What do you think?

[Godssongbird]

My husband said its okay for a man to look at woman who dress fresh and un proper, he said there is nothing wrong with it. but yet he doesnt seem to go out of his way to look at old people or men or children
Tell me is this ok or is it lust?

 

[Jenna]

I'd go so far as to say that it is normal, but not necessarily ok. There is lots of skin on display these days, and it is real hard not to have your eyes drawn by it. But, I think that it's another thing entirely to make excuses as to why it should be acceptable behavior.

 

[Zoomer]

I think it is perfectly normal for men to look at other women. Almost all of them do it, but it's hard to get them to admit to it. That's how their brains are wired.
I admit that I look at attractive men and think, he is gorgeous but that doesn't mean that I am lusting for him. I can think someone besides my husband is handsome without being sexually attracted to them. The same with woman, there are some very gorgeous women out there. I look at them and think, wow I would love to look like that. That would not be lusting because I am not sexually attracted to them.
I see no harm in men glancing at woman in public who catches their eye. I think a problems comes in if they are intentionally looking for pictures of women or porn on the internet, magazines, or video.

 

[Jenna]

Not all men look to porn to view scantily clad women to lust after. Some are fine with just looking at the flesh that is on parade these days. I don't think that the medium through which a person looks at what they should not determines whether it is lust or not. If you want to know if he is lusting after these women that he obviously finds attractive, songbird, why not ask him? Granted, you might not get an answer that sits well with you, but at least it would be closer to the truth than anything any of us could make guesses at.

 

[LiberatedChick]

I think it is perfectly normal for men to look at other women. Almost all of them do it, but it's hard to get them to admit to it. That's how their brains are wired.
I admit that I look at attractive men and think, he is gorgeous but that doesn't mean that I am lusting for him. I can think someone besides my husband is handsome without being sexually attracted to them. The same with woman, there are some very gorgeous women out there. I look at them and think, wow I would love to look like that. That would not be lusting because I am not sexually attracted to them.

Yup I agree. One analogy I heard someone say to this is "Just because I'm on a diet, doesn't mean I can't look at the menu".

 

[bliz]

It's one thing to look at the menu.

It is quite another thing to stare at the menu.

There's looking, and then there's looking.

 

[GirlieGirl]

Is he looking out of simple curiousity? With admiration? With disapproval? With lust?

The reason matters and ultimately determines whether it is sin.

 

[Gerry_NY]

My husband said its okay for a man to look at woman who dress fresh and un proper, he said there is nothing wrong with it. but yet he doesnt seem to go out of his way to look at old people or men or children
Tell me is this ok or is it lust?

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It is not a sin to look, but it IS a sin to look AND lust.
Here are a few helpful verses you may consider looking at with your husband. But, do not use these as weapons, use them as guides to show him what he is doing probably isn't right:

Matthew 5:28 -But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart.

2 Timothy 2:22 -Flee also youthful lusts: but follow righteousness, faith, charity, peace, with them that call on the Lord out of a pure heart.

And this may be of the most help, Proverbs 6:24-26 -To keep thee from the evil woman, from the flattery of the tongue of a strange woman. Lust not after her beauty in thine heart; neither let her take thee with her eyelids. For by means of a whorish woman a man is brought to a piece of bread: and the adultress will hunt for the precious life.

I hope these help. And I hope your husband realizes it really isn't ok to do what he is doing.

 

[desi]

Worry if he doesn't look.

 

[johnfiredup]

well i told my wife if i stop lookin then i must be dead .lust? not for anyone but my honey!

another thing,, women can see 360 we have to turn to look.. thats why we get caught

and if that rat is purving well give him a clout!!

 

[johnfiredup]

well i told my wife if i stop lookin then i must be dead .lust? not for anyone but my honey!

another thing,, women can see 360 we have to turn to look.. thats why we get caught

and if that rat is purving ( a few steps up from admiring) well give him a clout!!

 

[oldrooster]

I don't do it because it is disespectful to my wife........

 

[LiberatedChick]

Is he looking out of simple curiousity? With admiration? With disapproval? With lust?

The reason matters and ultimately determines whether it is sin.

That's very true.