What exactly IS the purpose of marriage?

[fishin4christ]

Good point !

 

[gottabemore2life]

*bumped*

 

[DIVA_for_Christ]

Flashlight gave me this idea...


Discuss...

I posted this respone in another thread but I'll repost here:

First off I believe that God is a God of covenant relationships and when He calls a man and a woman to be joined as one in marriage He is establishing a covenant relationship with them and that covenant relationship is now a three fold cord, which is not easily broken. I believe that this covenant relationship is a blood covenant and this is part of the reason why God's ways are for the woman (not saying men shouldn't be as well just explaining from a specific subject) to be a virgin upon marrying her husband. The first time a husband and wife have relations, the woman's hymen is broken and she bleeds, that initial time is called consummation and because blood has been willingly shed in their relationship it establishes the blood covenant. I also believe that this is why the enemy attacks Kingdom marriage so much - he desires to destroy the blood covenant. But greater is He that is in us than he that is in the world. God already knew all of the sin/mistakes we were going to make before we did and He still chooses to use us, despite us. Hallelujah!!!!

I believe that the purpose of marriage is ministry. Actually marriage itself is ministry. Marriage is work (work is connected to Kingdom purpose). So whatever Kingdom purpose they are called too, it is a work that connects them to the same God ordained destiny. It is two whole people coming together and becoming one in the spirit to further advance the Kingdom of God.

Marriage is not about just being able to have sex just for the sake of having sex and not being in sin. But unfortunately a lot of people get married just for the sake to freely have sex. As saints of the Living God we as a body need to grow and mature in the spirit so we are not controlled by our flesh.

For me I'm still in my preparation process and God has healed me from soooooooooooooooo many improper mindsets in regards to men, my unrealistic expectations of men and what marriage is all about, etc.

As a woman I can tell you what God has taught me in how to identify the man God has chosen for me. First I had to grow to a place of loving my singleness and now that I am there and not worrying, thinking or focusing on marriage, He is telling me to get ready - lol. Then He showed me that there are counterfeits out there of the real man that He has for me. Ishmael (product of flesh, doing things my way and not waiting on God) comes before Isaac (the promise of God). By showing me this God ministered to me and the ability to discern Ishmael increased and I now know how to reject Ishmael while I wait on Isaac.

God also let me know that the man He has for me will be able to cover me spiritually, emotionally, and physically. A lot of times we can meet a man who can cover us physically and learn how to cover us emotionally, but he has no idea who we are spiritually. If a man does not know who you are in the spirit (not just who you spiritually at the moment he meets you, but who you are destined to be in God) there is no way he can cover you spiritually and if he can't cover you spiritually; he's not the one from God.

Well I've rambled on long enough hope I've helped at least a little.

God bless!

 

[Luther073082]

Why didn't he create another man then?

Men and women compliment eachother in a lot of ways. In terms of talents, emotionally, physically etc. The following is filled with sterotypes that are generally true.

A male/male team trying to navigate someplace in a car may get further lost because they have too big of egos to ask for directions.

A female/female team is often just bloody bad at navigation and may be stopping for directions every 5 minutes.

A male/female team balances to where the female can sometimes convince the male that he isn't a walking GPS system and that is ok.

On the dance floor a male/female team is used best because the male provides a stable support, quick and decisive decisions for leading. The female provides the agility which allows for quick spins/spirals.

A male/male team lacks the quickness in spirals and other movements that aides in the overall beauty of the dance. Two pillars and no flowers.

A female/female team (speaking as someone who has followed females for practice) really lacks a decisive leader. (I'm not commenting about women's ability to lead in other situations) and the pillar that is strong enough to support some of the necessary movements.

In raising children a male/female team provides the best way of doing things. The opposite sex parent often provides emotional support while the same sex parent acts as a teacher. (This is not 100% but general rule)

There are lots of situations where I can point out that male and female team works best. That is why there is man and woman and marriage.

 

[HannahBanana]

Men and women compliment eachother in a lot of ways. In terms of talents, emotionally, physically etc. The following is filled with sterotypes that are generally true.

A male/male team trying to navigate someplace in a car may get further lost because they have too big of egos to ask for directions.

A female/female team is often just bloody bad at navigation and may be stopping for directions every 5 minutes.

A male/female team balances to where the female can sometimes convince the male that he isn't a walking GPS system and that is ok.

On the dance floor a male/female team is used best because the male provides a stable support, quick and decisive decisions for leading. The female provides the agility which allows for quick spins/spirals.

A male/male team lacks the quickness in spirals and other movements that aides in the overall beauty of the dance. Two pillars and no flowers.

A female/female team (speaking as someone who has followed females for practice) really lacks a decisive leader. (I'm not commenting about women's ability to lead in other situations) and the pillar that is strong enough to support some of the necessary movements.

In raising children a male/female team provides the best way of doing things. The opposite sex parent often provides emotional support while the same sex parent acts as a teacher. (This is not 100% but general rule)

There are lots of situations where I can point out that male and female team works best. That is why there is man and woman and marriage.

What about feminine men and masculine women, though? Why are you ignoring the fact that not all women fit the gender stereotype of what women should be like, and not all men fit the gender stereotype of what men should be like?

 

[Luther073082]

What about feminine men and masculine women, though? Why are you ignoring the fact that not all women fit the gender stereotype of what women should be like, and not all men fit the gender stereotype of what men should be like?

You are right, not all of them fit the gender sterotypes and often they are best off with a mate that also doesn't fit the sterotypes.

Its not generally also what they "should" be like as much as how they end up becomming. In every aspect of me that is masculine, I can tell you in all honesty its because it came out that way either from how I was raised or genetics. I don't act like a man because I'm afraid of being judged as less then such.

 

[HannahBanana]

In every aspect of me that is masculine, I can tell you in all honesty its because it came out that way either from how I was raised or genetics. I don't act like a man because I'm afraid of being judged as less then such.

How do you know that that's not true about feminine men or masculine women, though?

 

[Luther073082]

How do you know that that's not true about feminine men or masculine women, though?

No I belive it is true of them as well.

(Typically, I have known a few people who do things like just because they don't like the idea that men and women are different.)

My point was I don't think people act like men and women because the people around them expect them to act that way. I think they act that way because it is what feels natural to them.

(When I read should it sounded like you where accusing society of crushing people and telling them how to act.)