What if we aren't virgins?

[aReformedPatriot]

So how do I know if He's made me a virgin again?

I am sorry but there is no such thing. There arent exactly do-overs in life because we cannot stop an event from happening once it has happened.

Spiritually your a virgin because of the cleansing power of forgiveness, but physically we are not.

 

[humbleservant86]

ah, I get it. thanks for the clear up

 

[A Brother In Christ]

phil 3:13...forgetting those things which are behind, and reaching forth unto those things which are before

 

[blondiechick120]

What if we aren't virgins?
I admit that I made a horrible mistake a year ago and lost my viginity. I feel horrible about it now though (now that I know what I've really done). Has anyone else dealt with this and, if so, how?

ok, wanna know something really cool? I go to the church where the true love waits program was started, Tulip Grove Baptist. It's a great church. ok...this has happened to many people. What true love waits is where you talk about premarital sex and learn why it is wrong and stuff like that. And then when you make a commitment to be a virgin, you have a ceremony and get a ring. But if you aren't really a virgin, by making this commitment, you can get a ring and that commitment is to stay pure until marraige starting then. Do you understand? If you have any other questions on this topic, please pm me. My church knows pretty much all about it, since it was started here. I'm glad that you understand that what you did was wrong and repent. If you have asked God for forgiveness, you are forgiven. God doesn't hold grudges.

 

[If Not For Grace]

Has anyone else dealt with this and, if so, how?

Jesus, He said "go and sin no more" .

 

[jochanaan]

"I say unto you, that likewise joy shall be in heaven over one sinner that repenteth, more than over ninety and nine just persons, which need no repentance." (Luke 15:7) Regained chastity is even more pleasing to God than virginity. Praise His Name!

 

[RED that's ME]

Make a vow that you will remain pure from this point on until marriage. We can't change the past but we can control our future. Don't beat yourself up because of your past and don't let Satan pull you down either. Ask God to give you wisdom & peace and strength to remain pure till marriage.
We all make mistakes/sins of some sort, what is important is repenting and not repeating them again.

 

[A Brother In Christ]

Make a vow that you will remain pure from this point on until marriage. We can't change the past but we can control our future. Don't beat yourself up because of your past and don't let Satan pull you down either. Ask God to give you wisdom & peace and strength to remain pure till marriage.
We all make mistakes/sins of some sort, what is important is repenting and not repeating them again.

nothing to do about satan but the OSN in the flesh

 

[trooper]

I think that you have to allow yourself to grieve over what could have been. God forgives you, but the punishment (on an earthly level) is that you can't regain that purity. I would suggest that you allow the grief over this to provide you with a "teaching moment" for the future and to remember that God gives us boundaries so that we can be joyful!

You are not accountable to God for this, but the earthly reality might provide you the opportunity to speak to other people about the ramifications you have dealt with.

 

[JPPT1974]

Make a vow that you will remain pure from this point on until marriage. We can't change the past but we can control our future. Don't beat yourself up because of your past and don't let Satan pull you down either. Ask God to give you wisdom & peace and strength to remain pure till marriage.
We all make mistakes/sins of some sort, what is important is repenting and not repeating them again.

I am making that vow and keeping it. And hope to give my spouse the gift of virginity on my wedding night. God does forgive us of our sins and grants and gives us peace and wisdom. You are right about that.

 

[humbleservant86]

Make a vow that you will remain pure from this point on until marriage. We can't change the past but we can control our future. Don't beat yourself up because of your past and don't let Satan pull you down either. Ask God to give you wisdom & peace and strength to remain pure till marriage.
We all make mistakes/sins of some sort, what is important is repenting and not repeating them again.

Wow. Thank you.

 

[JPPT1974]

May the Lord bless you all!
And that you remain a virgin until you get married.

 

[Saucy]

Yeah, if you ask for forgiveness now, make a promise to God about purity, then you're a virgin again...according to God you are.

 

[blondiechick120]

definitely.

 

[Joykins]

Yeah, if you ask for forgiveness now, make a promise to God about purity, then you're a virgin again...according to God you are.

While I completely agree with the sentiment behind this statement, I have a real problem with the wording, because I believe it emphasizes the wrong thing.

Virginity is not a spiritual state and I find it hard to believe God cares one whit about it. It is a physical state. It's not a virtue--everyone is born with it. Retaining it is not necessarily a virtue either; there are plenty of people who have it and are looking for the opportunity to get rid of it. It can be stolen as well as given away. It is impossible to identify it accurately even through physical examination except in some percentage of women. Virginity has no spiritual significance at all in and of itself.

It's about purity (or if we're talking purely about sexual purity, the word for that is chastity and this is something you can keep even after you're married, unlike virginity which has given up any putative usefulness by that point). God can make us sinners pure again (and again and again. He must despair of us sometimes). He doesn't choose to let us go back in time and un-do our past, though, so he won't make you a virgin again. He can make you pure, and he can use your past experience to show you his love and redemption, make you stronger against temptation, and give you a little wisdom and compassion in the meantime.

 

[blondiechick120]

Virginity is not a spiritual state and I find it hard to believe God cares one whit about it.

If God didn't "give one whit about it" why does it talk about purity in the Bible? God didn't put stuff in the Bible for it to just be there...everything has a reason...God wants us to be sexually pure. If you are robbed of it, God knows that. He understands and will not be disappointed in you...That's what I think.

 

[Joykins]

If God didn't "give one whit about it" why does it talk about purity in the Bible? God didn't put stuff in the Bible for it to just be there...everything has a reason...God wants us to be sexually pure. If you are robbed of it, God knows that. He understands and will not be disappointed in you...That's what I think.

Exactly right.

God cares about purity. Why all the distraction by trying to make virginity equate with purity, or more important than purity? They are not equivalent. Virginity is by far the inferior state to purity, for the reasons I cited above, and should not be considered a substitute for it.

If someone is raped, THEY are still pure (chaste) even if they no longer have their physical virginity. Also a wife or husband may be pure (chaste) even when sexually experienced.

 

[kittystrawberry]

I search up the 'True Love Wait' and here is the link:
http://www.lifeway.com/tlw/faq/

To bad I can not buy a ring, I would love to have a ring.

I think that if you stay out of boyfriend-girlfriend relationship, you would not be pressure into doing stuff that you do not want to do. I think relationship are about getting to know the other person. It doesn't mean there have to be any hanky panky.

 

[A Brother In Christ]

if someone has sex they cannot become a virgin again....

come on people

once a person kisses they are taking on info ...what cause the other sex excitement

but if they look at one postion in Christ...one can act properly toward a relationship with the oppisate sex

 

[MobileFirstBaptist]

I hope you're prepared for final judgment.