What is God trying to show me?

[Evan Wright]

First of all, I'm very sorry if I keep making posts on this subreddit. I can assure this will be my last post here for some time, I'm just new to the whole "boy/girl" thing, since I'm very introverted, and keep to myself a lot. This is the reason why, I come here for to get advice from other Christians. Let's begin

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There is this girl, who I have been talking to for some time. Right now, we are just friends, but I have told her how I felt about her and while she has not directly came out and said "I like you back" she's made it pretty obvious that she does. Due to me being an introvert, and keeping to myself most of the time, I'm like a Lone Wolf in a way and I have a very small social circle, but even then I often do most things by myself. It's just part of my personality. When I first met this girl, it was on a youth trip we were both on. I thought she was cute back then, but I didn't really think much of her either. I was more so just like "wow, shes cute", and we went our separate ways. One of our friends that we both knew introduced us to each other, and we hit it off pretty well during the trip (It was an entire weekend) and we both just made each other laugh.

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After the trip was over, I really just went home but I that girl was still on my mind. I don't know why, but she was still a "back burner" thought, and I could never figure out why she was always lingering back there. So I decided to add her on Instagram, and we began talking there, and eventually I got her number and we started texting most days out of the week. I think this is where my feelings for her began to develop because eventually every time we ran into each other, I would always get extremely nervous and bubbly inside. I did decide to tell her after a while, she she said she thought I was very pretty, and I don't remember what she said after that sadly.

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I mainly talk with her over text now; I do try to talk in person but it's very hard to with nervousness everywhere. I've told her this, and she says things like "It's ok, I won't judge", and "You have nothing to be nervous about" but it's hard not to when you like someone. I do make efforts to call her occasionally which she seems to enjoy, but it takes lots of courage, and confidence for me to do that. She has even told her mom, and now she often makes jokes about us being "Future Husband & Wife" and I'm pretty sure it's because she likes the fact that we are both Christians so I don't have to explain all of my beliefs to her and all that which makes things much easier.

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Still, I always find myself thinking about her, and hoping that she is ok, and doing well. I don't know why I think about her so much. I still do look at other girls from time to time, but when they all talk about things I know I shouldn't be doing as a Christian it's hard to imagine myself in a relationship with them. I often pray to myself, asking God if he is trying to show me that she is the one for me, or why God has allowed her to come into my life, but I don't know what his answer is. Is anyone in/had a similar situation to this, that can give me advice.

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Sorry for the long post, but as I stated, this will be my last post for a while.

 

[aiki]

Hello, Evan.

No need to apologize for the long post. Some have posted much longer ones.

So, you've taken a shine to a young lady. Great! Is she the "one" God has for you? Well, I don't think there is only one woman out there just for you. Have you thought about what happens if a person marries someone other than the "one" God supposedly intended for that person? There ends up being a huge cascade of people marrying the wrong person! Joe was supposed to marry Sally, but instead he marries Rachel so both Sally and Rachel end up married to the wrong person. And the person Sally is married to has married the wrong person as has the person Rachel was supposed to marry. And so it goes in an ever expanding ripple of people marrying the wrong person! Do you really think God would make it so that so many people end up with the "wrong" person because of the mistake of just one person (well, actually, two people) in the choice of their spouse? That seems pretty shortsighted and unnecessarily damaging to a lot of people.

I think, instead, God intends that you should take the wisdom, spiritual principles, and truth in His word, the Bible, and apply them carefully to the choice you make of a wife. Above all, the "right" woman is one who loves Jesus and wants to live her life in service to him. Jesus is supposed to be the center-point of every marriage; he is the anchor, the foundation, of every marriage. Find a woman, then, who will be married to you who is grounded deeply in Jesus. Of course, such a woman will be looking for a man who is grounded in Jesus, too. Are you such a man? If not, you aren't really ready for any serious relationship with a woman.

You seem a little superstitious about romance. If you like the girl, get to know her. It may turn out that you have a lot of sympatico, which is very important for a serious romantic relationship. But thinking that God is going to give you a series of mysterious hints as to who you should be with is not biblical. God is not the Author of confusion, the Bible says. And when I look into Scripture, I see a God who makes His will very plain to people. He didn't give Moses a series of vague, confusing hints about freeing the Israelites from Egypt, did he? Nope. God was very obvious about what He wanted Gideon to do, too. God even used a giant hand to write His judgment upon a wall so no one would be confused about what He was going to do. With a brilliant light from heaven, God knocked Paul to the ground, and blinded him, and spoke to him. Again, no mysterious "signs" making Paul uncertain and doubtful. God made it perfectly clear to Paul what He wanted. You can be sure God will deal with all of His children - including you - with plainness and clarity, as well. He's not interested in confusing you.

 

[Brian Mcnamee]

First of all, I'm very sorry if I keep making posts on this subreddit. I can assure this will be my last post here for some time, I'm just new to the whole "boy/girl" thing, since I'm very introverted, and keep to myself a lot. This is the reason why, I come here for to get advice from other Christians. Let's begin

​

There is this girl, who I have been talking to for some time. Right now, we are just friends, but I have told her how I felt about her and while she has not directly came out and said "I like you back" she's made it pretty obvious that she does. Due to me being an introvert, and keeping to myself most of the time, I'm like a Lone Wolf in a way and I have a very small social circle, but even then I often do most things by myself. It's just part of my personality. When I first met this girl, it was on a youth trip we were both on. I thought she was cute back then, but I didn't really think much of her either. I was more so just like "wow, shes cute", and we went our separate ways. One of our friends that we both knew introduced us to each other, and we hit it off pretty well during the trip (It was an entire weekend) and we both just made each other laugh.

​

After the trip was over, I really just went home but I that girl was still on my mind. I don't know why, but she was still a "back burner" thought, and I could never figure out why she was always lingering back there. So I decided to add her on Instagram, and we began talking there, and eventually I got her number and we started texting most days out of the week. I think this is where my feelings for her began to develop because eventually every time we ran into each other, I would always get extremely nervous and bubbly inside. I did decide to tell her after a while, she she said she thought I was very pretty, and I don't remember what she said after that sadly.

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I mainly talk with her over text now; I do try to talk in person but it's very hard to with nervousness everywhere. I've told her this, and she says things like "It's ok, I won't judge", and "You have nothing to be nervous about" but it's hard not to when you like someone. I do make efforts to call her occasionally which she seems to enjoy, but it takes lots of courage, and confidence for me to do that. She has even told her mom, and now she often makes jokes about us being "Future Husband & Wife" and I'm pretty sure it's because she likes the fact that we are both Christians so I don't have to explain all of my beliefs to her and all that which makes things much easier.

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Still, I always find myself thinking about her, and hoping that she is ok, and doing well. I don't know why I think about her so much. I still do look at other girls from time to time, but when they all talk about things I know I shouldn't be doing as a Christian it's hard to imagine myself in a relationship with them. I often pray to myself, asking God if he is trying to show me that she is the one for me, or why God has allowed her to come into my life, but I don't know what his answer is. Is anyone in/had a similar situation to this, that can give me advice.

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Sorry for the long post, but as I stated, this will be my last post for a while.

HI relationships are a skill and since you are young and all a good friendship with the opposite sex is a nice place to start. Since you are both Christians it is a shame that you do not put your beliefs and ideas about God into the forefront of your friendship. in the future it will be important to be a man of God able to be a spiritual leader in your home. The natural attraction of a woman is good but it needs to be something that is line with the greater calling in your life which is to follow Jesus. If you do not share what your core beliefs are than you sort of build a foundation on superficial stuff like what movies do you like and favorite foods and other nice but shallow themes. Being an introvert can hold you back in making many friends but once you make them that barrier you need to start letting it down and share your self with those you encounter. Everything in life is a building up of experience and wisdom to grow. You are young and need to learn and develop relationship skills which will benefit both you and the friends you make. Eventually you might be a husband and father and growing in these areas will either bring blessing to you or problems down the road.