What is the best form of contraception?

[Ilovemyhusband]

And gasoline-powered vehicles are what they use to get from place to place, so I'm going to sell my car and buy a horse.

Sheesh.

I agree! It is like saying "Mini skirts lead to teenage girls getting pregnant, so I am going to ban all mini skirts." I hate generalized, causal statements.

 

[Addicted2~Jesus]

He jes cleared it up an ya'll are still gonna bean the guy over the head?? I completely understood what he was sayin an cain't for the life of me see why ya'll are goin at em like this... geezzz talkin bout grow up a bit!

He regarded these barrier methods etc as a way to cheapin sex an I think he's right in the way he described em, for me it's the same thin, like he said bout the pull out method. We tried that an it's a disaster to put it midly, it always felt like the both of us were missin sumthin er haven't finished yet. The same thin applies for us in barrier methods. Not sure what's so hard to understand what he meant.... ya'll can all take your sarcastic comments outside so far as I'm concerened, they don't help to further this thread in my mind.

 

[LynnMcG]

wow, mind boggling .
I am getting married next July, and am looking at some contraceptive methods too. I was originally decided on using the patch, but it seemed that the health risks involved are high. (3 times the risk for blood clots)

I am very forgetful and a scatterbrain, so pills and nfp probably won't work well for me.

I would like to ask about IUDs, or the Nuvra ring.. has anyone used them before?

I think, but I'm not positive, that the ring has the same side effects as the patch. I have a friend who got an IUD after her third child and loves it. She said she has absolutely no side affects, doesn't notice it's there, and when she decides to get pregnant again she just goes to the doctor to have it removed during a regular exam.

 

[erin74]

I was on the pill for a while, but it really messed with me - I don't think I've ever been the same both physically and emotionally. It turns out that I am rather sensitive to hormonal changes - pregnancy was a bit of a nightmare too, but not as much as post pregnancy.

So we use condoms. I can understand that some might find them a pain and stuff, but we don't have a problem.

Like another poster said, if I could go back and change my mind about the pill I most definitely would.

 

[Singin4Him]

I was on the pill for a while, but it really messed with me - I don't think I've ever been the same both physically and emotionally. It turns out that I am rather sensitive to hormonal changes - pregnancy was a bit of a nightmare too, but not as much as post pregnancy.

So we use condoms. I can understand that some might find them a pain and stuff, but we don't have a problem.

Like another poster said, if I could go back and change my mind about the pill I most definitely would.

I agree with this post! I wouldn't say that I haven't been the same, I am fine now that I'm off of the pill but it certainly did mess with me when I was on it. I just don't think it's the best idea to mess with your hormones like that. We don't have a problem with condoms either, just use a little lubrication and there should be no pain.

I would never want anyone to go through what I did, I will never advise a women to get on any form of hormonal BC, it's just not worth it at all.

 

[shinbits]

What is the best form of contraception and why?

Having kids. 'cuz you won't want them anymore after you have one.

 

[Leanna]

I know a significant number of people who have used the pill and had no problems..... so maybe the chance is 50-50 but the people who have used the pill and had no problems are scared to open threads on this subject because we usually get nailed to the wall on how we are evil for using it.

Actually the REAL percentage number is a lot lower than 50-50 let me look at my packet and see what it says

 

[Leanna]

Oh, well, I threw it out, doh.

 

[christalee4]

that is totally not what i said
way to completely ignore the point i tried to make

which was

i think condoms cheapen the married sexual experience
the release of sperm is a vital part of it for me


i cant believe some people can twist words around that bad


shhheeeeeeesh

Actually, it's what you did say, verbatim. But that's okay. Wearing condoms doesn't detract from the experience that a man releases sperm. He is still doing it - it's just that there is a barrier between him and the egg. Condoms and other barriers have been used for thousands of years by humans.

Here is a brief history: http://www.craigsweb.com/condom2.htm

The married sexual experience is all in one's heart and head.

Would a man who is paralyzed from the waist down not be able to experience the "standard" married sexual experience? Would other forms of intimacy cheapen it? Of course not. Opening one's heart and mind to all kinds of intimacy other that the release of the sperm is part of the experience, no?

 

[gracefaith]

I know a significant number of people who have used the pill and had no problems..... so maybe the chance is 50-50 but the people who have used the pill and had no problems are scared to open threads on this subject because we usually get nailed to the wall on how we are evil for using it.

Hey - I admitted that I had no ill effects from it.

I only worry that women just 'go on the Pill' and don't give it much more thought than that. I mean, I did. I figured that's just what you did. You go on the Pill. Thousands of women are on it just for regularity and acne treatment. Doctors prescribe it as a sort of catch-all treatment for female complaints. Many men just expect that the woman in their life is already on it. It's become this sort of insignificant daily feminine practice - like shaving your armpits. Is it really such a small deal? I just don't think individual couples should make such a significant choice based solely on our culture's blanket endorsement of it.

 

[PastorofMuppets]

the problem with forums is that people cant just accept your position on anything
they have to tell you that you are wrong.


i think what i think and thats not going to change

 

[Oblivious]

the problem with forums is that people cant just accept your position on anything
they have to tell you that you are wrong.

Welcome to the internet! That's the case on every forum I'm a member of.

People have opinions, they like to voice them, that's life...

 

[PastorofMuppets]

Welcome to the internet! That's the case on every forum I'm a member of.

People have opinions, they like to voice them, that's life...

Been around the internet for quite some time now
i never fail to find people that are quite simply ignorant
just my opinion though

 

[MoodyBlue]

My wife took the pill the first couple of years we were married. We later switched to condoms, due to her concern over long-tem use of the pill. When we were finished with "growing our family", I had a vasectomy, which has certainly removed the stress and worry of all of those temporary methods of birth control. There is no one way or right way to do this - you just need to find what you are most comfortable with as a couple.

 

[FaithAlone]

I have a friend who got an IUD after her third child and loves it. She said she has absolutely no side affects, doesn't notice it's there, and when she decides to get pregnant again she just goes to the doctor to have it removed during a regular exam.

Before you go on an IUD you need to do an internet search on how the IUD works. If you believe that life begins when the sperm joins with the egg then this might not be a good method for you unless you mix it with a barrier method.

Pastor of muppets: I think you have somewhat of a point about condoms putting an emotional barrier between people. I don't think that has to be the case though. You also have to admit that you compared people who use condomns to people who are promiscuous and are trying to prevent disease. I think some people were just upset that you compared something like that. They were trying to make the point that just because the world uses something for evil, that doesn't make that object evil. It's all in the way you use it and your conscience before God.

 

[Fantine]

This really isn't newlywed advice, but when you decide your family is complete there is no better contraceptive than a vasectomy for the man or a tubal ligation for the woman.

This is even truer if there are serious reasons why it would be inadvisable to have more children--maternal health problems, hereditary diseases in the family, serious financial problems, etc.

It gives you a focus and a direction for your future, and it makes you appreciate the children you do have more.

 

[KinderBee]

You should do your research and ask your doctor because everyone is not the same. I have decided to use birth control pills, they are the easiest form for me and I have no ethical dilema on the subject. I have also considered using soley condoms since I can be forgetful. I am strongly agaisnt Sterilization and that will never be an option for me.

 

[Addicted2~Jesus]

and condoms to expensive for healthy and very active adults like me and my wife. plus, I dont think that making love with a condom is respectful. Condoms are also what drug addicts and people engaging in fornication/adultery use to protect from disease. There are much better ways to prevent pregnancy.

bold an italics mine.

Pastor of muppets: I think you have somewhat of a point about condoms putting an emotional barrier between people. I don't think that has to be the case though. You also have to admit that you compared people who use condomns to people who are promiscuous and are trying to prevent disease. I think some people were just upset that you compared something like that. They were trying to make the point that just because the world uses something for evil, that doesn't make that object evil. It's all in the way you use it and your conscience before God.

This is what annoyed me by folks harpin on this feller, an le'me say I don't know the man from adam but think it's pretty childish for folks to have gone on the way they have. I bolded an italic'd some stuff he wrote an haven't figured out yet why folks took it the wrong way, note the words he used, he said HE didn't find it respectful, he also said condoms are ALSO what such an such use an that was enough (at least to me) to have em been turned off from the idea of usin em. I'm not sure that he stood on the premise that anyone who used such a thin was such an such. I personnaly think folks oughta jes let it go an there wasn't a need to for folks to jump on the sarcasm wagon..... we as Christians aren't sposed to be tearin each other down but rather buildin each other up.

I personnaly disagree wit the use of IUD's an find them to be even worse then jes pills, from what we've researched, the pills have a "chance" of causin an abortion, an IUD is gonna make sure to abort. I personnaly believe that life starts at conception, folks could debate me on that I'm sure but in another thread. An if one believes that life begins at conception and an object is there to insure that that life can not implant then it's merely abortion IMO.

To throw a real kink in thins, I haven't ever really figured out where I stood on this, but a few years ago I heard a feller talkin bout it basiclly bein abortion if one used anythin at all to prevent joinin of sperm an egg. In some ways I understood what the feller was talkin bout in others I hadn't a clue what he was goin on bout. But I can understand it as well, if the use of a condom stopped the joinin of sperm an egg when it normally would have occured, is that not abortion? Beats me.... goin havta let the theologians figure that one out. BC is one of em thins I've been wrestlin wit alot lately... I've wondered wether this is one of those thins God has given us to choose er if it's sumthin we're screwin up. Sorry not tryin to derail the topic at all er anythin, but do make sure (to the OP) that you don't rely on a bunch of folks opinions but rather research the material from a unbiased stand point an search God's heart as well an see what He wants for ya'll.

 

[Leanna]

Hey - I admitted that I had no ill effects from it.

I only worry that women just 'go on the Pill' and don't give it much more thought than that. I mean, I did. I figured that's just what you did. You go on the Pill. Thousands of women are on it just for regularity and acne treatment. Doctors prescribe it as a sort of catch-all treatment for female complaints. Many men just expect that the woman in their life is already on it. It's become this sort of insignificant daily feminine practice - like shaving your armpits. Is it really such a small deal? I just don't think individual couples should make such a significant choice based solely on our culture's blanket endorsement of it.

I missed that because I scanned the posts, long thread you know

 

[Chosen One]

I used to do some work at the church with some young couples. Some of them weren't too educated in this area-- so be sure to ask lots of questions.....

One girl I worked with heard in a class that breast feeding was a good natural contraceptive (http://www.managingcontraception.com/choices/ch-brstfd.html). Unforunately, she didn't realize that she needed a baby first- he husband going to town on her chest didn't qualify.

Another couple tried birth control pills, and the woman because ill because of them. Rather that stop with the pills altogether, the husband took them instead. He was quite confused about the changes to his body- thought they were due to being married all of the sudden.

There are no stupid questions.