What is the main reason you are single?

[ImAllLikeOkWaitWat]

I think the main reason for me is because I don't have much money due to a chronic illness. I'm not sure what to do about this to be honest. I have thought about approaching women in my neighborhood but haven't due to lack of confidence because of lack of money. If I had money I would approach women with no problem. So I'm not really sure what to do about this but what about you guys? Whats the main reason you're single?

 

[.Mikha'el.]

I usually say it's because the women I'm interested in don't reciprocate and vice versa.

 

[Citanul]

I'm a textbook definition of an introvert, i.e. I find too much social interaction exhausting. As a result, I tend to keep to myself a lot, and not putting yourself out there is a guaranteed way of drastically reducing your chances of meeting anyone.

 

[Lost4words]

Because my legs are very short and my belly touches the ground when i am walking!!

 

[trophy33]

If we are not from a bigger and functioning family, we do not have the right desires, instincts, ideas and patterns for a good, stable relationship and parenthood.

And because most of the people in the marriageable age today are from broken families, the troubles are not worth the few possible benefits. Most of them will break their own family, too.

The modern western society, individualism, social media delusions and even laws make the married/family life to be also much harder than in the past.

 

[GodAndChocolateVanilla]

I am single because I have not found my Soulmate/True Love yet. My past romantic relationships were not True Love. I believe True Love exists and I made the bad decision in the past of not waiting for it.

Unless God gives me the right Man, then I have made the decision to just be Celibate.

The right Man will love me no matter what, and I will love him no matter what.

Even if the right Man for me was homeless, I would not care. I would go be homeless with my Soulmate in a heartbeat. I know God can keep me alive without food and money.

And I do not care what my Soulmate looks like or what ethnicity he is.

I honestly feel that unless it is True Love, then you should not get Married.

True Love is worth waiting for!!

Matthew 21:22 KJV
22And all things, whatsoever ye shall ask in prayer, believing, ye shall receive.

 

[High Fidelity]

Probably my face.

 

[Richard T]

I am single today because I was not adhering to God's plan for dating. When I finally told God that I wanted things his way. He led me out of the singleness desert and the USA as well. Since then it has been amazing and I should be married pretty soon. I do not say that every single is in the desert, but if you are like me, you need a catalyst and or breakthrough to really get moving. If it is in your heart to marry get with God, expect him to do something, and rely on his strength and grace to get you there.

I once attended a singles seminar. The speaker for that day prophesied that half the singles in that room would be married within a year. (there was maybe 300 people) The response was great. I even a had a woman I knew from work really thinking it might be me as she was there too. (Sorry, I passed on her). Was such a prophecy absurd? Absolutely not, because God is in the marriage business and He puts those desires in you. No one tallied the results but there were people there that married. The problem usually is that our flesh is in the way. We may lack knowledge of how to be successful, and we can lack confidence or obedience in achieving marriage. My start too included re-reading this teaching that was helpful to me. https://events.rhema.org/wp-content/uploads/2018/04/LM45-Matter-of-a-Mate_2018.pdf The key takeaway in this teaching is to not to put trust in another person, but put that trust in God for your spouse. Scripture really does support the marriage position. Overweight, older, disabled or even a lack of funds does not nullify God's will in marriage. There is someone for you, but remember the saying that God will pass over a thousand people to find one that has faith. Forget rejection, self-image and all the other excuses and get your eyes on God.

In person and online, treat the opposite sex as friends and start to build your confidence and network. In my case, I believe God told me the exact city where I would find someone. God seemed to suggest I should consider someone shorter than average and I accepted that. No your not likely to get a partner from a list drawn up by the flesh, ( I tried that decades ago) but if you fellowship with God you will get some markers so that you can narrow things down and have a strategy that comes from Him. Sorry I went outside the confines of the question, but if your single receive the encouragement and know the word when it comes to marriage and your expectations before marriage.

There is a scripture in James that says pray for one another that you may be healed. I believe this applies to marriage too. Pray and give help for others that they may marry in the will of God. Doing this will in turn will help you. Why does it apply to marriage? because seedtime and harvest is universal. Sow sparingly and reap sparingly, Sow abundantly and reap abundantly. Sow marriage help in other single believers and you can reap it too. Patience matters too, sometimes we need to focus solely on God and you will know when the time is right. After my last failure with a gf, I waited for about two years. During that time I let go of most of my baggage, set my heart the best I could and expected God to do something and wow He sure did. He will do the same for you. God bless!

 

[QuestionQuest74]

Due to the dating standards of most women these days and im picky and my church has lack of young single women and not to mention i have low rank amongst church social circle and I have no christian social circle outside my church plus on my fault I don’t go to Christian events like should outside my church and lastly my city is very irreligious

 

[venksta]

Main reason I'm still single is I want God's best. He has promised me that she is out there, and while He prepares me, I'm confident God will bring her into my life at His best timing.

 

[GTW27]

Main reason I'm still single is I want God's best. He has promised me that she is out there, and while He prepares me, I'm confident God will bring her into my life at His best timing.

Blessings in Christ Jesus venksta! Have you ever considered being an evangelist instead of a pastor? Who is in more need for The word of God, the living or the dead? I know of a tent maker that moved around.

 

[GospelS]

I think one of the reasons people may be single is not persisting with faith in the Lord. Jesus told us the parable of the persistent widow. We don't seek or fight with the Lord for the blessing like Jacob fought with the Angel in the desert, not leaving the Lord until He blesses you.

Our words and our thoughts have power over us. I say to myself I shall be married. When I pray, I believe I already received it. I live out my belief as I'm already married. According to our faith, it will be granted to us in God's perfect time. God is Family in Himself and I'm made in His image.

Matthew 14. Jesus reached out his hand and caught Peter “You of little faith,” he said, “why did you doubt?”
Luke 18. Then the Lord said, when the Son of Man comes, will He really find faith on the earth?”

 

[christiansoccerplayer]

I'm still single mainly because I don't ask out enough women since there are very very few single women within a suitable age in the town where I live and in the town where I work that I get interested/attracted to. My other social circles don't have a lot of options either. With my job schedule lately, I don't usually have the time and the energy to pursue someone except maybe once every few years. I'd say its 99.9999 % my fault I'm in a a very protracted (hopefully not permanent) season of singleness. I asked out someone in February (turned down because she had a BF). It was literally the first time I had asked out a woman in over 3 years. to make it worst, I'm 46 (male) with zero relationship experience and little dating experience (two dates total). It will be a small miracle if I go on another date again and a big miracle if I get into a relationship or two, and get close to engagement/marriage. Good thing I worship a God who can work miracles and anything else He choses.

 

[exitstageright]

I think the main reason for me is because I don't have much money due to a chronic illness. I'm not sure what to do about this to be honest. I have thought about approaching women in my neighborhood but haven't due to lack of confidence because of lack of money. If I had money I would approach women with no problem. So I'm not really sure what to do about this but what about you guys? Whats the main reason you're single?

Because women do not make sense. Women only make babies.

 

[timewerx]

I'm 46 (male) with zero relationship experience.

Age isn't usually a problem with men but at 46, women might have high expectations on men like fully paid your mortgage on the house, financially stable / financially independent, setup for life.

But not always. It really depends on the woman. Not all women are looking for first-class living. There are some who are still idealists. If you can't find these women then you are looking at the wrong places or simply not available locally and you may have to consider long distance options like from another state or even from another country.

Good thing I worship a God who can work miracles and anything else He choses.

Unless God intends you to be single, and there's nothing you can do to manipulate God to do otherwise. You can still go against God's plans for your life and actually succeed at getting married.

But we know half of the marriages ends in divorce. Many Christians say theirs is a miracle but still ends up in divorce or just ends up bad. Christian marriages are no exception unless you are meant to be the parent/descendant of a great end-time prophet and we know only of few which means only an exceedingly tiny % of the Christian population would have marriage "prearranged" by God Himself.

In fact, I think Christians claim so many things are "God's favor" but are actually not. For example 1 John 2:15-17. One should be cautious. Your church might be spreading the false "prosperity gospel" without knowing it. Ofc, no church who preaches prosperity gospel would admit to it.

 

[GospelS]

In fact, I think Christians claim so many things are "God's favor" but are actually not. For example 1 John 2:15-17. One should be cautious. Your church might be spreading the false "prosperity gospel" without knowing it. Ofc, no church who preaches prosperity gospel would admit to it.

Another main reason i think people are single or end up divorced or in breakups is they follow "poverty gospel". This is as dangerous as prosperity gospel.

Men not able to provide for themselves and their families because they believe Jesus endorsed poverty. Their faith is in poverty opposed to the other group whose faith is in prosperity. When their children are starving and dying from pain, they say things like "have faith", "it's better to die", without doing his duties as a father. Putting the burden on others while they themselves don't lift a finger. Matthew 23:4.

Is this what Jesus is turning men into. Then women and children only turn away from faith and the world gets corrupted like we are seeing now. Be cautious of such men and churches because they are manipulative and deceiving with their words to keep innocent lives in their control.

Prosperity gospel is a teaching to entice poor into believing in Jesus because He will make you rich. This used to be prevalent. Poverty and prosperity both can be a curse if you are fallen and thrown out of the Eden. But there are God's people who are back in His garden in their glorified bodies where neither poverty nor prosperity has any control over their lives or faith.

 

[timewerx]

Another main reason i think people are single or end up divorced or in breakups is they follow "poverty gospel". This is as dangerous as prosperity gospel.

Men not able to provide for themselves and their families because they believe Jesus endorsed poverty. Their faith is in poverty opposed to the other group whose faith is in prosperity.

I never heard of "poverty gospel" nor Christian men or women who left their solidly planted lives to live as poor.

I've only heard of Christians joining or starting a mission in a poor country, leaving their safe and comfortable lives behind but it's not the same. Many Christian denominations have national and overseas missions and they do a very critically important job of spreading the Gospel to all nations. I would not have known about Christianity if not for selfless work of missionaries.

I also don't think Jesus endorsed poverty but Jesus definitely endorsed social justice, social equality, investing on the poor or "losers", contentment, etc.

I also believe it's wrong to leave your family destitute. But I also believe it is also wrong to fill all your family's indulgences that you have nothing left to help the poor because Jesus made it very clear, what you're doing to help the poor may just prove your true relationship with Him.

We should all take care of our families. Provide a decent life for them and still have enough left to help the poor. With the current system in place, that means working, running a business, and having investments to make money. But how far will you chase wealth knowing that Jesus called money as the "wealth of injustice" (Luke 16:9), NOT from the Father (1 John 2:15-17), and anti-God (Matthew 6:24)?

Even trying to get rich in order to give more is not advised by Jesus (example in the Parable of the Widow's Mite - the poor widow has given more despite being poor). Because money, the "wealth of injustice" also oppresses the poor. It makes no sense to become an accessory to the oppression of the poor in order help the poor more by getting rich.

 

[dzheremi]

At this point in my life I would only date with the intention to marry, which means only Orthodox women (since we cannot marry outside of the Church). The last parish I was a member of only had 6 families in it, and no daughters anywhere near my age. Coptic people tend to marry quite young, so I think I'm probably out of luck there at 41, though I guess I could marry an Ethiopian, Eritrean, Armenian, or Syriac lady. I just don't know any right now.

 

[GospelS]

I never heard of "poverty gospel"

If you never heard of it, then hear it now. Things are happening in the world and to you that you yourself will never hear unless you have ears that hear.

Poverty gospel is idolizing poverty. Their faith is in poverty for salvation from sin. This is enslavement by some men misinterpreting Jesus words. Neither poverty nor prosperity can save anyone but the Blood of Jesus alone.

 

[venksta]

Because women do not make sense. Women only make babies.

Matthew 12:46-50

46 While Jesus was still talking to the crowd, his mother and brothers stood outside, wanting to speak to him. 47 Someone told him, “Your mother and brothers are standing outside, wanting to speak to you.”48 He replied to him, “Who is my mother, and who are my brothers?” 49 Pointing to his disciples, he said, “Here are my mother and my brothers. 50 For whoever does the will of my Father in heaven is my brother and sister and mother.”

Seems like Jesus had sense of what women were, who did the will of the Father.