What should I advice?

[Aldrin25]

My cousin is 17 years old, and a college. He's running out of patience to have a girlfriend. I already gave him an advice from the Bible even my good experience from the Lord in my Partner and he said he already prayed twice and we prayed also.

He always attend the worship service once a week and fellowship group. He also reads the Bible regularly. But I don't know what to advice to him now? He keeps saying that he wants to have a girlfriend now? He said also he's getting old and what if he will not have a partner till get old?

I don't know honestly what to say. I prayed a lot for wisdom.

 

[Kris Jordan]

My cousin is 17 years old, and a college. He's running out of patience to have a girlfriend. I already gave him an advice from the Bible even my good experience from the Lord in my Partner and he said he already prayed twice and we prayed also.

He always attend the worship service once a week and fellowship group. He also reads the Bible regularly. But I don't know what to advice to him now? He keeps saying that he wants to have a girlfriend now? He said also he's getting old and what if he will not have a partner till get old?

I don't know honestly what to say. I prayed a lot for wisdom.

Your cousin needs to keep honoring Jesus in his walk with Him while He waits on Him for His will, purpose, plan, and timing for that. Below are some verses you can share with him/her if you haven't already. Otherwise, keep praying for your cousin to wait on Jesus and trust Him completely with all aspects of his life, including his love life.

• If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you. But when you ask, you must believe and not doubt, because the one who doubts is like a wave of the sea, blown and tossed by the wind. That person should not expect to receive anything from the Lord. Such a person is double-minded and unstable in all they do. James 1:5-8 (NIV)

• Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight. Proverbs 3:5-6 (NIV)

• This is the confidence we have in approaching God: that if we ask anything according to his will, he hears us. And if we know that he hears us—whatever we ask—we know that we have what we asked of him. 1 John 5:14-15 (NIV)

• And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, that you may prove what is that good and acceptable and perfect will of God. Romans 12:2 (NKJV)

• Delight yourself in the Lord; And He will give you the desires of your heart. Commit your way to the Lord, Trust also in Him, and He will do it. Psalm 37:4-5 (NASB)

• Come now, you who say, “Today or tomorrow we will go to such and such a city, and spend a year there and engage in business and make a profit.” Yet you do not know what your life will be like tomorrow. You are just a vapor that appears for a little while and then vanishes away. Instead, you ought to say, “If the Lord wills, we will live and also do this or that.” But as it is, you boast in your arrogance; all such boasting is evil. Therefore, to one who knows the right thing to do and does not do it, to him it is sin. James 4:13-17 (NASB)

• And we know that all things work together for good to those who love God, to those who are the called according to His purpose. Romans 8:28 (NKJV)

• But be doers of the word, and not hearers only, deceiving yourselves. For if anyone is a hearer of the word and not a doer, he is like a man observing his natural face in a mirror; for he observes himself, goes away, and immediately forgets what kind of man he was. But he who looks into the perfect law of liberty and continues in it, and is not a forgetful hearer but a doer of the work, this one will be blessed in what he does. James 1:22-25 (NKJV)

• In Him also we have obtained an inheritance, being predestined according to the purpose of Him who works all things according to the counsel of His will, that we who first trusted in Christ should be to the praise of His glory. Ephesians 1:11-12 (NKJV)

• Teach me to do Your will, For You are my God; Let Your good Spirit lead me on level ground. Psalm 143:10 (NASB)

• How can a young man keep his way pure? By keeping Your word. I have sought You with all my heart; don’t let me wander from Your commands. I have treasured Your word in my heart so that I may not sin against You. Psalm 119:9-11 (HCSB)

 

[St_Worm2]

Hello @Aldrin25, I don't believe that there is anything inherently wrong with a 17 yr old college student having a girlfriend, as long as he, as a Christian, is walking according to God's will where she and their relationship is concerned .. e.g. 1 Thessalonians 4:3-5.

Tip: Dating in groups is ALWAYS a good idea for Christian singles (alone time is dangerous ).

Patience is a BIG part of the Christian life. It is, in fact, required of us as we seek to trust God with the reins and the outcome of our life, both daily and eternal (though admittedly, patience does not come easily, particularly for a 17 yr old ).

Here is a wonderful command with a wonderful promise attached to it

Psalm 37
4 Delight yourself in the Lord, and He will give you the desires of your heart.
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If you want to share that verse with your cousin, be sure to tell him that that the key to obeying his half of the verse, the command half, is found in chasing after the Lord, not after the thing(s) that he wants. If he does the latter (by attempting to "delight the Lord" to get what he wants, rather than "delighting himself in the Lord") he will end up 1. turning the Lord into what He is not/never will be, a Cosmic Sugar-Daddy and 2. the Lord will not fulfill His half, the promise half of the verse.

Praying for you (and for your cousin, of course).

God bless you!

--David
p.s. - here is some excellent dating advice from Pastor Mark Driscoll.

 

[Sketcher]

My cousin is 17 years old, and a college. He's running out of patience to have a girlfriend. I already gave him an advice from the Bible even my good experience from the Lord in my Partner and he said he already prayed twice and we prayed also.

He always attend the worship service once a week and fellowship group. He also reads the Bible regularly. But I don't know what to advice to him now? He keeps saying that he wants to have a girlfriend now? He said also he's getting old and what if he will not have a partner till get old?

I don't know honestly what to say. I prayed a lot for wisdom.

We both know that he's not old, but he doesn't know that, he's seen kids his age and younger start dating, and he hasn't gotten to do that yet. What he needs is confidence. How can you help him build up his confidence so that he isn't feeling needy and hopeless?

 

[Joined2krist]

It depends on what he wants a girlfriend for. If he wants to satisfy the lust of his flesh, show him scriptures that shows God is against fornication. If he wants a girlfriend to show off, show him scriptures against worldly living etc. The only reason he should be thinking of having a girlfriend is if he wants to get married soon

 

[Aldrin25]

Thank you so much guys for the reply. I really appreciate it. I showed your reply to my cousin. Please pray for him.

 

[Mountainmanbob]

It's a battle with the flesh down here.
M

 

[faroukfarouk]

Your cousin needs to keep honoring Jesus in his walk with Him while He waits on Him for His will, purpose, plan, and timing for that. Below are some verses you can share with him/her if you haven't already. Otherwise, keep praying for your cousin to wait on Jesus and trust Him completely with all aspects of his life, including his love life.

• If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you. But when you ask, you must believe and not doubt, because the one who doubts is like a wave of the sea, blown and tossed by the wind. That person should not expect to receive anything from the Lord. Such a person is double-minded and unstable in all they do. James 1:5-8 (NIV)

• Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight. Proverbs 3:5-6 (NIV)

• This is the confidence we have in approaching God: that if we ask anything according to his will, he hears us. And if we know that he hears us—whatever we ask—we know that we have what we asked of him. 1 John 5:14-15 (NIV)

• And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, that you may prove what is that good and acceptable and perfect will of God. Romans 12:2 (NKJV)

• Delight yourself in the Lord; And He will give you the desires of your heart. Commit your way to the Lord, Trust also in Him, and He will do it. Psalm 37:4-5 (NASB)

• Come now, you who say, “Today or tomorrow we will go to such and such a city, and spend a year there and engage in business and make a profit.” Yet you do not know what your life will be like tomorrow. You are just a vapor that appears for a little while and then vanishes away. Instead, you ought to say, “If the Lord wills, we will live and also do this or that.” But as it is, you boast in your arrogance; all such boasting is evil. Therefore, to one who knows the right thing to do and does not do it, to him it is sin. James 4:13-17 (NASB)

• And we know that all things work together for good to those who love God, to those who are the called according to His purpose. Romans 8:28 (NKJV)

• But be doers of the word, and not hearers only, deceiving yourselves. For if anyone is a hearer of the word and not a doer, he is like a man observing his natural face in a mirror; for he observes himself, goes away, and immediately forgets what kind of man he was. But he who looks into the perfect law of liberty and continues in it, and is not a forgetful hearer but a doer of the work, this one will be blessed in what he does. James 1:22-25 (NKJV)

• In Him also we have obtained an inheritance, being predestined according to the purpose of Him who works all things according to the counsel of His will, that we who first trusted in Christ should be to the praise of His glory. Ephesians 1:11-12 (NKJV)

• Teach me to do Your will, For You are my God; Let Your good Spirit lead me on level ground. Psalm 143:10 (NASB)

• How can a young man keep his way pure? By keeping Your word. I have sought You with all my heart; don’t let me wander from Your commands. I have treasured Your word in my heart so that I may not sin against You. Psalm 119:9-11 (HCSB)

Great verses there!

 

[faroukfarouk]

It depends on what he wants a girlfriend for. If he wants to satisfy the lust of his flesh, show him scriptures that shows God is against fornication. If he wants a girlfriend to show off, show him scriptures against worldly living etc. The only reason he should be thinking of having a girlfriend is if he wants to get married soon

Young men - and women - need to think about learning the ways of the Lord, maybe getting an education, experience of work and of life generally. 17 is still young. Marriage so young - just to unzip with someone - needs ideally to be offset by other important considerations. 2c...