in my mind...virginity is good up until marraige.Then it is ok to just be sexually pure. But this girl was not married. We are talking about both sexual purity and virginity because of that...
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What if we aren't virgins?
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One thing that a repentant sinner should do is to do everything they can to minimize the effect of their sin on others.
That means going in and getting tested for sexually transmitted diseases.
Even if you think the other person was also a virgin at the time, you can't really be sure, and there are a lot of young people with STD's.
You could, for instance, have a chlamydia infection and not even know it. That infection could make it so you can't normally conceive a child later. An estimated 3 million new infections each year in the US most without symptoms and rate are higher among 15 to 25 year old women than among older women.
You don't know who is going to be that special person to come into your life later, but you should do everything you can to protect him or her from disease and from not being able to have children because you didn't think it was necessary to be tested.
You also need to start having regular gynecological exams. Maybe your doctor doesn't ask if you've been sexually active and just goes ahead and does them anyway, but the answer is now yes and not no. Cervical cancer is now a possibility that didn't exist before you had sex.
So do what you can, get tested.
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That means going in and getting tested for sexually transmitted diseases.
Even if you think the other person was also a virgin at the time, you can't really be sure, and there are a lot of young people with STD's.
You could, for instance, have a chlamydia infection and not even know it. That infection could make it so you can't normally conceive a child later. An estimated 3 million new infections each year in the US most without symptoms and rate are higher among 15 to 25 year old women than among older women.
You don't know who is going to be that special person to come into your life later, but you should do everything you can to protect him or her from disease and from not being able to have children because you didn't think it was necessary to be tested.
You also need to start having regular gynecological exams. Maybe your doctor doesn't ask if you've been sexually active and just goes ahead and does them anyway, but the answer is now yes and not no. Cervical cancer is now a possibility that didn't exist before you had sex.
So do what you can, get tested.
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This was brought up in the Singles forum and I had never exactly heard of this before (27 years as a baptist - 3 as non-denom).
Anyway, someone had made the comment that a virgin could not marry a non-virgin, because in the eyes of God, the non-virgin is already married (citing scripture that refers to man/woman becoming "one flesh" through sexual acts and using the woman at the well analogy when Jesus tells her that she has had 5 husbands).
What is everyone's take on this?
Would you consider a non-virgin to be married man/woman? What does scripture say?
Anyway, someone had made the comment that a virgin could not marry a non-virgin, because in the eyes of God, the non-virgin is already married (citing scripture that refers to man/woman becoming "one flesh" through sexual acts and using the woman at the well analogy when Jesus tells her that she has had 5 husbands).
What is everyone's take on this?
Would you consider a non-virgin to be married man/woman? What does scripture say?
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jmikey said:
um my freind does that but she thought she was going to hell because she was told that if you do that then God wont forgive you but how do i tell her not to but tell her to stop also?
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BeautyForAshes said:This was brought up in the Singles forum and I had never exactly heard of this before (27 years as a baptist - 3 as non-denom).
Anyway, someone had made the comment that a virgin could not marry a non-virgin, because in the eyes of God, the non-virgin is already married (citing scripture that refers to man/woman becoming "one flesh" through sexual acts and using the woman at the well analogy when Jesus tells her that she has had 5 husbands).
What is everyone's take on this?
well that gets into alot of denominational stuff and circumstancial stuff too
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Don't dwell on it! If you are sorry, then God has forgave you!
I agree. If you realize that ou sinned or repentant and ask God for forgiveness then He has forgiveen you and remembers it no more.
I agree. If you realize that ou sinned or repentant and ask God for forgiveness then He has forgiveen you and remembers it no more.
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Well, Paul says this: "What? know ye not that he which is joined to an harlot is one body? for two, saith he, shall be one flesh." (I Corinthians 6:16) This sounds as if Paul is equating virtually any sexual intercourse with marriage, at least in God's eyes.BeautyForAshes said:...What is everyone's take on this?
Is it wrong in every case for a Christian virgin to marry a non-virgin? My only comment is: Remember Hosea. (See Hosea, chapters 1-3)
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The awesome thing about god is he loves us if we repent or not. However if we repent and learn our lesson. we are then presenting our bodies as living sacrifices, holy, acceptable unto God which is our reasonable service Roman 12:1. Then every trial, tribulation and shameful thing can become a wonderful testimony that will help many. Telling people of repentance and of Gods mercy. How we don't have to be ashamed forever but we can come boldly unto the throne of grace, that we may obtain mercy, and find grace to help in time of need. Hebrews 4:16. So praise God for revealing to you the beauty of holiness unto him until the he sends the one who obtains favor from him.
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humbleservant86 said:I admit that I made a horrible mistake a year ago and lost my viginity. I feel horrible about it now though (now that I know what I've really done). Has anyone else dealt with this and, if so, how?
Do not continue in your sin, just ask for forgiveness, and go on with your life.
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BeautyForAshes said:This was brought up in the Singles forum and I had never exactly heard of this before (27 years as a baptist - 3 as non-denom).
Anyway, someone had made the comment that a virgin could not marry a non-virgin, because in the eyes of God, the non-virgin is already married (citing scripture that refers to man/woman becoming "one flesh" through sexual acts and using the woman at the well analogy when Jesus tells her that she has had 5 husbands).
What is everyone's take on this?
It's not the most ridiculous thing I've ever read. Although it comes close.
To be married, there must also be the intent to be married, not just sex. There are plenty examples in the Bible where sex takes place and marriage clearly doesn't (Abraham/Hagar for one).
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