What if you fell deeply in love...

[brokenbananas]

My husband has done that and it's caused so much damage and destruction. The enemy comes to steal, kill and destroy. It is not within God nature to contradict Himself. He would never ask you to do something wrong for Him.

I ditto the sentiments of most of the responders.

 

[lin1235]

I am already deeply in love with someone who complements me physically, emotionally, spiritually and in every other way you can mention. But I'm already married to him, so the question is moot.

 

[Mr.Cheese]

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[InHisSpirit]

The real question here is what is going on at home that you even considered another man in any way? This is a deeper issue than just your feelings for someone else.

 

[LJSGM]

Aros love, or romantic love is a gift from God, but it is of the flesh and has no real eternal value in the end, so to go against God for the desires of the flesh is not righteous. We should think more spiritually about the matter in the end.

 

[tupelo]

I would call that LUST. God does not want a spouse to leave for another. That's a lie from the other guy. Shouldn't emotionally invest time with another. It's a no-win situation in my opinion.

 

[invisiblebabe]

LOL if I honestly thought God was telling me to be with someone else, I would tell my husband that I was having a delusional episode. Then I'd see about switching my meds.

Obviously God wouldn't tell any of us to leave our spouses.... so the real question here to me is, what would I do if I fell in love with someone else? I'd likely channel those feelings and redirect them toward my husband! Or I'd figure out that I was mistaking philia (for the other guy) for something it wasn't.

 

[poohgirl]

God would never tell us to leave our spouse for prince charming or the princess, but Satan would.
I rather listen to the lover of my soul than the destroyer of all.

 

[Mr.Cheese]

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[Mskedi]

with someone who was not your spouse? What if you knew beyond a shadow of a doubt emotionally that this new person was who God wants you to be with because they compliment you physically, mentally and emotionally? Would you leave who you are with to be with the new beau?

People have already said what I think, but I'll add to it:

1. I don't think anyone can "know" "emotionally". Those two things don't really go together.

2. If a guy I knew expressed interest in a married woman, he would not be the guy for me.

3. I know a lot of people who are great people. Many of them compliment me mentally and emotionally. They are my friends. I don't need to leave my husband to have FRIENDS. Sheesh.

4. I don't go around testing who compliments me physically, so how exactly would I know that without cheating on my husband -- something I wouldn't do? If you just mean he's the most attractive man I've ever seen and I'm near drooling in his presence, then... eh. That kind of stuff fades, and it's certainly not worth basing a relationship on. Lust may be a nice feeling and all, but I certainly wouldn't trust it.

 

[invisiblebabe]

I think that there are many people on earth who we can encounter that can touch our very souls. I think we can have many soul mates. In fact I think that this kind of close human relationship is something that God intended, but we have all but lost in our modern world, so when we find it we get it confused with attraction and romantic love when it should just be a mutual admiration and appreciation....

So true.

"To the Ancients, Friendship seemed the happiest and most fully human of all loves; the crown of life and the school of virtue. The modern world, in comparison, ignores it. We admit of course that besides a wife and family a man needs a few 'friends'. But the very tone of the admission, and the sort of acquaintanceships which those who make it would describe as 'friendships', show clearly that what they are talking about has very little to do with that Philia which Aristotle classified among the virtues or that Amicitia on which Cicero wrote a book." – CS Lewis

 

[LJSGM]

We shouldn't forget though that physical and mental attraction is very powerful, and before we judge others, never being in this situation, we must try and understand the temptation that some have to go through, especially if they are struggling in their marriage. We should then try not to be a person of judgment and ridicule, but one of support and strength through the their trials. The devil sets out to seek and destroy, and he sometimes uses other christians to do it.

 

[beehoney]

with someone who was not your spouse? What if you knew beyond a shadow of a doubt emotionally that this new person was who God wants you to be with because they compliment you physically, mentally and emotionally? Would you leave who you are with to be with the new beau?

After all the years, the effort and the tears my spouse and I spent building our relationship, I really can't see myself "falling in love" with any one just so.