@Gadarene, what do you mean by conventional male sexuality?
('Cause I don't understand your point, unless you're linking male sexuality with power in some way).
Hooo boy. Where to start.
Here's what I'm talking about when I say feminists are terrified of conventional male sexuality.
The constant barracking of male sexual preference for particular body types (hello Anita!) while the same is barely done to women. Even though we have done virtually nothing by comparison to disestablish conventional male beauty norms, and women's reinforcement of them, the way we have with conventional female beauty norms - but again, this seems to be one of those weird circumstances where the sorts of social dynamics presumed to apply to men magically don't to women? I suppose women are just better than men or something
Women's Standards Of Attractiveness Are As Unrealistic As Men's
There's their whole inconsistent attitude to sexual material that is consumed primarily by men as opposed to women.
When men like perfectly legal, consensual porn, they're still derided as sad creeps that are (somehow or other) harming women. Women's erotica on the other hand can be legally purchased containing tales of incest, child rape and bestiality - and not a peep. And to remind everyone, these people would have you believe we live in a culture where one rape joke reinforces a "rape culture", but women getting off to stories of children being abused and people profiting from the sale of such is apparently not objectionable in the same way.
Men like porn, and it's "toxic masculinity" - an inference made about being male. Women clear bookshops out of Fifty Shades, a story where a woman debases herself for a conventionally attractive billionaire? Nope nope nope, can't infer anything negative from that about women at all, you misogynist.
When men like magazines that depict one preferred body type but saying nothing at all about other body types? Harmful to women! "Lad culture"! Modesty-bag these magazines now! Meanwhile these censored magazines sit next to uncovered gossip rags consumed almost entirely by women, that
actively demean female celebrities on their covers and in their pages for having a less-than-conventional appearance. Not a peep about covering those up or removing them from sale.
Men are constantly told off for "objectifying" women, a meaningless term that usually tends to mean "looking at them, how dare they", while feminist writers usually defend their ogling of male celebrities.
The constantly moving goalposts of where it is and isn't acceptable to speak to a woman you like, seemingly being decided on behalf of all women by the most neurotic and mean-spirited of women (who usually happen to be feminist), e.g.:
https://inews.co.uk/opinion/pokemon-go-not-invitation-talk-street/
And without wishing to rehash an old topic excessively, the rationalisation of sheer, irrational terror of men simply being around you in public and calling it empowerment. The stoking of rape hysteria to fever pitch, while claiming to be sex-positive!
If anything, feminists seem to prefer completely unconventionally masculine men dictating to the vast majority of conventionally masculine men how masculinity should be.
E.g.:
Grayson Perry is wrong – men need masculine heroes like Bear Grylls
It's time to do away with the concept of 'manhood' altogether | Zach Stafford
Perry and Stafford are welcome to express themselves any way they like, but the fact remains that conventional masculinity isn't toxic to the point where it needs to be radically overhauled. It simply needs a little tweaking, and people - especially feminists - need to start listening more and judging less. Someone like Perry, a crossdressing potter and performer, simply isn't representative of how the vast majority of men live their lives. I have no idea why he is constantly held up as some kind of expert on the matter, but he was at a feminist-run festival in London on masculinity some years back.
Men do not need to remove themselves from the expectations of conventional masculinity only to be imprisoned by the expectations feminists have for their idea of what masculinity should be.
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