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What do you hate about being single?

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A while back I had a thread about what you love most about being single, but never got around to it's counterpart, so here it is.

What do you hate the most about being single?

I hate not having anyone to cuddle up to, kiss, hold hands, etc.
No one to share holidays with
No one to share my innermost thoughts with
Going places by myself
 
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I hate not having anyone to cuddle up to, kiss, hold hands, etc.
No one to share holidays with
No one to share my innermost thoughts with
Going places by myself

All of that.

In general, I don't like feeling unloveable. Friends and family can love me all they want, but it's not the same--even if your forsake physical interaction in a "romantic relationship". What I mean to say is that there's more of a difference between romance-type and friendship-type love than the physical.

I don't like feeling as though I'm "romantically unloveable". Nevermind me, though. Right now I'm in one of those moods.

"Data, sometimes I envy you..." -Picard, after Data turns off his emotional chip and goes from vexed fear to absolute calm.
 
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A while back I had a thread about what you love most about being single, but never got around to it's counterpart, so here it is.

What do you hate the most about being single?

I hate not having anyone to cuddle up to, kiss, hold hands, etc.
No one to share holidays with
No one to share my innermost thoughts with
Going places by myself

When I was your age, I felt the same frustration and sadness- even stopped going to church for a while because I was so disillusioned.

I believe that the most important prayer you can offer is to ask God to be the guide in your life- let Him decide when you might meet someone, and who that someone might be.

I didn't even realize He was in control until one day, several years later, I went to a business get together; a typical secular event where the liquor was freely flowing and the chatter was loud.

After about a half hour, the most beautiful women I had ever seen walked into the room. For some reason, I felt compelled and comfortable going over to say hello- and quickly found out that she was a Christian, who, as a non-drinker, felt totally out of place in that environment. She only went because a friend asked her to go, and she couldn't say "no".

Well, the rest, as they say, is history- we've been married for over 30 years and I still think she's the most beautiful person in the world- but for a whole lot more reasons than what prompted the initial attraction.

Rest assured that if you totally trust God to guide, you will be amazed at where He will take you in life!
 
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what's been mentioned, and also little inside jokes or just joking around in a special way.
Also judgement, as a woman (and probably this goes for guys too- i'm just not a guy so i don't know), but after about 26 if you are still single, everyone thinks you did something wrong or it's your fault , you aren't spiritual enough or obedient enough and make ugly and rude comments sometimes. And everyone that is withsomeone or married, thinks you are out to steal their b/f or husband and treats you accordingly. or they ignore you. or they figure you are out sleeping around or partying and don't want to commit to anyone. There's just so much misunderstanding. And if you actually express a desire to want to be married someday and frustrated that it doesn't seem to be happening, you are called desperate or you are a horrible Christian that can't trust God. Your singleness is proof that you are being disobedient.
or people think that because you are single, you should jsut date anyone- anyone at all; who cares about it being the right person or being attracted to them or having standards, they are a warm body who is also single so that means that that God wants you together so DATE THEM - DATE THEM NOW!!!! And if you don't , then it's your own fault; how dare you want to actually be attracted to and work together well with someone you date.


I also miss doing things for someone or showing them that they are special to me.
 
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pressure from others to date simply to date. Just lay off! I'm fine!

I'm a cuddle monster that has gone without.

No one to write for. I still write things, but I can't go "Ooh, I wrote you something." It's like baking for the soul, and lo-cal.

umm...feeling that there was a person that understands me and loves me just for exactly everything I am and isn't going to try to change me. I have found that my family really does love me, but the love of a mate is something much different.

I miss getting that little look and the "you look so (cute, beautiful, classy, sporty, snazzy) today, darlin."

Having somebody I can do "surprises" for.
 
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A while back I had a thread about what you love most about being single, but never got around to it's counterpart, so here it is.

What do you hate the most about being single?

I hate not having anyone to cuddle up to, kiss, hold hands, etc.
No one to share holidays with
No one to share my innermost thoughts with
Going places by myself
I have been plagued by dreams about girls since I was 15. :sigh:
 
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I hate a lot of the things mentioned so far... I too am a cuddle monster. I feel unloved and unlovable. I feel alone all the time.

But what I hate the MOST.

The VERY MOST.

Is seeing everyone else who've been with people for forever, years and years and years, getting engaged and married and celebrating being together while I am the ONLY ONE not in that situation. EVERYONE is getting engaged or married. I'm the only single guy, male or female, in the entire group. Everyone else is either together for more than two years, engaged, or married. And I HATE that I'm the only single one, that they're all telling me that I'll find someone, that I'll be happy, to give it time, it's not my time for someone yet, while their SO is holding their hand and nodding in agreement with a ring on their finger. Sometimes more than one.

I hate it :'(

Metherion
 
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I hate a lot of the things mentioned so far... I too am a cuddle monster. I feel unloved and unlovable. I feel alone all the time.

But what I hate the MOST.

The VERY MOST.

Is seeing everyone else who've been with people for forever, years and years and years, getting engaged and married and celebrating being together while I am the ONLY ONE not in that situation. EVERYONE is getting engaged or married. I'm the only single guy, male or female, in the entire group. Everyone else is either together for more than two years, engaged, or married. And I HATE that I'm the only single one, that they're all telling me that I'll find someone, that I'll be happy, to give it time, it's not my time for someone yet, while their SO is holding their hand and nodding in agreement with a ring on their finger. Sometimes more than one.

I hate it :'(

Metherion

:( That is frusterating and painful. I'm sorry. Sending an e-hug your way. :hug:
 
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