What is he thinking? So confused

[TJMan2050]

I agree, from a guys perspective, especially if physical contact in any form related is unusual, I'd say he's developed feelings, no other explanation really makes sense, but you should find out in whatever way you are most comfortable with, and also maybe should know how you would respond if he is into you, ie whether you would date or whatnot.

 

[KristiXP]

I agree, from a guys perspective, especially if physical contact in any form related is unusual, I'd say he's developed feelings, no other explanation really makes sense, but you should find out in whatever way you are most comfortable with, and also maybe should know how you would respond if he is into you, ie whether you would date or whatnot.

Yea, I've been thinking about how I'm going to ask and have prepared myself for whichever answer he gives me. If he dosn't have feelings and it was just a friendly kiss then that's totally fine with me. He's my best friend, I'm not going to let anything down our relationship. If he does, then I'll want to talk about it with him and see where we both stand on how things would work between us, if we think that it would complicate things too much or what have you.

The one thing we gotta do is just talk and have communication. We've always been able to talk about everything, so I don't really think we'll have a hard time with this one. A while ago I thought, of all people Chris would be the hardest one to talk about Christ and faith with, but in all honesty, he brought up the subject and we talked about where we both stand in our faith for like an hour and it was the best. Our beliefs are actually alike in many ways, which is really awesome.

I guess you have to really be Chris and myself to really understand how our friendship works. We're good together as friends, we look out for one another, he's stood up for me against scummy guys more times than I can count. He's the most awesome person I have ever met. We can get into a good conversation and go so deep with it and just talk about it for hours.

I guess maybe I'm feeling hopeful and willing. If he does have feelings, I'm willing to try things out, maybe we can come up with something that'll make it easier to be friends if things don't work out, you know? I'm hopeful, that whatever he feels we can both just take it and find a way to keep what we have.

Sorry, I guess I'm rambling now, but....I don't know. I'll stop now.

Thanks to everyone who has responded. I'll keep you all informed on how things go when they go down. Thanks again! 's

Kristi

 

[KristiXP]

Sorry, it's been a couple of weeks. Chris and I had a really good discussion about everything the other night. He said that since we've been hanging out so much over the past few months, he's really gotten to see me for the awesome girl that I am (awwww) and had started to like me for more than a friend, but really didn't want to tell me for fear of losing our friendship. I told him about how once in a while I start to have feelings for him, then I think about how good our friendship is the way it is and they go away.

Plus, we both have deep feelings for someone else in our lives. Ben truly has my heart, he's had it ever since I met him. Chris is still in love with his baby's mother, and she's a sweet heart so I think that's awesome.

We've decided that it would really mess our friendship up if we started seeing eachother and that our feelings for eachother aren't as deep as they are for the "other one" in our lives. We both feel better for getting everything out in the open and I think our friendship has gained something from this. We're closer in a more emotional way.

Is this making any sense? I feel like my head is one big puzzle and this just isn't coming out right.

Lol, if it's not making any sense, here's the jiist of my post: Chris and I discussed our feelings, decided that we're better off friends and have both decided to persue relationships with someone else in our lives.

I feel good about this. Chris is such an awesome friend and I'm so glad I have him in my life! I can't belive I worried so much about this whole thing!

 

[Ceris]

Thanks for the update Kristi! We were wondering how things are going.

 

[MetalBlade]

Thanks for the update Kristi! We were wondering how things are going.

ditto! Hopes everything works out for you in the end!

 

[latteda]

I haven't read all the replies, so probably someone has said this before, but what I would suggest is...ASK HIM. I mean, honestly, if he kissed you on the lips, you have the right to know.

There was one time when I sat down with a guy friend of mine and basically made him explain some of his actions toward me. I told him, "I'm not going to let you treat me this way without you telling me what you mean by it." We girls need to do a better job of making sure the guys are conscious of the way our hearts work. We should encourage them to treat us with respect and sometimes that means forcing them to be men and tell us what they're doing.

 

[Inperfected]

Just be careful hun, guys can still hurt you when you have sumone else... and you can still hurt guys.. so be careful, you're worth itr.

 

[StephanieD]

Thanks for the update. Take care.

 

[SOLDOUT4HIM]

I voted other...it does seem kinda suspicious from how you describe it. Be front with him about it. Sit him down like you said, and be polite. Dont say "Hey, what was that kiss." We guys can be kinda wierd around you girls. Be careful. Say something like: "Do you want our relationship to be more than just friendly?"

 

[SOLDOUT4HIM]

Good luck.