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[sunshine100]

What do you think makes you go for the same person,in a relationship?Like for me,I have always chosen guys that just didn't care about me and just used me,please share your thoughts on this.

 

[HTacianas]

What do you think makes you go for the same person,in a relationship?Like for me,I have always chosen guys that just didn't care about me and just used me,please your thoughts on this.

I've always been attracted to women who have their own lives. I respect a woman who can care for herself but would like someone to complete her life.

Honey, please don't sell yourself short. Don't ever let anyone use you. Be your own person first. If someone doesn't like that, move on.

 

[sunshine100]

I've always been attracted to women who have their own lives. I respect a woman who can care for herself but would like someone to complete her life.

Honey, please don't sell yourself short. Don't ever let anyone use you. Be your own person first. If someone doesn't like that, move on.

Thank you and I agree

 

[Danielwright2311]

What do you think makes you go for the same person,in a relationship?Like for me,I have always chosen guys that just didn't care about me and just used me,please share your thoughts on this.

Love is not like that, Diffrent people make you fell diffrent in diffrent ways.

It might not be them, It just might be you or the way your looking at it.

 

[Northbrook]

If you look at the Song of Songs in the Bible, you will see that there is a Lover (King Solomon) and a Beloved (the Shulamite, King Solomon’s favorite wife). My whole life, I looked for a relationship where I was the lover and the beloved at the same time. This is what I hope for you, too. Good luck, and I’ll be praying for you. I always read/enjoy your posts.

 

[timewerx]

What do you think makes you go for the same person,in a relationship?Like for me,I have always chosen guys that just didn't care about me and just used me,please share your thoughts on this.

There's actually plenty of guys like that so it's not surprising the probability of meeting someone like that. Usually guys who thinks so highly of themselves, probably with good education, good looks, promising career and future, gets into their head and bloats their ego. Avoid guys like that.

I guess you'll just have to learn not to put up with anyone who doesn't care. Learn to break the relationship as soon as you figured it out and move on. It's no use waiting as things won't improve and it's better to be single and alone than to be with someone who doesn't care.

 

[Presbyterian Continuist]

What do you think makes you go for the same person,in a relationship?Like for me,I have always chosen guys that just didn't care about me and just used me,please share your thoughts on this.

It may be a symptom of trying to meet your own need in your own way instead of putting Christ first as Lord of your relationships. I've been there, done that. After my first wife deserted me and broke up our marriage, I spent seven years trying to find a replacement. Every time I tried, things ended up in disaster and God had to bail me out. When at last I decided to give up trying to find another marriage partner, and gave the whole thing to the Lord, saying that I will concentrate on my career and serving Him whatever may happen, three months later I met the person who was to become my second wife and we have been happily married now for 28 years. She was the right one for me, and I have achieved more for God (through His grace) in the last 28 years with her, than I ever had before.

I know our desire for love and companionship is very strong and has the potential for overruling the Lordship of Christ in that area. Also, the devil can lie to us and say that if we waiting patiently for the Lord, we will never find the right person for us. I firmly believe that being in a loving marriage is God's way for the majority of us. Celibacy is a distinct calling and God gives grace to have that direction meaningful and full of blessing. But if a person has strong desire for a marriage partner, then that is the certain sign that celibacy is not for that person, and waiting patiently on God will bring the right person along at the right time.

This doesn't mean that we sit in our room and never go out anywhere, or meet people. We need to get out there and have social times with others. There is nothing wrong with dating; but don't fall into the trap of concentrating on one person just because you are getting friendly, and thinking that "this is the one".

Go into each dating situation with your eyes wide open, and examine to see whether that person has the same faith and vision for God that you have. Don't go for looks as the priority. Look for character. Don't rush into a relationship until you have got to know that person thoroughly. In the first stages of a friendship, the other person will be on their best behaviour because they want to impress you. But often, when you get to know them better, their facade starts to crack, and you start to see what they are really like. The tragedy with so many is that they don't find that out until they are in a serious committed relationship or even married to the person!

 

[Tolworth John]

What do you think makes you go for the same person,in a relationship?Like for me,I have always chosen guys that just didn't care about me and just used me,please share your thoughts on this.

Two thoughts backed up by life.

Some girls don't learn from there mistakes.

and

caring, reliable, consitent guys are seen as boring.

 

[Soul-searching]

What do you think makes you go for the same person,in a relationship?Like for me,I have always chosen guys that just didn't care about me and just used me,please share your thoughts on this.

If it´s a pattern, it´s often a result of people carrying a lot of pain. Like if you only know pain, you will often unconsciosly chose someone who treats you bad. Simply because you would not know how to handle anything good, nor would you feel deserving of anything good, or know how to manifest it even if you wanted it. Many people are like that, they come from dysfunctional families. In their adulthood they are searching for what they were taught was normal in their childhood. Lack of selfworth and bad experiences is what makes a person choose bad people. If it happens over and over, a person will get to doubt their abilities of deserving good. You must start feeling worthy of good to attract good.

 

[sunshine100]

If it´s a pattern, it´s often a result of people carrying a lot of pain. Like if you only know pain, you will often unconsciosly chose someone who treats you bad. Simply because you would not know how to handle anything good, nor would you feel deserving of anything good, or know how to manifest it even if you wanted it. Many people are like that, they come from dysfunctional families. In their adulthood they are searching for what they were taught was normal in their childhood. Lack of selfworth and bad experiences is what makes a person choose bad people. If it happens over and over, a person will get to doubt their abilities of deserving good. You must start feeling worthy of good to attract good.

Yes I agree,that is all very true

 

[sunshine100]

If it´s a pattern, it´s often a result of people carrying a lot of pain. Like if you only know pain, you will often unconsciosly chose someone who treats you bad. Simply because you would not know how to handle anything good, nor would you feel deserving of anything good, or know how to manifest it even if you wanted it. Many people are like that, they come from dysfunctional families. In their adulthood they are searching for what they were taught was normal in their childhood. Lack of selfworth and bad experiences is what makes a person choose bad people. If it happens over and over, a person will get to doubt their abilities of deserving good. You must start feeling worthy of good to attract good.

If it´s a pattern, it´s often a result of people carrying a lot of pain. Like if you only know pain, you will often unconsciosly chose someone who treats you bad. Simply because you would not know how to handle anything good, nor would you feel deserving of anything good, or know how to manifest it even if you wanted it. Many people are like that, they come from dysfunctional families. In their adulthood they are searching for what they were taught was normal in their childhood. Lack of selfworth and bad experiences is what makes a person choose bad people. If it happens over and over, a person will get to doubt their abilities of deserving good. You must start feeling worthy of good to attract good.

If it´s a pattern, it´s often a result of people carrying a lot of pain. Like if you only know pain, you will often unconsciosly chose someone who treats you bad. Simply because you would not know how to handle anything good, nor would you feel deserving of anything good, or know how to manifest it even if you wanted it. Many people are like that, they come from dysfunctional families. In their adulthood they are searching for what they were taught was normal in their childhood. Lack of selfworth and bad experiences is what makes a person choose bad people. If it happens over and over, a person will get to doubt their abilities of deserving good. You must start feeling worthy of good to attract good.

If it´s a pattern, it´s often a result of people carrying a lot of pain. Like if you only know pain, you will often unconsciosly chose someone who treats you bad. Simply because you would not know how to handle anything good, nor would you feel deserving of anything good, or know how to manifest it even if you wanted it. Many people are like that, they come from dysfunctional families. In their adulthood they are searching for what they were taught was normal in their childhood. Lack of selfworth and bad experiences is what makes a person choose bad people. If it happens over and over, a person will get to doubt their abilities of deserving good. You must start feeling worthy of good to attract good.

If it´s a pattern, it´s often a result of people carrying a lot of pain. Like if you only know pain, you will often unconsciosly chose someone who treats you bad. Simply because you would not know how to handle anything good, nor would you feel deserving of anything good, or know how to manifest it even if you wanted it. Many people are like that, they come from dysfunctional families. In their adulthood they are searching for what they were taught was normal in their childhood. Lack of selfworth and bad experiences is what makes a person choose bad people. If it happens over and over, a person will get to doubt their abilities of deserving good. You must start feeling worthy of good to attract good.

In your opinion are you saying I should just give up on finding a really great guy?that is what it sounds like to me,and it sounds like you think I am not worthy of finding a great guy.

 

[sunshine100]

If it´s a pattern, it´s often a result of people carrying a lot of pain. Like if you only know pain, you will often unconsciosly chose someone who treats you bad. Simply because you would not know how to handle anything good, nor would you feel deserving of anything good, or know how to manifest it even if you wanted it. Many people are like that, they come from dysfunctional families. In their adulthood they are searching for what they were taught was normal in their childhood. Lack of selfworth and bad experiences is what makes a person choose bad people. If it happens over and over, a person will get to doubt their abilities of deserving good. You must start feeling worthy of good to attract good.

You do not know me,so don't think or say that I don't deserve a great guy.

 

[Soul-searching]

In your opinion are you saying I should just give up on finding a really great guy?that is what it sounds like to me,and it sounds like you think I am not worthy of finding a great guy.

No of course not, of course you are worthy of everything good, and finding a good guy too! You wanted to know the reason why you were choosing bad guys. This is my opinion, this is what you must change to be able to find a good guy, you must work on yourself, if this is true for you of course, i don´t know you. I wish nothing but good for you, and i am sorry for what you have went through with bad guys!