What do you look for in a partner?

[godspalladius]

Now A days, I see people who do not accept people for who they are.
I could never understand " I love everything about you" then say, " but you can't do this or that" or " you need to change if this relationship is going to work"
I have gone into relationships rather ignorant (sp?) and hopelessley bedazzeled. Then WHAM! either I didn't become their dad, or I did wanna go do something they wanted to do because I don't like to spend much.
It's at the point I don't even look or try. Last relationship I had..The person was all about family, so they said. When it came to my daughter, she was all about disipline..wich is good. When I question wheres the love? I got "she has a mother for that."
I believe that you should take people for who they are, and not their faults..but havn't been able to get passes protecting my daughter..no matter what I feel. My daughter is where I watch the most. sorry too ramble but I would enjoy a wholesome relationship, if I saw it out there..other then that..I stink relationships and choose "single". Soli Degloria

 

[overit]

Last relationship I had..The person was all about family, so they said. When it came to my daughter, she was all about disipline..wich is good. When I question wheres the love? I got "she has a mother for that."
I believe that you should take people for who they are, and not their faults..but havn't been able to get passes protecting my daughter..no matter what I feel. My daughter is where I watch the most.

Wow, she sounds like she was a real winner (NOT)

I agree with you and having two sons, when it comes to relationships it's so much more complicated when you have children. So much more to consider, adds layers of things to work through and have in common.

The whole "I can change them" thing is just a big waste of time, and a very common trait amongs the younger ones. I say that from experience also

 

[Bridgit]

...The whole "I can change them" thing is just a big waste of time ...

Yes, I learned that the hard way.

 

[Heather77]

I'm looking for someone who is devoted to his faith. Who knows what he believes and isn't afraid to share it. I love my God and anyone who cant share that with me is not worth my time! Personality wise: He needs to be able to laugh at himself and likes to walk in the rain and have fun. Oh and he needs to be sweet enough to brighten the gloomiest day! Physically wise, he just can't be lazy. He needs to have healthy habits.

 

[sampa]

Hard one to answer because it always changes for each guy that grabs my heart. And what I once said I would never, so has happened.

Teachable spirit and humility are big ones. But I'm still trying to figure if that wild edge (maybe in sports) is a must have. Along with fiscal responsibility (but that could change too if I was responsible for the money). And not a "boxer". One who puts others in a box.

I'm trying to be open because my options seem to be getting younger and I'm not interested in the under 25, sorry. No offense intended.

I do have a body type preference, but I've fallen out of that also.

 

[JPPT1974]

I look for most of all their
Personality whether it is nice
And personable or just the opposite of that
Believe me, I wouldn't pick the latter!

 

[Niels]

You want specifics?

More Christian in her actions than in her talk, creative, likes animals, loves nature, plays a musical instrument, kind, intelligent (whether she's a former high school dropout who works at wally-world, or has multiple Ph.D's and teaches at the university level), a dreamer, physically fit but not over the top, doesn't like watching sports, nice legs, age: late 20's - early 30's, not a gold digger, never married, never had children, not judgmental, has good personal morals and ethics, men may not ask her out very often because they either find her intimidating or think she already has a boyfriend, good at math and doing taxes, likes to have long meandering conversations, has a somewhat idiosyncratic/fun/sexy taste in clothing, finds humor in the absurd and laughs often, playful, likes hard rock to classical to jazz, and has this kind of hairstyle:

Apparently I don't feel like being vague tonight.