What one trait? What self improvement?

[silentpoet]

Ok, we are getting close to new years when lots of people make promises to change themselves. I don't much care for that. But I do like the idea of self improvement and working on yourself. So what are you working on? What aspect of your life are you committed to changing? How are you going about this? What resources are you using to help you change? What plans, strategies, and tactics are you employing to work on this change?

 

[Brother Jason]

Wow, that's in depth question but I'll give a simple answer. I'd like to become a more understanding dad this year. Sometimes I feel like a real flop.

 

[ozbloke]

I'm working on a couple of things - one, on the outside, is to try to get rid of the love handles and tone up the muscles ... that is, really, the easy one (Not that it *is* easy, only comparitively )

The other is one that I need to change on the inside - and that is both way more important and way harder. I need to show my wife that I appreciate her, and make her feel loved.

Stragegies for the first are trying to eat better and excersise more ... for the second, trying to pray, listen and tell her what se needs to hear!.

 

[silentpoet]

I'm working on a couple of things - one, on the outside, is to try to get rid of the love handles and tone up the muscles ... that is, really, the easy one (Not that it *is* easy, only comparitively )

The other is one that I need to change on the inside - and that is both way more important and way harder. I need to show my wife that I appreciate her, and make her feel loved.

Stragegies for the first are trying to eat better and excersise more ... for the second, trying to pray, listen and tell her what se needs to hear!.

1. What specifically are you going to eat less of and what are you going to eat more of? What exercise have you comitted yourself to?

2. What do you need to learn to communicate better with your wife? My sister said that The 5 Love Languages book saved or at least really helped her marriage. It might be a good place to start.

Wow, that's in depth question but I'll give a simple answer. I'd like to become a more understanding dad this year. Sometimes I feel like a real flop.

What are you prepared to do to become a more understanding dad? What skills do you need? How are you going to acquire those skills?

 

[MellieMoo]

Ok, we are getting close to new years when lots of people make promises to change themselves. I don't much care for that. But I do like the idea of self improvement and working on yourself. So what are you working on? What aspect of your life are you committed to changing? How are you going about this? What resources are you using to help you change? What plans, strategies, and tactics are you employing to work on this change?

Wow! Totally deep question. But I like swimming in the deep end! lol

Q. What aspect of your life are you committed to changing?
A. John 3:30. "He must increase, but I must decrease." There needs to be less of me in His way so that He may do His work thru me. This means more yielding and more submission on my part to Christ by dying to self. Also, gotta lose this excess weight once and for all! (Yeah, I'm making one of those resoltions I always make.)

Q. How are you going about this?
A. I am relying on the Holy Spirit and the Word of God to continue the transformation of becoming Christ-like by listening for His voice and waiting on the Lord - learning to walk in the patience He has been building in me. The weight issue has been a toughy for me. It's deeper than just "go on a diet and lose the weight." I really need God's guidance here so I'm going to be digging into the word and learning how not to give in to temptation.

Q. What resources are you using to help you change?
A. God, the Bible, various books which I find in line with God's word for issues of weightloss and management.

Q. What plans, strategies, and tactics are you employing to work on this change?
A. First, trusting God to supply my needs - not necessarily material, but things like fellowship, knowledge, fruit of the spirit, etc. On my own end, I will be using the resources I mentioned above and the current/near future circumstances I find myself in will enable me to interact with people more, get more exercise, stay focused on goals, etc. (My life has been on hold for several months now due to temporary circumstances and once these circumstances are removed, many new opportunities will open up for me, so I plan to utilize my new circumstances to the fullest!)


Good questions! "Where there is no vision, the people perish ..."

God bless!

 

[ozbloke]

1. What specifically are you going to eat less of and what are you going to eat more of? What exercise have you comitted yourself to?

I'm trying to eat less of most things - eat less overall and smaller portion sizes as well as less of specific types of food - the high fat, high sugar junk food being the obvious candidate for the first cutting. Im trying to eat more of the fruits and vegetables (*sigh* that I just *love* so much. Not!) but not much else.

On the excersise front, I have bought a home resistance gym and use that as well as go to the gym proper. but I keep getting waylayed and distracted and dont go witht he regularity that I should.

2. What do you need to learn to communicate better with your wife? My sister said that The 5 Love Languages book saved or at least really helped her marriage. It might be a good place to start.

I have read that book and it is certainly very useful. I Think that I have just got out of the habit of taking to her especially about my feelings and walling them up away from her - I need to change this so that we can get closer together again

 

[mtbker30]

I am going to spend more time with my family especially with my son.

 

[CrazyScott]

Yes, very deep question. One that you could write a book about! But, I will keep mine short and if someone wants more they can ask.

1. Get my rear to the gym four-five times a week!

2. Eat better. Stay away from the "junk" foods for lunch. Pack each day and eat healthier.

3. Get a HOBBY! Yes, life gets boring sometimes for me because I don't DO anything. Other guys have boats, motorcycles, campers, jet ski's, big pickup trucks that are loud, but not me! I just come home from work each night and do nothing. Next year will be different!!

4. Spend more time with family. Play games, take walks, etc.

5. Help out my mother more. She's 90. I need to totally remodel her home. Yikes!!

6. Find a new job! Maybe even go back to school for a career change once I figure out what I want to be when I grow up.

Well, I'm sure there is lots more I can think of but I will spare you the rest for now. Let's just say there are some changes in store and I can't wait to get started. It's time.

 

[silentpoet]

One tip for relationships that Jack Canfield wrote about is to ask the other person about once a week "On a scale of 1 to 10 how would you rate our relationship?" Anything less than a 10 gets the follow up question "What would it take to make it a ten?"

 

[clycleader]

Let's see.
1. work out more. I guess I'll have to work on the motivation part of it, but also finding time (during naps or while we have a sitter) is hard. I have already st arted eating better (less on quantity and also better quality). Being sick these last two weeks has definately held me back a bit.
2. being a calmer, happier person. My husband says I don't seem to be as happy as I once was. Not sure what he means exactly, but I must be showing it somehow. Maybe it's that I've been sick for 2 weeks. Maybe stressed when he comes home from work and sees me. I think that relaxing more during the day and prioritizing what needs to get done and when will help.
3. Practicing spiritually. Reading my bible and other Christan books more often. Praying more. Attending church services with a happy heart. (I don't much care for our interrum pastor so it's tough)

 

[Zandy]

I'll continue to work on being more helpful to family needs

 

[silentpoet]

I'll continue to work on being more helpful to family needs

How specifically are you doing that? What plans have you made to help you? How is your progress so far?

 

[JPPT1974]

1. Be more nicer and patient
2. Not to backtalk anybody unless it is really warranted
3. Trying to be more closer to Christ
4. Not to do things on my own but to ask for Christ for help
5. Being more encouraging to others
6. Treat others they way that like to be treated
7. To keep my temper under control
8. Not to take things for granted nor people for granted most importantly
9. Give rather than receive

 

[silentpoet]

1. Be more nicer and patient
2. Not to backtalk anybody unless it is really warranted
3. Trying to be more closer to Christ
4. Not to do things on my own but to ask for Christ for help
5. Being more encouraging to others
6. Treat others they way that like to be treated
7. To keep my temper under control
8. Not to take things for granted nor people for granted most importantly
9. Give rather than receive

That is a good list of specific actions.

 

[JPPT1974]

That is a good list of specific actions.

It will be a hard thing to do but
Really with God's help, nothing is impossible with Him!

 

[silentpoet]

Well the more specific you are, they better chance you have of reaching your goals. I think our prayers should be the same, we should pray specifically not in vague terms.

 

[Swede]

Trying to be more social and not cutting myself off when I'm off work.
Trying really hard to compromise with my husband so that we can both be happy with our lives. It's not easy when you have different goals in life. Don't want to get into what it's about (it's several areas) but I have already made some real progress and gone out of my comfort zone.

 

[Fangtastic]

Let's see.
1. work out more. I guess I'll have to work on the motivation part of it, but also finding time (during naps or while we have a sitter) is hard. I have already st arted eating better (less on quantity and also better quality). Being sick these last two weeks has definately held me back a bit.
2. being a calmer, happier person. My husband says I don't seem to be as happy as I once was. Not sure what he means exactly, but I must be showing it somehow. Maybe it's that I've been sick for 2 weeks. Maybe stressed when he comes home from work and sees me. I think that relaxing more during the day and prioritizing what needs to get done and when will help.
3. Practicing spiritually. Reading my bible and other Christan books more often. Praying more. Attending church services with a happy heart. (I don't much care for our interrum pastor so it's tough)

I like what she said.

 

[sunshineforJesus]

That is a good list of specific actions.

I agree 100 %

 

[sunshineforJesus]

I want to learn to become more patient and
less pushy with others. I would also like to learn to
have more self confidence and to see myself through Gods eyes.