It says in the Bible u are not to be unequally yoked with unbelievers. But what if u do end up falling in love with one? What are u supposed to do about it? Wait it out and see if they change or just let it go or what...
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ChrissyLovesJesus said:It says in the Bible u are not to be unequally yoked with unbelievers. But what if u do end up falling in love with one? What are u supposed to do about it? Wait it out and see if they change or just let it go or what...
newlamb said:Chrissy, this is one reason why it's best not to put yourself in the position of being close enough to non-Christian men to fall in love with one. It hurts!
If you are already in love with a non-Christian, witness to them, and WAIT!
God bless you!
My dear, there is nothing wrong with loving non-Christians. But, definitely, there are more chances in the future for both of them to compromise their faiths.armed2010 said:What is wrong with loving non-christians?
Yes we have talked some about the issue. We respect eachothers religions and have researched into them.DaTsar said:I wonder have you talked to him about it?If so what did he say? This is a very serious matter, and is completely depend on both your feelings and conceptions!
Um... okay, lol. I myself am a conservative Christian girlSpike~ said:Myself, I would never want a conservative Christian girl. I don't want a wife that loves her big Ghost Daddy more than her own husband. Besides, they're just too bloody tame and lame for me. That just ain't got no spunk.
ChrissyLovesJesus said:It says in the Bible u are not to be unequally yoked with unbelievers. But what if u do end up falling in love with one? What are u supposed to do about it? Wait it out and see if they change or just let it go or what...
ChrissyLovesJesus said:It says in the Bible u are not to be unequally yoked with unbelievers. But what if u do end up falling in love with one? What are u supposed to do about it? Wait it out and see if they change or just let it go or what...
Hi Purely,PurelyIslam said:Hi Chrissy...I dont know if you expect the say of a Muslim or only christians...
but id just like to add that it must be a comfort that you fell in love with a nonchristian who is a Muslim...why? cuz the similarity between chrsitainity and islam is so great...u both share the belief in the One God and you both respect and lovesjesus peace be upon him .....& you ought not to worry about him forcing islam on you if you decide to get married....There is no compulsion in religion & i dont see why you would want to force christainty on him...if each of you decides to remain on his faith. be it..& i pray that God chooses what's best 4 both of u..
Purely..
Islamqa.com said:Praise be to Allaah.
Allaah has permitted us to marry Jewish and Christian woman, on condition that they are chaste and avoid zina (unlawful sexual relations), and that the wali (guardian) of that Christian woman is a Muslim.
What is meant by chaste is refraining from zina (unlawful sexual relationships).
Ibn Katheer said:
This is the view of the majority, which the most correct opinion, so as to avoid the combination of her being a non-Muslim with her being unchaste, which would mean that she is totally corrupt and thus her husband will get, as the Arabic proverb says, Bad goods and cheated on the weight. The apparent meaning of the aayah is that what is meant is those who are chaste and refrain from zina.
Tafseer Ibn Katheer, 3/55
The condition of the womans wali being a Muslim is indicated by the verse (interpretation of the meaning):
And never will Allaah grant to the disbelievers a way (to triumph) over the believers
[al-Nisa 4:141]
However, we do not advise you to marry a non-Muslim woman, nor do we advise you to marry just any Muslim woman. For married life is not based only on beauty and attraction, rather the wise Muslim must look with insight at what is beyond that, because he needs to be sure that his house will be looked after in his absence, and he needs to bring up his children, and he will not be able to find that or other things which every wise husband seeks, except with a religious Muslim woman. This is the advice of our Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him).
It was narrated from Abu Hurayrah that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: A woman may be married for four reasons: her wealth, her lineage, her beauty and her religious commitment. Choose the one who is religious, may your hands be rubbed with dust [i.e., may you prosper].
But marriage to women of the People of the Book leads to a great deal of mischief and trouble, such as:
1. He may have to be courteous to this wife of his at the expense of his religion, especially if she is very committed to her own religion. This may mean that she will hang up crosses and go to the church, and the children will not be safe in this environment.
2. She is not going to wash properly after finishing her period, or tell him not to have intercourse with her when she is menstruating; she is going to make him do something that is wrong according to shareeah and cause him physical harm.
3. He is going to be put in an embarrassing situation because of her careless attitude concerning dress and her mixing with men and speaking to them.
4. The states and governments of these women of the Book will be on their side and will give them custody of the children if differences arise and divorce takes place. This will cause these children to be lost and to fall into kufr. Such cases are too well known to need mentioning here and too many to count.
One of the poets said:
Marriage to a Christian is an abhorrent action which leads to the kufr of the children for sure.
Whoever accepts for a child of his to be a kaafir is himself a kaafir, even if he claims to be a Muslim.
A man may become a kaafir, following his wife, and enter the Fire of Hell forever.
You must look for one who is religiously committed, if you want a sound marriage.
Forget about the people of kufr and beware of marrying them, for that will lead to a lot of evil.
The children of such a marriage will not be guided; they will swell the ranks of evildoers.
We advise you once again to leave this woman and to pray to Allaah to guide your heart to that which is in the best interests of your religion. So long as you give her up for the sake of Allaah, then you should be certain that Allaah will replace her for you with someone better, for whoever gives up something for the sake of Allaah, Allaah will compensate him with something better.
And Allaah knows best.
Will you accept to get married -as a female- to a chrisitan? or Islam doesn't allow you to do so??PurelyIslam said:id just like to add that it must be a comfort that you fell in love with a nonchristian who is a Muslim...why? cuz the similarity between chrsitainity and islam is so great...u both share the belief in the One God and you both respect and lovesjesus peace be upon him .....
The best thing for you to do is walk away from this situation. Let this be a lesson learned the hard way.ChrissyLovesJesus said:Yes we have talked some about the issue. We respect eachothers religions and have researched into them.
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