What is he thinking? So confused

[KristiXP]

So, I've described my relationship with my best guy friend Chris. If you've never seen what I've had to say, here's the shorter verson: We went out in JR High for like 3 months, we've since graduated HS and have been friends since senior year. This year our friendship got so much stronger and we began to hang out almost every weekend hitting different houses/parties and such and really got to know eachother an a personal baisis. Now, Chris and I have this mutual agreement that if we had ever dated again that our friendship would get complicated and it would be hard to be around eachother.

Recently we hadn't seen eachother for about a month until New Years Eve, I called him up and asked if he wanted to hang out and go find a party and we did. I dropped him off Saturday morning around 4 a.m. he said "Happy new years, thanks for haning out with me tonight" and kissed me on the lips. It wasn't a long kiss, but it wasn't quick either. After he got out of the car I sat there for a minute and was like..."WHAT WAS THAT?" Oh my good gracious, what was that boy thinking! Now what? What did that kiss mean?

Another thing you gotta know before you decide on the poll, he wasn't drunk or on any drugs, and Chris and I NEVER hug eachother hello or goodbye, so a kiss from him is like...WOAH. I asked a couple of guy friends to get a guys opinion and they both think he's developing or has developed feelings for me. Which, I think deep down I'm okay with because I've had a crush on Chris off and on, but just never said anything except for one time.

So, what do you think? Has he developed feelings over time or did he just miss me over the past month and it was just a friendly kiss? Just...for him to go from never hugging me to kissing me goodbye is not like him at all. I've been trippin over myself all weekend trying to figure him out. Should I ask him what it was or should I just see what happens over time?

Your opinions and ideas are totally welcome and thanks for replying!

~Kristi

 

[newlite]

i think he likes you.....

[and you hot]heeheehee


opps am i to young to be here...?

 

[KristiXP]

i think he likes you.....

[and you hot]heeheehee


opps am i to young to be here...?

Thanks, and yes I think so.

 

[skysthelimit]

It would seem that he indeed has developed feelings for you. I think it's because you two haven't seen each other in a month, and maybe he missed you a lot? I was in a similar situation a long time ago, and I know that's how I felt when I hadn't seen my girlfriend in a while. Of course this is just what I think, I have no idea what it could really mean, but that's my best guess.

 

[boilerblues]

Best guess on the info I'd say yes, if not then he's got some problems in his boundaries with female friends.

 

[StephanieD]

Should I ask him what it was or should I just see what happens over time?

That's a very good question. I suppose it all depends on how well you feel comfortable with asking him where the relationship is going. It may be safe to wait and see what happens once you hang out again and how physical he is then. If it did happen again, I'd definitely want to know where he thought the relationship was going. You want to be on the same page and don't want to be a friend with benefits.

 

[MetalBlade]

Hmmmmmm. Ok, before I start, what happened to that one guy you were with? I thought you guys were serious? Or is that the same guy...

Anyways. It could be any of those answers and above. Guys are very complicated. We won't come out and say we like you. I could make my decision, if I knew more about this guy, maybe you could give some details: what does he look like, music he listens to, the works.

From not knowing anything about him, I am guessing he is like most of us guys, and that is he kissed you because he has developed feelings for you. But then again he could have done it because you always kiss some one on NYE, and you were there. Hard to tell really.

 

[sweetlambofgod]

I think he has developed feelings for you, since you said it was out of the ordinary for him to do that. Talk to him about it

 

[fishstix]

A kiss on the lips... unless he comes from a culture where that's a standard form of greeting/saying goodbye, he either has feelings for you or wasn't thinking about what he was doing. The best way to find out is to ask him - he's the only one who knows for sure. Anyone else would just be speculating.

 

[Blank123]

it sounds to me that he has developed feelings for you, but like the others said, its best to talk to him about it rather than sit around and wondering whats going on.

 

[Inperfected]

I'd say yeah, he likes ya, but also be careful! Gotta watch ya heart from ya best friends even.

 

[Vicekill]

Why don't you just straight out ask him, instead of leaving it up to speculation?

Maybe that's odd of me to suggest, but I've never really understood the point of getting worried over what may or may not be when it could be solved by simple communication.

 

[Peter_in_Christ]

Best to clarify the situation by asking him, pray about it first for the Lords guidance, and continue your focus on serving the Lord. I can understand this being a huge distraction... with questions buzzing around your hear... once you've clarified the situation you can move on with peace...

Peter

 

[Ceris]

(I'll try to keep this short).

I think . . .

you should ask him.

 

[KristiXP]

Hmmmmmm. Ok, before I start, what happened to that one guy you were with? I thought you guys were serious? Or is that the same guy...

Who, Ben? Ben left to go work down in Florida for a few months so we decided that starting something would be completly stupid.

Anyways. It could be any of those answers and above. Guys are very complicated. We won't come out and say we like you. I could make my decision, if I knew more about this guy, maybe you could give some details: what does he look like, music he listens to, the works.

From not knowing anything about him, I am guessing he is like most of us guys, and that is he kissed you because he has developed feelings for you. But then again he could have done it because you always kiss some one on NYE, and you were there. Hard to tell really.

Thing is, I dropped him off at 4 a.m., if he were to kiss me on new years eve wouldn't he have done it at 12 a.m.? I don't know....this just isn't like my Chris. Thanks for your opinion

 

[KristiXP]

That's a very good question. I suppose it all depends on how well you feel comfortable with asking him where the relationship is going. It may be safe to wait and see what happens once you hang out again and how physical he is then. If it did happen again, I'd definitely want to know where he thought the relationship was going. You want to be on the same page and don't want to be a friend with benefits.

Oo, I'd never go so far as to friends with benefits...noooooo. I guess why it's so hard for me to just pick up the phone and call him is because.....it's Chris. I know, I'm so complicated...it's just, we've always talked about how we wouldn't have the friendship we have today if we had ever gotten together again, and that if we ended up with feelings for eachother then things would be weird and it would be hard to spend time together.

Thank you to you all for responding. I think what I'm going to do is wait until Friday (I know we'll end up doing something together), trap him in my car (not really, just get him in a place where I can see his face) and ask him something along the lines of "remember on new years morning when I dropped you off and you kissed me....what was that?" I want to be able to see his face and his expressions. How he reacts will definatly be a big clue.

Feel free to keep adding advice, for any of you who know me, I'll need all I can get! Lol.

 

[KristiXP]

I seem to be having issues...

 

[MetalBlade]

I understand what you are saying now. 4am!!! Geeze I went to bed at 1! lol

Anyways. He probably has feelings for you, and know he is playing games. If I were you I would ask him what that kiss meant. If he says because we are friends, then that just might be. Or he could be lieing which is what us guys do (aka playing hard to get). I think you should talk to him, just to find out what the kiss meant. Then you can advance from there, and if not, at least you know what it meant. Get it off your mind.

 

[Dzhessika]

I'd have to say I agree with every one here that he is starting to develop feelings beyond friendship but the only way to really know is to ask him what it meant if nothing more you'll still be best friends

 

[halifaxhoney]

He sounds like he could be interested. I'd definately talk about it with him if I were you.

Crystal