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What do you see masturbating as? Sin? Sorry about all the topics you must have!

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Insufficient. You're again blindly assuming that masturbation is an "unholy use." Support that assertion. Again, you're only insisting that masturbation is "bad" and by leaving it at that, you get absolutely nowhere. Again, I ask: how, exactly, does masturbation inherently hinder righteousness? And please, don't say something to the effect of "It's bad, perverse, icky, yucky, immoral, sinful, lustful, of the flesh, demonstrates lack of self-control." That would just mean you're running in circles again.


When you have been baptized with the Holy Spirit, you know that He is calling you to live higher, and a more holy lifestyle. There is no place in a consecrated and sanctified life for such self-gratification. Sexual pleasure belongs within marriage as God designed it. Period.

Give as much a song and dance as you like. It changes not the truth of God's design. Stamp your feet in a tantrum because--darn it--you like masturbating! Too bad. It changes nothing about God providing only one outlet for sexual gratification: marriage.

Sorry about your luck. Draw near to God and He will draw near to you...

James 4:8
Come close to God, and God will come close to you. Wash your hands, you sinners; purify your hearts, for your loyalty is divided between God and the world.
 
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Well. As I am sure you all must have heard a lot about this...

masturbating


What do you guys think about this?

Theres so so so many people that do it...

Here are somethings people have said:



What do you guys think about it? I am catholic.


Well if masturbating IS a sin.

What will happen to you if you do it? Will your life be very bad?

Will someone very close to me split up, if I do masturbating?

Thanks for any help.
I have no answer on it being a sin, but I can tell you my experience with it. I have only done it once and I plan not to do it again. I did it without really realizing what I was doing at first, but then I began to realize it the further I got into it, but it was too late for me to stop after that. After it was over, I felt very nasty and disgraceful. I think anything that causes disgrace is wrong. Others might not see masturbation the way I see it, but I mean, what's the point? Your gaining nothing out of it. No experience, no love, and nothing special. I couldn't imagine a guy not doing it out of lust for a girl. Like I said, what's the point?
 
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I just had a thought...I'm sure all Christians would agree that we should put God first in our lives. Well sometimes we put other things first, and they are not always evil in themselves. In fact, sometimes they are gifts from Him that we turn into gods. We forget that God is even better. So sexual desire, it's not bad or anything, but if people become addicted to it it becomes their god. I'm not accusing anyone, I've 'worshipped' lots of silly things especially before I became a Christian. But what I'm trying to say is, the only thing that masturbation gives people is sexual pleasure. As Gamezilla said, "No experience, no love, and nothing special". Pleasure is the whole point of it, and I think it's pleasure without meaning. When people touch all that they're enjoying is themselves; that just doesn't seem like something God would intend. And it's easy to get addicted to, and things like that can distract people from God. So...it's a good idea to examine oneself; and if you think that you might get addicted to it, don't do it. I think that people who look at porn magazines, for example, are worshipping pleasure. Aren't they?
 
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I just had a thought...I'm sure all Christians would agree that we should put God first in our lives. Well sometimes we put other things first, and they are not always evil in themselves. In fact, sometimes they are gifts from Him that we turn into gods. We forget that God is even better. So sexual desire, it's not bad or anything, but if people become addicted to it it becomes their god. I'm not accusing anyone, I've 'worshipped' lots of silly things especially before I became a Christian. But what I'm trying to say is, the only thing that masturbation gives people is sexual pleasure. As Gamezilla said, "No experience, no love, and nothing special". Pleasure is the whole point of it, and I think it's pleasure without meaning. When people touch all that they're enjoying is themselves; that just doesn't seem like something God would intend. And it's easy to get addicted to, and things like that can distract people from God. So...it's a good idea to examine oneself; and if you think that you might get addicted to it, don't do it. I think that people who look at porn magazines, for example, are worshipping pleasure. Aren't they?
YES YES YES YES YES
 
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I just had a thought...I'm sure all Christians would agree that we should put God first in our lives. Well sometimes we put other things first, and they are not always evil in themselves. In fact, sometimes they are gifts from Him that we turn into gods. We forget that God is even better. So sexual desire, it's not bad or anything, but if people become addicted to it it becomes their god. I'm not accusing anyone, I've 'worshipped' lots of silly things especially before I became a Christian. But what I'm trying to say is, the only thing that masturbation gives people is sexual pleasure. As Gamezilla said, "No experience, no love, and nothing special". Pleasure is the whole point of it, and I think it's pleasure without meaning. When people touch all that they're enjoying is themselves; that just doesn't seem like something God would intend. And it's easy to get addicted to, and things like that can distract people from God. So...it's a good idea to examine oneself; and if you think that you might get addicted to it, don't do it. I think that people who look at porn magazines, for example, are worshipping pleasure. Aren't they?
Very nice post. All of that is true. It's just like a drug, and it effects different people in different ways. Why take the chance? Believe me, addictions are no fun. They will ruin your life and your relationship with God.
 
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Very nice post. All of that is true. It's just like a drug, and it effects different people in different ways. Why take the chance? Believe me, addictions are no fun. They will ruin your life and your relationship with God.

thanks :) and that's very true about addictions..

Daniel777, :)
 
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Well, masturbation was not directly mentioned in scripture; could this have been because masturbation was not rampant enough at the time to even deserve a mention? Maybe, but don't you think God or Jesus would forsee it becoming a major issue for our religion? If it was important, would they have addressed it?

I've sort of flip-flopped on the issue, but I don't see why I need to do or not do anything unless it was mentioned directly by Jesus or God.

Masturbation is a sensation that "feels good" for a moment. When you think about this in medical terms, you are merely stimulating glands and nerve endings, which cause a particular feeling and often an [bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse]. You know, honestly, with the acception of an [bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse] being caused, masturbation really isn't sexual.

One person mentioned that the Catholic Church considers masturbation to be a mortal sin. Well, the Catholic Church isn't God. This person also said that anything but vaginal sex with your spouse is a mortal sin, according to the Catholic Church. I've never heard that one before. Oral or anal sex with your spouse is a mortal sin?

What will happen if masturbation was a sin and you did it anyway? Well, no one really knows. If you lived a perfectly Christian life with the acception of stimulating glands on your penis every now and then, I wouldn't imagine you would be going to hell. Some people take this issue of masturbation way too seriously.

Yeah, I think that's all I have to say about this issue. We'll never really know, unless a new book in the bible is excuvated from the Holy Land. ;)
 
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"Logic is the study of entailment, association, correlation and causation. It is a very in-depth field that takes some time to understand. Furthermore, it operates on premises which must first be established. The supernatural cannot be established, which means that logic cannot be used to evaluate the supernatural.......actual reason (logical study) is a defined field"

Logic seems to be sort of like mathematics: laws that are true no matter what we think about them. I see what you mean about it being different from 'common sense'; I made a mistake in my post by equating these things.

I have to say though that logical study is mostly based on what we have observed, and there is plenty that we haven't observed. So our logic can be seriously flawed at times. For an atheist, who has never experienced faith, spiritual things might contradict logic. For a believer, faith is quite a reasonable thing, because the person has the necessary experience ('observation'). What we observe affects 'logical premises'. So it does seem to be a change in the mind, a 'renewal' by the Holy Spirit....hope that makes sense lol.

"You cannot say that our reason is flawed but our interpretation of the Bible is not."

I'm saying that reason without Holy Spirit: flawed. Reason + Holy Spirit: not flawed.

"(me) I believe that because of the fall, we became separated from God, and our minds 'fell' along with our souls...." "I do not believe that this is so"

Honest question: why? hmm..I think that when we fell we became separated from God. He is the source of life, goodness, wisdom, etc...our 'wisdom' turned into foolishness. But if we come back to Him, we are re-united, and are able to understand truth. 'Mind' and 'soul' are very connected things...our spiritual condition affects how we understand the world; thus our (understanding of) reason is tranformed with our souls.

"The rules of reason do not change upon conversion to Christianity"

Objective rules of reason, no. But our understanding of these objective rules of reason, yes...I would argue that without God, we understand them incorrectly.

"No, it doesn't. Our minds must be the most reliable thing we have. You use your mind to read the Bible. If your mind's reliability is lower than that of the Bible, then you cannot trust what you read in the Bible any more than the reliability of your mind will allow."

I see what you're saying, but what I'm saying is that our minds cant' do this alone. We need the Holy Spirit, then our minds become effective and we're able to understand the Bible.
The Bible doesn't tell us that the 'smart people' would understand the truth, but that the spiritual would.

"I don't believe either of those things because I trust the Bible. In fact, neither should you. And neither should anyone. You should trust the Bible because you believe those things. Faith comes first."

I agree, but that's not quite what I meant...what I meant is that if we mistrust the Bible, we are mistrusting the source that tells us about the gospel, which we have accepted. Faith comes from God, but the gospel ("what to believe") comes from the Bible.

"Yes, that much is true. Faith does help us understand scripture. In my case (and in most Christians' cases) faith has led us to understand that the messages of scripture stand apart from their factual accuracy, and that the inerrancy of the Bible isn't important in light of the spiritual truths within."

This is true to the extent that spiritual truth is much more important than historical fact......however, some people water it down to such a degree that they no longer believe in the Resurrection. In their case, the 'spiritual message' is still there, but they have rejected the literal event....which I believe happened....so sometimes it's helpful to just it literally, where it's literal.

"I think this was a message intended to the people of the time, who had the perception that their leaders were wise and intelligent. Jesus was a rebel, you know. The idea that you can always apply scripture to modern times is not a very supportable one."

I don't think so, it says quite plainly: "For the message of the cross is foolishness to those who are perishing.." Even today, that's true. Many unbelievers find the idea ridiculous (at least the ones I know), and I did too, several years ago...I think this passage is telling us that those in the darkness can't understand the light.

"Yes, the Bible asks that we believe. But my faith tells me to always question and be on the lookout for incorrect theology. I am never content in my knowledge of the divine, and I do not believe that anyone else should be. We should always strive for a more perfect understanding, even if that means questioning or abandoning closely-held beliefs."

Agreed.
I meant that we shouldn't abandon ideas just because we can't undertand them...at times, we have to hold on to our faith. And when we question our beliefs, we should look to the right sources for answers.

"How are you able to tell whether your conviction comes from God, the media, your society, your church, your peers, your personal guilt, your upbringing or any other factors? Have you spent some time really thinking it over in your mind, or did you start with the conclusion that it must be a sinful conviction and go from there?"


Well, in the past I felt that it's just a shameful thing to do, something you wouldn't mention in public. One day, I opened my university student newspaper, and saw a - rather awful, I must say - article that told girls how to touch. I began thinking about it, and looked at it from a spiritual perspective..I came up with a few questions:
"how does this glorify God?" (I dont know)
"what does it do except provide (self) pleasure?" (nothing?)
"if I feel it to be immoral, wouldn't it be against my conscience to do it?" (yes..God forgives, but its' best to follow the conscience)
While I was reading this thread, I prayed about it...I still feel the same.


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"What will happen if masturbation was a sin and you did it anyway?"

Well, if a person knows it's a sin but does it anyway, they can ask God for forgiveness, and He would forgive. Then, they should try to not do it anymore. If they didn't know it was a sin, and never felt convicted of it, I don't know. I imagine that no one would blame them then, cause they did it out of ignorance.
 
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Floatingaxe said:
When you have been baptized with the Holy Spirit, you know that He is calling you to live higher, and a more holy lifestyle. There is no place in a consecrated and sanctified life for such self-gratification.

Oh, I see. Once we become Christians, we can’t do anything just because we like it. There has to be some higher purpose involved that has nothing to do with our enjoyment. Watching movies, playing video games, admiring a work of art, reading a good book, and beyond are all now “sins” because we do them not to serve some higher purpose but simply because we enjoy them.

I’m sorry, but there’s simply no basis for such an assertion. Unless you can back it up with some sort of solid philosophical, theological, or scriptural reason, I see no reason to refrain from activities we enjoy simply because we enjoy them.

Sexual pleasure belongs within marriage as God designed it. Period.

Prove it. Show me where God commands “You shall not think sexual thoughts or experience sexual pleasures whatsoever outside of marriage.” Until you do so, I see no reason why experiencing such feelings ought to be condemned.

Give as much a song and dance as you like. It changes not the truth of God's design.

You have yet to show how masturbation is contrary to God’s design. Until you do, using this as an argument remains unconvincing. No one here is denying the purpose of sexuality is found within marriage. This does not, however, mean that there can be no possible alternative use for our sexuality for as long as it does not hinder that purpose.

Again, take books for example. Books are meant to be read. That is their purpose. However, does a man do wrong when he temporarily uses a book as a paperweight simply because it’s useful to him in that way for the time being? Of course not. That alternative use does not hinder the book’s purpose (you can still read it if you liked). In the same way, masturbation does not hinder the purpose of our sexuality. On the contrary, it allows people to explore what they like and dislike, promotes a healthy sex drive, and thus is able to spice up a person’s sex life when they get married. Only if masturbation is inherently contrary to God’s design and hinders the purpose of our sexuality can it be condemned in this way. You have yet to show this to be true and until you do, your argument here fails.
 
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Dannager you are really one to be talking about someone backed into a corner. maby you should read back a few pages. you believe your faith is true. you validate your faith through reason. you do not believe all scripture is inspired by God. your reason is based on constantly changing social trends, and yourself. therefore you admit that your faith is of your own making, and accept only what you feel comfortable with.
My reason is based on reason. The methodology of reason and rationality does not change with social trends. In fact, Christian fundamentalism is a social trend. If reason changed with that, we'd all be broke, destitute and ignorant. My faith is arrived at through careful examination and reason. I've never backed away from or been ashamed of this belief, and I've never refused to debate someone because they believe differently than I. What Floatingaxe is doing is running away. That's not what I do, nor what anyone interested in the truth should be doing.
logic is no good without knowledge. and believeing any knowledge requires some aspect of faith.
There is a huge difference between religious faith and the faith of acceptance. The faith I have in God's existence is not the same as the faith that I have in gravity.
your reason should be placed in something absolute else you're just comforting yourself.
My reason is placed in the absolute of reason. Reason is self-evident.
your faith will always be changing. you base your faith on your logic. you should base logic on your faith.
No, I should base my logic on my logic and my faith on my faith. They are cornerstones, and complement each other. One is not submissive to the other.
 
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YES! The thing is, if you rely on logic and reason, you are relying on an inconstant, a fallible thing, and no faith can stand on that. It's sinking sand.
This is an anathema to what I believe and to what solid theology is. Claiming that faith cannot coincide with reason independent of reliance is lunacy.
 
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Prove it.


Haha! Prove it? Prove that sexual pleasure belongs only withn the confines of a marriage, between married couples?

Come on! This is "Christian Forums", and no one ahould have to have such a basic value pointed out to him.

Ridiculous! :swoon:
 
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Haha! Prove it? Prove that sexual pleasure belongs only withn the confines of a marriage, between married couples?

Come on! This is "Christian Forums", and no one ahould have to have such a basic value pointed out to him.

Ridiculous! :swoon:


So in other words what you are saying is you have no proof? Ok thanks for clearing that up!!!! :p
 
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What Floatingaxe is doing is running away.

You know, if you have something to say about me--tell me in PM. I consider it bad manners to discuss another poster.

What am I running away from, may I ask? Why all this interest in my faith? Pay attention to your own, I should think.
 
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So in other words what you are saying is you have no proof? Ok thanks for clearing that up!!!! :p


The Word of God is proof enough. I f you would pick it up and read it, you would know that. That is why it is so ridiculous.
 
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I have no answer on it being a sin, but I can tell you my experience with it. I have only done it once and I plan not to do it again. I did it without really realizing what I was doing at first, but then I began to realize it the further I got into it, but it was too late for me to stop after that. After it was over, I felt very nasty and disgraceful. I think anything that causes disgrace is wrong. Others might not see masturbation the way I see it, but I mean, what's the point? Your gaining nothing out of it. No experience, no love, and nothing special. I couldn't imagine a guy not doing it out of lust for a girl. Like I said, what's the point?
Hi Gamelliza,
Welcome to the discussion.

I just thought I'd share on thing that a guy can get from masturbating. I have a freind who did as the church told him and never masturbated or had sex till he was married. Well when he got married he found [bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse] very painful. The Doctor told him thar since he'd not had [bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse] the tube were the seman comes out had seal shut. The muscle that pumped out the seman created such pressure when the [bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse] happened that he felt a lot of pain. Now this is a some what rare condition. But it is a reason to have [bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse].

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This is an anathema to what I believe and to what solid theology is. Claiming that faith cannot coincide with reason independent of reliance is lunacy.


Never said that reason isn;t a valuable thing. god gave us a wonderful ability to think. But His Word is paramount and trumps rational thought when thought comes against what is written for us by God. That's when faith supersedes.

In other words, you just don't argue with God.
 
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