i often had to help her with much of her decision making. And through the course of her relationship, i had to "rescue" her from numerous things, like her nad grades, money problems, family issues, etc. maybe it is a ploy for attention, idk. thing is, i do miss her, and she is trying to reach out, i just dont know if i could ever trust her again, or if id ever feel th same way about her...

as for the crime, its worse than drugs, but not as bad as murder or things along that line, more like money stuff......

Any chance to give an update stilicho? How did things end up? I have a strong anticipation at to what happened to her, but I can only anticipate without asking you, and even then we might not know the truth.

 

[StThomasMore]

leave the broad alone

if you truly want to help your neighbor, then volunteer at the homeless shelter and donate food. Not trying to fix a flaky woman.

 

[maizer]

leave the broad alone

if you truly want to help your neighbor, then volunteer at the homeless shelter and donate food. Not trying to fix a flaky woman.

Wow, I would not like to have you as a neighbor.