A lot of the advice from the world for ladies trying to get married says that the lady should be a queen, should look for a man who makes a lot of money and can fully support heras a wife, and that as a queen her main priority is to look pretty. The man should be the provider and should make more money than the wife.
In reality, we live in a day and age where every man doesn't have it that way. And aside from real queens of history, whose job is it really just to sit around and look pretty? Even Queen Esther put her neck on the line for her people and was able to engage her King in a way that Queen Vashti wasn't able to.
What is a real, God honoring, Biblical marriage supposed to look like?
I believe, and have heard advice from Christian women, that it is good for a woman to have her own income, to help protect her from being overly vulnerable to a man (this is also to help her in cases of potential abuse so that she doesn't feel like she has no way out and only should depend on the man in case abuse begins towards her or the kids). Ideally, we are talking about marriages that are not abusive in nature.
I believe that if a woman is going to be a SAHM, then that means the children are already in the home and are being cared for in infancy or being homeschooled for the older children, while the mom also takes care of every other household need. That is the scenario where being a SAHM makes the most sense to me as it provides a safe and secure environment to bring up children while saving on the cost of childcare and education.
If the man is only supposed to make the woman a pretty, pampered queen, is that not some sort of abuse for the man? Where does that "queen" help her husband, in what way?
I keep getting bombarded with these queen messages and it's just really confusing. I'd appreciate any input about real life marriage, and what a Godly, Biblical marriage should look like.
In reality, we live in a day and age where every man doesn't have it that way. And aside from real queens of history, whose job is it really just to sit around and look pretty? Even Queen Esther put her neck on the line for her people and was able to engage her King in a way that Queen Vashti wasn't able to.
What is a real, God honoring, Biblical marriage supposed to look like?
I believe, and have heard advice from Christian women, that it is good for a woman to have her own income, to help protect her from being overly vulnerable to a man (this is also to help her in cases of potential abuse so that she doesn't feel like she has no way out and only should depend on the man in case abuse begins towards her or the kids). Ideally, we are talking about marriages that are not abusive in nature.
I believe that if a woman is going to be a SAHM, then that means the children are already in the home and are being cared for in infancy or being homeschooled for the older children, while the mom also takes care of every other household need. That is the scenario where being a SAHM makes the most sense to me as it provides a safe and secure environment to bring up children while saving on the cost of childcare and education.
If the man is only supposed to make the woman a pretty, pampered queen, is that not some sort of abuse for the man? Where does that "queen" help her husband, in what way?
I keep getting bombarded with these queen messages and it's just really confusing. I'd appreciate any input about real life marriage, and what a Godly, Biblical marriage should look like.