What shall I do

[rakkoon]

I won't give you the long story. My husband and I got into it with his sister 8 months ago. The matter was stupid, which let to a long 7 months of not speaking to each other. Though we live next door to them.
What had happen was that she expected me to take an elderly woman who lives with them to a dr. appt. My husband explained to her in a nice tone that she would have to pay me gas money since it was an hour away. She agreed then called back very upset saying "You know what forget it, I don't need anymore favores from you!" She called his parents saying we didn't want to help her in her hour of need (totally untrue). She came over on 2 occations cusing me out in front of my kids. In sept. she sent a B-day card to my husband. He called her to thank her, everything seemed to be back to normal.
I was going to have a party at our place. My husband and I agreed that I should invite her to come over. I called her and proceeded to extend an invitation to her she responded with "Don't you guys have something to tell me?" I told her I didn't know what she was talking about and if it had anything to do with what happened I thought it was between them two. She angrily said "We will not have anything to do with you guys till you guys apologise!" CLICK My husband tryed to talk to her about the fact that he didn't think he did anything that required an apology, but if he did please let him know. She told him that she was very upset that he took my side (his wife) over his sister. That he should have made me take the elderly woman to that appt. Without letting him talk she stormed back to her home and slammed the door. When this happened his parents told him to just give her some time to cool off.
Well lets fast forward to New Years. she send us a card saying that she missed us. And that we should just forget what happened. Since all our kids are close in age they should be able to play together. My husband took our son (17 month old) to play with their son (2 y/o) last night. Everything went well. Before he went I told him I wouldn't go till I knew things were real. I don't feel like making the same mistake as last time by being friendly with her as she was very cold toward me. He thought I was being unreasonable and that I was making things difficult.
Is he right? I don't know what I should do. I don't want to be seen as a push over.
My husbands parents have told me that she has always been a very difficult person, but if you are a stranger she is the sweetest person you will ever know. If she gets mad at you for some reason she doesn't care who you are she will tell you off.

 

[ghs1994]

I won't give you the long story. My husband and I got into it with his sister 8 months ago. The matter was stupid, which let to a long 7 months of not speaking to each other. Though we live next door to them.
What had happen was that she expected me to take an elderly woman who lives with them to a dr. appt. My husband explained to her in a nice tone that she would have to pay me gas money since it was an hour away. She agreed then called back very upset saying "You know what forget it, I don't need anymore favores from you!" She called his parents saying we didn't want to help her in her hour of need (totally untrue). She came over on 2 occations cusing me out in front of my kids. In sept. she sent a B-day card to my husband. He called her to thank her, everything seemed to be back to normal.
I was going to have a party at our place. My husband and I agreed that I should invite her to come over. I called her and proceeded to extend an invitation to her she responded with "Don't you guys have something to tell me?" I told her I didn't know what she was talking about and if it had anything to do with what happened I thought it was between them two. She angrily said "We will not have anything to do with you guys till you guys apologise!" CLICK My husband tryed to talk to her about the fact that he didn't think he did anything that required an apology, but if he did please let him know. She told him that she was very upset that he took my side (his wife) over his sister. That he should have made me take the elderly woman to that appt. Without letting him talk she stormed back to her home and slammed the door. When this happened his parents told him to just give her some time to cool off.
Well lets fast forward to New Years. she send us a card saying that she missed us. And that we should just forget what happened. Since all our kids are close in age they should be able to play together. My husband took our son (17 month old) to play with their son (2 y/o) last night. Everything went well. Before he went I told him I wouldn't go till I knew things were real. I don't feel like making the same mistake as last time by being friendly with her as she was very cold toward me. He thought I was being unreasonable and that I was making things difficult.
Is he right? I don't know what I should do. I don't want to be seen as a push over.
My husbands parents have told me that she has always been a very difficult person, but if you are a stranger she is the sweetest person you will ever know. If she gets mad at you for some reason she doesn't care who you are she will tell you off.

Always put other folks ahead of your own needs. In that, you will find that you are doing exactly as your Father wants you to do. Read Matthew 6:43-48. Make the same mistake? I don't know about that. Did God make a mistake in saving us inspite of ourselves.

 

[BOJAX]

I agree with the above poster. Aditionally, don't do things for them expecting anything in return. Don't love them expecting them to love you in return. Love does not seek its own (1 Corinthians 13:4-7). As always, people are fickle, but God is solid as a rock, and if we have God as our rock and solid foundation. We will then begin to walk in love. Which bears all things and endures all things. We need this kind of pressure (like the one you are experiencing) to excercize the godly love muscle that is in our spirit. Otherwise it will not grow and develop and we will not be able to bear the smallest pressures. Also, do not walk in the flesh. Do not depend on feelings or emotions to initiate something. Don't wait for a good feeling before you go and love someone. Flee from all temptation. Like the temptation to seek revenge or the temptation to say something nasty. The temptation to 'give them what they gave you'. Instead walk in the spirit (Galatians 5:22). The first fruit of the spirit is love. I pray that you'll use this experience to develop your love muscle. Look at it that way. That really is what it is.