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Of course that's not the way to do it. Fellowship with her. Find some common grounds and build up from there.Ok how would u handle this ? U tell her:" I am not really attracted to you physically but I am trying to force myself ? Shall we try ? "
I mean it is an insult somehow, she will think u are crazy.
Usually u ask a women on date you are somehow physically attracted to or not ?
This is only possible if the setting is ideal, for example same church or somehing, same work place, if you for example meet someone from another church or online, so you will not see them that often, it is not possibleOf course that's not the way to do it. Fellowship with her. Find some common grounds and build up from there.
And why would u as a man cold approach some christian woman in another church u are not physically attracted to ? Doesnt make sense.This is only possible if the setting is ideal, for example same church or somehing, same work place, if you for example meet someone from another church or online, so you will not see them that often, it is not possible
So why not praying to God to bring the one he has for you? You say you're a Christian. Can you trust in God that he would like to give you the desires of your heart?What is the point if you are not attracted to her physically ? Shouldn't we date to marry ? I mean before going out on dates, nowadays u first chat online,why would I chat with someone I am not physically attracted to ? It is a waste of time. For non romantic stuff I got my dudes.
I prayed so long so long, I am really getting old, still a virgin because fornication is a sin, still haven't met christian women where there is mutual attraction, but I have met many non christian women where there is mutual attraction, I dont even have to try so hard to get her to like me. Marrying someone you are not attracted to, is not a piece of cake, in the end you will hurt her, woman want to be cerished, recieve compliments etc, how are u gonna do that if you are not attracted to the person right ? Look if a christian woman that I am not attracted to, keep chasing me, yes this is not reality, usually the man most do the chasing, I would give her a chance, because she then knows I am not really interested in her, she is then ready to be rejected anytime, but this is just fantasy, no woman will keep chasing a man. Now I understand why some brothers or sisters in my church did the missionary dating thing, they were getting old and they didnt want to marry some christian they are not attracted to.So why not praying to God to bring the one he has for you? You say you're a Christian. Can you trust in God that he would like to give you the desires of your heart?
There's a lot of dynamics that can take place in a relationship and good marriages aren't always filled with extreme feelings that the other is there soul mate. And yet people can still have very good marriages.I prayed so long so long, I am really getting old, still a virgin because fornication is a sin, still haven't met christian women where there is mutual attraction, but I have met many non christian women where there is mutual attraction, I dont even have to try so hard to get her to like me. Marrying someone you are not attracted to, is not a piece of cake, in the end you will hurt her, woman want to be cerished, recieve compliments etc, how are u gonna do that if you are not attracted to the person right ? Look if a christian woman that I am not attracted to, keep chasing me, yes this is not reality, usually the man most do the chasing, I would give her a chance, because she then knows I am not really interested in her, she is then ready to be rejected anytime, but this is just fantasy, no woman will keep chasing a man. Now I understand why some brothers or sisters in my church did the missionary dating thing, they were getting old and they didnt want to marry some christian they are not attracted to.
Like you said, u got to be physically attracted to her a little bit otherwise it will not work.Generally people get with people that they are at least semi-attracted to physically, and that can also be semi-attracted to them physically, for the purposes of some fun or reproduction occasionally, and so that they can propagate themselves and continue their lines hopefully, and that they also can work together with at building a life, etc. Which means they also have to get along pretty well most of the time mostly also, and both be mature enough to be fully united in working toward that common goal in life always, etc, and that is for most of their life, etc. And then towards the end of it, they also want someone that they can grow old with and be happy with when they are old also, etc. And then they die, etc. And then they hope that there is something beyond that or after that hopefully, etc. And that is the general story/history of most people's lives, etc.
I seek to have a life that will be more than this, etc.
It is a risk, because my life could actually turn out to be less, etc.
God Bless.
Generally, yes.Like you said, u got to be physically attracted to her a little bit otherwise it will not work.
To me, it means one of two things:But thing is what if there are no interesting christians to date, what then ?
I would say "no, but" > you might wish to know what I mean. In lust, yes I want women who look attractive, but in love I am discovering so much better. And I am not enjoying how lust can still play me for a fool.So you don't want to marry someone who you find physical attractive ?
The children of God are produced by gospel, not by marriage. Marriage is for physical children to be born, not for spiritual children.We don’t marry for better genes but to produce children of God. .
"Yet you say, “For what reason?”The children of God are produced by gospel, not by marriage. Marriage is for physical children to be born, not for spiritual children.
And from the physical side of things, good genes are preferable. We want a healthy population. And who is healthy is also attractive.
Marriage should not be over-spiritualized.
I am not sure what is your point."Yet you say, “For what reason?”
Because the Lord has been witness
Between you and the wife of your youth,
With whom you have dealt treacherously;
Yet she is your companion
And your wife by covenant.
But did He not make them one,
Having a remnant of the Spirit?
And why one?
He seeks godly offspring.
Therefore take heed to your spirit,
And let none deal treacherously with the wife of his youth." Malachi 2:14-15 NKJV
That verse says that there is a spiritual dimension to child-bearing in a Christian marriage.I am not sure what is your point.
Malachi is not a Christian literature. Its not about Christian marriage.That verse says that there is a spiritual dimension to child-bearing in a Christian marriage.
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