What is the best form of contraception?

[FaithAlone]

One girl I worked with heard in a class that breast feeding was a good natural contraceptive (http://www.managingcontraception.co...ch-brstfd.html). Unforunately, she didn't realize that she needed a baby first- he husband going to town on her chest didn't qualify.

Another couple tried birth control pills, and the woman because ill because of them. Rather that stop with the pills altogether, the husband took them instead. He was quite confused about the changes to his body- thought they were due to being married all of the sudden.

Haha That is too funny. Yeah I wouldn't have to worry about a thing if that kind of breastfeeding worked

 

[Beth1231]

I have been on the Pill for a year now. No unpleasant side affects that I can honestly point to and say "that was the pill". Anyway....


I recently missed two pills in a two week span . Not good. So we tried the condom thing. It's okay for me; maybe not as much for my husband.

As for the NFP thing....I am willing to try it when the possibility of "oops" is not so financially crushing. Say in about two years.

So OP, there is my experience with contraception and some thoughts. As if you don't have enough with seven pages, right?

 

[Ilovemyhusband]

I was on the pill for a while, but it really messed with me - I don't think I've ever been the same both physically and emotionally. It turns out that I am rather sensitive to hormonal changes - pregnancy was a bit of a nightmare too, but not as much as post pregnancy.

So we use condoms. I can understand that some might find them a pain and stuff, but we don't have a problem.

Like another poster said, if I could go back and change my mind about the pill I most definitely would.

 

[gracefaith]

I missed that because I scanned the posts, long thread you know

Haha - well, it was in the midst of my LONG post.

Seriously, this is all a matter of what a couple's priorities are. Your priorities will have a major influence on what kind of birth control is "the best" kind for you. I've been having a good think on the matter and am off to start a new thread about it.

BTW Did anyone's premarital counseling cover this in depth? Seems to me that counsel in selecting birth control would be a BIG help.

 

[Sascha Fitzpatrick]

The best contraception? There is none! It's whatever works for you PERSONALLY (based on your health, moral decisions, willingness to take unbiased information on, etc etc.).

For me, I use the pill now for gynecological issues - when I'm married we'll still use it, cept my FH doesn't trust it on it's own, and I don't like the idea of condoms, so we're going to use spermicide as well.

The spermicide is something he has to organise though - if I have to remember to take a pill everyday, then he can remember to buy the foam. If he forgets - then that's his problem!

He agrees with that - if we're in the mood, and he's forgotten it, or I've forgotten to take the pill, then that won't mean we stop having sex for the night! There's responsibility on both sides that way, when it comes to contraception.

Sasch

 

[Ilovemyhusband]

The best contraception? There is none! It's whatever works for you PERSONALLY (based on your health, moral decisions, willingness to take unbiased information on, etc etc.).

For me, I use the pill now for gynecological issues - when I'm married we'll still use it, cept my FH doesn't trust it on it's own, and I don't like the idea of condoms, so we're going to use spermicide as well.

The spermicide is something he has to organise though - if I have to remember to take a pill everyday, then he can remember to buy the foam. If he forgets - then that's his problem!

He agrees with that - if we're in the mood, and he's forgotten it, or I've forgotten to take the pill, then that won't mean we stop having sex for the night! There's responsibility on both sides that way, when it comes to contraception.

Sasch

So very true, but really...be careful of synthetic hormone. It is a personal choice and what works for the couple.

 

[sculpturegirl]

Sascha is right that there is no perfect form of contraception. This is because, lest we forget, that SEX MAKES BABIES. This is what is supposed to happen; this is how we are designed. SO, if we want sex but no babies then there is a price to pay, whether no sex during her fertile time, an impersonal rubber, or hormones that interupt the body's natural rhythms.

 

[Punkdonkey]

Well, but still there is a lot of options that has been left out. Spiral, and (whats that thing called which goes inside the woman, like a cup or something together with sperm killing cream).

So far, I have heard that Condoms are 75-85% secure, pills are 90-95%. If you go dutch condoms are significantly more secure though.
The spiral should be more secure then the pill and should last for about 4-5 years. as far as I know it will cause some initial discomfort just when it is placed, but soon it will not be noticed at all.
Ofcourse nothing is 100%.

Pulling out = less then 50%
Scheduling sex in non-fertile periods = no clue, but actually scheduling lovemaking???...also the whole trying to figure out when is the time, has, as far as I know resulted in a lot of babies

If she goes to a doctor I am sure that you will find the best answer.

oh and by the by, those pills some girls take for hormonal control, are not as effective as actual Birth control pills. So be careful if she already uses pills due to hormons and stuff....that pill is NOT the right answer

 

[~Mrs. A2J~]

Well, but still there is a lot of options that has been left out. Spiral, and (whats that thing called which goes inside the woman, like a cup or something together with sperm killing cream).

So far, I have heard that Condoms are 75-85% secure, pills are 90-95%. If you go dutch condoms are significantly more secure though.
The spiral should be more secure then the pill and should last for about 4-5 years. as far as I know it will cause some initial discomfort just when it is placed, but soon it will not be noticed at all.
Ofcourse nothing is 100%.

Pulling out = less then 50%
Scheduling sex in non-fertile periods = no clue, but actually scheduling lovemaking???...also the whole trying to figure out when is the time, has, as far as I know resulted in a lot of babies

If she goes to a doctor I am sure that you will find the best answer.

oh and by the by, those pills some girls take for hormonal control, are not as effective as actual Birth control pills. So be careful if she already uses pills due to hormons and stuff....that pill is NOT the right answer

What spiral are you talking about? Are you talking about the IUD? There have been several posts in this thread discussing IUDs.

 

[Punkdonkey]

What spiral are you talking about? Are you talking about the IUD? There have been several posts in this thread discussing IUDs.

Uhmm...IUD...maybe....I have no clue. in my language its just called the spiral

 

[Addicted2~Jesus]

Uhmm...IUD...maybe....I have no clue. in my language its just called the spiral

DWT

If your talkin bout the IUD, one should know the function of em, the non-hormonal ones will keep from carryin a child but won't stop pregancies from occurin, ie stop fertilization 100%, I don't know off hand what the percentages are, an the hormornal ones are a dose of the pill hormones an also make implantation impossible. Goes back to when you blieve life starts. The "cup" thin you was talkin bout falls into the barrier method an its called a diaphram an is fitted over the cervix.

NFP (natural faimly plannin) is more effective then the pill but it does take work, an while fertile one must jes use another form of bc, ie barrier er spermicide, its not really a matter of schedulin sex er anythin is jes bein mindful of certain times, but there are some great advantages to it, you don't risk rtifical abortions, you don't screw up a gals hormones an it doesn't cost anythin, there are all kinds of calenders you can git to track a gals cycle an what not.

 

[david123]

combination of pull out and NFP for us. So far so good. I hate pulling out, but it makes the times I don't have to, that much better Best of luck to you.

 

[lilangel04_86]

I went to Wal-Mart and bought a type of spermicide gel. It worked till we stopped using it. By the way it kind of acts like a lubricant, which can be good.

 

[HappyHousewife]

I am on the pill, Ortho TriCyclen Lo. It is very, very good and highly effective.

You should talk to your doctor about what works best for you considering your weight, body chemistry, and comittment.

 

[KristyAnne]

Have one child, and by the time they give you an opportunity to have sex again, you'll be ready for another I swear, Isabel has a sixth-sense of when we're going to be intimate. I don't know how we even got pregnant with this one, it really is a miracle.

We haven't used any birth control for a few years now. We want hordes of children, and know that God will give us more children as he feels we are ready for them.

I agree with this post. Weight gain is a myth about birth control. It might make you hormonal and driven to eat more with less physical activity thereby causing weight gain, but it does not directly cause it.

I don't think it's a myth. I went on the pill purely to control my period, and was a virgin the whole time I was on it. I assume when you say "driven to eat more with less physical exercise", you're talking about lack of sex-drive causing less sex (physical activity). Or did I misinterpret? Anyway, obviously this wasn't the case for me. I eventually went off the pill as it was no longer regulating my period, I was having it for weeks at a time. Within about two months of going off it, I lost 10kg (22-ish pounds, I think). With no change in diet or exercise. But that was me, it probably affects everybody differently. I would never go on it again for birth control, the serious side-effects worry me, I just see it as an unnecessary risk.

Well, but still there is a lot of options that has been left out. Spiral, and (whats that thing called which goes inside the woman, like a cup or something together with sperm killing cream).

Diaphragm? (sp?) Are they used much these days?

To whoever mentioned the morning after pill, well I agree with all the negative feedback on it, plus I'd like to add that it causes vomiting in many women. I tried this once, and NEVER AGAIN!!! I was sick for the whole day and night, that wasn't romantic in the least.

Kristy

 

[Diane_Windsor]

Ok so I´m engaged to be married in 2006 and one of the big issues we are talking through is contraception. It would be great to get some advice from people who have used or are using the different types of contraception.

What is the best form of contraception and why?

If you could give the pros and cons that would be great, especially for condoms, NFP, the pill and the patch.

For NFP the Couple to Couple League is an excellent resource.

Congrats on your upcoming marriage.

DIANE

 

[newyorknewyork]

condoms work well
they only seem to break in the beginning when you're fumbling around not knowing how to put them on properly!

 

[newyorknewyork]

my mother had a still born baby and she says its coz she had that metal thing inside her uterus as a form of contraception ...(is it called IUV or IVF?) ... i don't know the name of it.. cant remember sorry!

 

[newyorknewyork]

I was on the Implanon (hormonal implant in the arm - its quite new).... and I recently got it out as I was worried it wasn't healthy for my body..all those hormones and stuff ... can't be good I think.

 

[invisiblebabe]

I'm curious why you want to know? LOL But when he's home it's pretty much every day. For the last 2 months though he has been away for 2-3 weeks out of the month.

Wanted to know because I was curious how effective the "pray only" method was