Sorry if this moves around a bit.. I am only doing what I can as a human, with my limited knowledge.. I am not God.. nor do I speak for God, I only speak for myself, and try to explain God as best as I currently understand things. Hence, my words are not biblical, they are just the words of a man.
As for my two examples: this is how I reason things out. If you have a general principle... it may sound good on paper, and you may be able to cite an example where it works, but unless you can consistently apply it to different instances or situations, what good is it? For me, there's something wrong if these kinds of follow-up questions can't be answered...
Then at this point, I need to explain why they are of no value, that can be respected.
(a) When John says "Because she's good in the sack," I can tell he's kidding (assume he has an odd sense of humor) so I play along and say, "Yeah baby, thank you for saying that." To my friend the situation plays out the exact same way, but John and I wink at each other because we just shared an inside joke. Is this a case of Shame?
This is you confusing the Honor/Shame concept from the view of the third member of the conversation, as such, they are not relevant to this situation.
However, even if this was the case, lets work with this, and the friend took John as serious, and then told your other friends that John was only with you because you were good in the sack, (He's not lying, he is telling what he knows, and you even validated the truth of the statement) as this message passes though your friends, they all believe that the only reason why John is with you, is for you skills at sex, so.. that might equally cause you to be embarrassed, because now all your friends think you are a "easy" and "Good at it".... which we both know can lead to all types of.... slander.. that if this was not the case.. you would have to correct. The slander on you.. would be shameful.. at this point you would either ask John to correct the problem, or tell John that he is to not do that in the future.. but still, you would be a looked upon as a harlot.
(b) John and I are very close, and while we may be wildly attracted to each other and greatly enjoy our time in the sack, that is only one dimension of our relationship -- we love and support one another and want to spend the rest of our lives together. Is this a case of Shame? (And how would someone outside our relationship go about deciding that?)
That has no bearing on Honor/Shame, as every married couple should enjoy their time in the sack, that is even a biblical directive that a married couple should not only have sex, but lots of it, and enjoy it as much as possible.
Equally so, people "Outside" the relationship, have no point in this discussion, unless it comes to how people that are around you, view you. Are you a decent woman, or just a floozy that will sack anyone.

Ha ha, good observation. But perhaps I should have been a bit clearer on this -- if the roles were reversed in that John truly cared about me and loved for who I am, and I meanwhile treat him as though he's nothing more to me than a sex toy, I honestly don't think he would appreciate it. (Unless you're implying that men are incapable of emotion, the general point is valid.)
Men view things different then woman.
Please stop and think about this for a moment: it makes no more sense than saying that people in other cultures who believe that killing is wrong must believe so because of the influence of the bible. Nothing I've said in any of my posts has been grounded in anything but rationality.
I really wish I could believe that, but see, rationality dictates that your every opinion is influenced, by media, culture, your parents, surrounding religion, government, your friends, your lovers, etc.
It would be viewed as "Reason derived from influence"
Now, as for Murder, in many cultures, and even in our own.. Murder is case of view. IE: We do not call a military solder a murdered, however, the people that he is fighting to defend our freedoms... do.
Now, if you lived in say... the 1600's in Europe, the punishment for stealing was death. Sounds harsh huh?
Plato taught that stealing and lying were fine and good things to do.
So, we see, the Morals of Christ, and the Jewish Religion, are universally morals that we have come as a world nation, to appreciate and wonder how we survived with out such guidance.
Just because, one group found that "Bing Killed was no Fun" does not mean that this established morals, it only means that they did not want to be killed, however, that did not mean, that given the chance, they would not kill others.
For example, Native American Indians had many tribal blood feuds, and would kill each other on sight.
South American Cultures, would not only kill others they would eat them as a sign of dominance over them.
Hold on a second -- I fear that I'm having words put into my mouth with this. I don't believe fulfillment / love / respect are linked to a particular sexual orientation any more than they're linked to a particular eye color. I do, however, believe that they can be present in individual human relationships and experiences, regardless of the gender of those involved.
Good, now you might be ready to come to terms with "Sexually Moral" and "Sexually immoral" as per the Christian Faith, many people think that it is a "Heterosexual-Homosexual" face off, when in truth, nothing could be farther from the reality of it. It has to do with Sexual Morality, not orientation.
We seem to be straying pretty far away from the original subject.
Not really, is there is a need to discuss foundation, before we can just jump ahead, just as you would not want to discuss quantum physics, unless you grasped the concepts of math first.
The Genesis 2:17 verse above raises a question that has bothered me for some time. This verse indicates God is saying that eating from the tree of knowledge will cause them to die. Yet, they eat from this tree and stay alive. I double-checked the Hebrew for "die" and confirmed it is dealing with a physical death, not a spiritual death. So, the question is did God tell a "fib" since they stayed alive after eating from the tree? If not, what is the explanation for them staying alive after eating the fruit? From a literalist interpretation, it seems they should have died immediately after eating the fruit.
I remain that curious,
OldChurchGuy
Hopefully I can give you an answer to this.
Allow me to provide for you an example.
When I went to Canada, I bought a pack of "Reds" and right on the cover of this cigarette pack, in big bold letters was a warning
"Smoking will kill you"
Now, we both know that\ no one dies on the first puff. Did that make the warning invalid, or a lie? No. This will kill you... it just takes some time.
As opposed to say drinking bleach, which the warning is
"Danger! Harmful or fatal if swallowed"
In this case, God did not say "I will strike you dead" he said "You will die from this" the waring seems to be along the same lines as the smoking warning, then say the bleach warning.
I hope to further expound on that more later as time goes on.
God Bless
Key