What if you fell deeply in love...

[Autumnleaf]

with someone who was not your spouse? What if you knew beyond a shadow of a doubt emotionally that this new person was who God wants you to be with because they compliment you physically, mentally and emotionally? Would you leave who you are with to be with the new beau?

 

[cherryblossom03]

I wouldn't leave my husband. I would cut off all contact with the other person and take a long hard look at my marriage to see why I started having feelings for someone else. I would do my best so that we could fix things. I know people say that you can't know what you're going to do until you're in that situation, but that is what I would do.

 

[infaile]

What's a vow worth to you?

Would your new vow to the new person have any worth, given that you'd have broken one already?

 

[ImperialPhantom]

with someone who was not your spouse? What if you knew beyond a shadow of a doubt emotionally that this new person was who God wants you to be with because they compliment you physically, mentally and emotionally? Would you leave who you are with to be with the new beau?

God wouldn't will for a man to divorce his wife for another woman, so I'd take that as temptation from the devil's troops, not God. I wouldn't leave her to be with said other woman.

 

[Hadassah]

Flee temptation........ that's all I'll say.

 

[jwwells]

Flee temptation is the short answer.

The long answer asks a great many why's which cannot be placed here, without a lot more information.

More often than not, such 'falling in love' is only lust and a temporary thing.

 

[RoseofLima]

I would know for certain that God would not want me to be with tht other person...and that I needed to really guard my heart and work like hell on my marriage.

 

[hope4today]

If you knew beyond a shadow of a doubt that God wanted you to be with the other person, as you put it, the I believe you would be decieved. As IP said, it is temptation from the devil not the will of God.

The answer to the question then is absolutely NO, I would not leave my spouse to be with anyone else.

 

[FLANDIDLYANDERS]

LOL. Ask my ex-wife, she did just that.

 

[Digit]

with someone who was not your spouse? What if you knew beyond a shadow of a doubt emotionally that this new person was who God wants you to be with because they compliment you physically, mentally and emotionally? Would you leave who you are with to be with the new beau?

Hello AutumnLeaf,

I think first up that by and large God doesn't really mind who we are with, it is out choice. If there is someone special he has in mind, then I feel that God will lead us to that person, if you are already married, then I believe that God would never do anything to break the covenant you have with Him and your wife.

In much the same way as if I thought God was telling me to murder someone, I think I would seriously question the source I feel those emotions coming from.

So no, is the answer to your question. In fact, I will go further and say that I think we would do well to remember that we are fickle beings. What holds our attention one day, will not the next and in our marriages now we have explored a great deal of known things, and possibly worked through a lot of issues with our partner and established a relationship with them, to trade that for the unknown, no matter how great it appears at first, is foolishness if we do not recall how amazing it was to be with our current partner when we first met them and shine that light on our new interest.

Cheers,
Digit

 

[SabrinaFair]

with someone who was not your spouse? What if you knew beyond a shadow of a doubt emotionally that this new person was who God wants you to be with because they compliment you physically, mentally and emotionally? Would you leave who you are with to be with the new beau?

Then I would be deceived and a fool.

The devil won't get that pleasure.

 

[MandM]

Hello AutumnLeaf,

I think first up that by and large God doesn't really mind who we are with, it is out choice. If there is someone special he has in mind, then I feel that God will lead us to that person, if you are already married, then I believe that God would never do anything to break the covenant you have with Him and your wife.

In much the same way as if I thought God was telling me to murder someone, I think I would seriously question the source I feel those emotions coming from.

So no, is the answer to your question. In fact, I will go further and say that I think we would do well to remember that we are fickle beings. What holds our attention one day, will not the next and in our marriages now we have explored a great deal of known things, and possibly worked through a lot of issues with our partner and established a relationship with them, to trade that for the unknown, no matter how great it appears at first, is foolishness if we do not recall how amazing it was to be with our current partner when we first met them and shine that light on our new interest.

Cheers,
Digit

OP you may find this helpful:

http://www.fourspirituallaws.org/laws/english/flash/

 

[Scottish Joy]

with someone who was not your spouse? What if you knew beyond a shadow of a doubt emotionally that this new person was who God wants you to be with because they compliment you physically, mentally and emotionally? Would you leave who you are with to be with the new beau?

My first thought was good luck getting me into that situation- I don't go around trying people out physically, mentally and emotionally. NO WAY would I say to trust your emotions in a situation like that. Add that to the fact that marriage is a heavy-duty commitment... No way. I know my emotions better than to trust them "beyond a shadow of a doubt."

 

[Adamantium]

First and foremost: a married person should not allow themselves to be in this situation in the first place.

When you marry, you vow to forsake all others. That means you have eyes for no one but your spouse. You are not paying enough attention to other men/women to ever give inappropriate feelings to gain a foothold. If you falter and allow those feelings to bud, then you must do whatever is necessary to squelch them firmly.

Matthew 5:27 & 28
27"You have heard that it was said, 'Do not commit adultery.'28 But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart.

I think that's pretty clear.

 

[MN John]

with someone who was not your spouse? What if you knew beyond a shadow of a doubt emotionally that this new person was who God wants you to be with because they compliment you physically, mentally and emotionally? Would you leave who you are with to be with the new beau?

This part ...

someone who was not your spouse

contradicts this part...

who God wants you to be with

 

[bluebug83]

Absolutely not. First and foremost God would not approve, and I couldn't bear breaking my husband's heart like that.

Fortunately, I think I would be more immune to that than the average person, because I have a very different concept of attraction than most. Example, I only get attracted to someone by getting to know their true personality, and if factors are in place for there to be a relationship (ie, we are both single, he is attracted to me, not a celebrity totally out of reach, etc). Something in my brain has it clear that I will not waste my time with attraction if there is something keeping a legitimate relationship from forming - myself being married would be a factor.

I also think history matters. I don't see how anyone new in my life could measure up to my husband, since I wouldn't have the 6+ year friendship/romance and all the good times, bad times, and memories that we've shared in that time.

 

[NickyM]

Your are giving the devil foothold by even entertaining these thoughts. When GOD puts someone in your path most times that person won't compliment you in the ways you mentioned above. That develops over time. You have not mentioned anything about LOVE. When GOD joins two people HIS intention is for them to stay together and not join them until someone else comes along who will compliment them better. Marriage is hard work but worth every second of it. All you need to do to make it work is to put GOD first in your marriage above all and you can't go wrong. Once you have done that you will fall in love with your husband all over again and won't even think of looking at another man.

Matthew 5:27 & 28
27"You have heard that it was said, 'Do not commit adultery.'28 But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart.

 

[Gardener101]

with someone who was not your spouse? What if you knew beyond a shadow of a doubt emotionally that this new person was who God wants you to be with because they compliment you physically, mentally and emotionally? Would you leave who you are with to be with the new beau?

Feelings of being in love are just that...feelings.

They can come and go. If you neglect a relationship, they can go.

So this other person you are now in love with, could also neglect the relationship, which would lead to your not being in love with them anymore.

So, even if you are not a Christian, it is better to stick with the one you married and try not to neglect the relationship and do things that cultivate those feelings of being in love.

True love is not an emotion or a feeling...it is a CHOICE.

Just my 2 cents.

 

[oat02351]

with someone who was not your spouse? What if you knew beyond a shadow of a doubt emotionally that this new person was who God wants you to be with because they compliment you physically, mentally and emotionally? Would you leave who you are with to be with the new beau?

it depends on wether or not you're married or involved for that matter... If you're married to someone else, I'd brake off contact with the new one you're falling for. If you are not married or involved with anyone else go nuts you have to date to find a spouse

 

[hisbloodformysins]

with someone who was not your spouse? What if you knew beyond a shadow of a doubt emotionally that this new person was who God wants you to be with because they compliment you physically, mentally and emotionally? Would you leave who you are with to be with the new beau?

Are you serious? I've been in the situation before, and the answer is no.

Even when we are unfaithful, God remains faithful, because he cannot go against his character.

HB