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Laura, the meaning of life is to love and recieve love.

And I don't mean that in some corny way either; it's simply the truth of the matter. Sometimes the very environment you're surrounded in chokes out the light and warmth you need. Indeed, without love, we DO feel like the life is sucked out of us. I'm two years older than you, and you sound exactly -- and I mean EXACTLY -- like I did when I was your age.

To get out from under the brambles and thorns, 1) surround yourself with positive iconography. You may have to change the music you listen to and the shows you watch; the immediate media actually factors largely into your outlook on life. 2) Build yourself a little altar under your bed or in your closet. Make sure it has a bible, some pillows, candles, maybe some incense. When you feel blue go there and pray. 3) Believe that God has relief, peace, and most importantly, a job for you just around the corner.

It's hard to get you to take me seriously, I know, because I'm just a computer screen with type on it. Just try to understand that everyone goes through this time period with their family, their [lack of] friends, and their career. It's the person who keeps faith, blindly if necessary, that catches God's eye.
 
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Thanks, both of you guys. I appreciate the support and prayers. It's just so hard sometimes to even imagine ever feeling better because I haven't been able to get out of this for over a year. The only time I find comfort is when I talk to God and read my bible, but for the rest of the day I'm mostly miserable. Anyway...my point - thanks, haha.
 
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life can be much more, life is what you make of it. If for example, one keeps sinking deep into the mud and instead of climbing out, he keeps sinking as his feelings draw him in, then yeah, life seems all dark and meaningless; but instead, if he thinks the other way and look forward to when he'll be rescued, things will turn out to be different. He may even start trying to climb out by himself.

Jesus, is that light, He's a light that's constantly by our side. It's just a matter of reaching out to Him, but sadly many of us forget. I'm praying for you, Laura. May God open the door for you.
 
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I'm going thru the same thing...what does life really have to offer me? i know it has alot but just having a rough time the last 4 or so yrs of my life.  I understand how u feel like ur not ever going to be happy at anything....once i seem to get happy or in that direction something happens to cause me to get hurt and become depressed deeper this time i hate it.....

I got called a whiner and loser the other day b/c i posted problems on a jeep board b/c i didnt know what to do in life or how to deal with things...my x gf and her bf are on the same board

 

Will
 
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Originally posted by Mr.Cheese
Read Psalm 119:81.
You always hope even when you feel crummy. God is true.
You're 19. That tends to be messy. Hang in there.

Has something happened to you?

I don't know if I can pick out the specific event that got me feeling this way. It's everything...just life. It's so meaningless and painful. I've been feeling this way for like a year and a half...it's so hard to feel like this, and then have to wake up and function like a normal person.
 
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Yes...i cant figure out what got me in this way either....its not even fun.....i wonder what its like to get up and go and be happy with no worries that bother u really. I have had a worried or somethign to get me upset everyday for who knows how long.

I watched Mr. Deeds today (probably doesnt do much good) but the way he came off to a point is how it seems for me...i try and try to help and be nice and i get someone always hurting or lieing or being a fake.....

I wish the best of luck and we are here for ya....i havent been here hardly at all and i feel closer to yall than some ppl im friends with
 
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Laura, I can relate very much to your feelings. My father who was my best friend went home to the Lord last year and I still miss him terribly at times and I just get on my kness before our Lord and cry and talk to our Heavenly Father, about the way I feel. My mother presently has what the doctors state is terminal cancer. I love my mother and I know she misses my father so much at times. The wonderous blessing that came from these things is my mother became saved during the month my father was dying in the hospital last year. Praise be to our Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ!!!!

I watch my mother's physical health slowly worsen as did my father's and it hurts so bad inside I can do nothing but cry out to God.

This I know. I shall someday be in the presence of My Savior, Jesus Christ and be with my father and mother and all the other saints.

Oh what a joyous thought!!!!!

Laura, call out to Jesus. He awaits our call and cry, to He, that died for us that we might have eternal life.

Jesus, tells us He will never leave us!!!! What a comforting promise, that the King of Kings and Lord of Lords tells His children, He will never, ever leave us. Praise be to our God!!!!!
 
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talk to god before you go to sleep and force ya self to spend 10 -15 mins the first nite talking to him about ya problems and wat you want and a couple of mins praising him for everything he's done thengo to sleep.. repeat this for a few nite and then you just wnanna talk to him and he makes ya feel better. ok? and get a friend you can discuss all that kinda stiff wif k?
 
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Originally posted by Laura
What do you do when you realize how meaningless life is? It's just a series of one heartbreak and depression after another. Is there any way to enjoy life again...because there's no way I could kill myself, so I'm just stuck here in my misery.

Sweeite, you need to see your doctor and tell him how depressed you are. Life can be wonderful and have deep meaning, but when you are depressed, it doesn't seem like anything good can ever happen to you. I know, because I was depressed for years. but with medical help, life is good again, even when things go wrong for me.

Please see your doctor today.
 
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Laura, life is the farthest thing from meaningless. I think there are things that you have yet to understand regarding why God made you. And what God asks of you. Things will fall in line if you follow Jesus. Draw near to God and he will draw near to you. You may notice that with almost any given problem a christian comes across, it stems from a lack of intimacy with God. You have heard this before, and you will hear it again now. Read God's word and pray. He loves to hear from you.
 
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Find a service project to do to 1) do something for someone else and 2) get your mind off your current situation.

When I was 17 I felt this way and I took a volunteer position as both a Sunday School teacher for the first and second grade and as an assistant coach for a little league football team.

It felt great to be able to "help" these kids.... It gives you a feeling of purpose. After that experience, I have always had some type of volunteer "thing" working.
 
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Originally posted by DeputyDan
Find a service project to do to 1) do something for someone else and 2) get your mind off your current situation.

When I was 17 I felt this way and I took a volunteer position as both a Sunday School teacher for the first and second grade and as an assistant coach for a little league football team.

It felt great to be able to "help" these kids.... It gives you a feeling of purpose. After that experience, I have always had some type of volunteer "thing" working.

Thanks...I'm actually hoping to be volunteering in a kindergarten class when i go back to school after Thanksgiving break. Maybe that will help me out a little.
 
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That’s great, Laura! I mean it sounds like you need to get involved with peoples lives in service. We consume Gods word and take so much in but if we don’t put something out we get a tummy ache. Often when we get involved with helping other people it takes our focus off of our own circumstances and teaches us how to be Christ like towards others by the workings of the Holy Spirit in our lives.

A few tips: Wash your mind in the word of God with scripture memorization. Also get into prayer as often as you can with other Christians and pray about everything! Yes serve in some way and I’ll tell ya that Sunday school is a serious blessing if you find time for that. Woohoo its a BLAST!! Lastly, if you don’t already, do keep a journal and try to track your spiritual and emotional progress with it, as time passes you can see your progress and if it stays the same than get to know a church counselor at your church and discuss good times and bad times for they are there to help too.

I look forward to reading how it goes with kindergarten. You’ll have a BLAST! ;)&nbsp; Blessings to you.

Peace
 
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Originally posted by l33tace
That’s great, Laura! I mean it sounds like you need to get involved with peoples lives in service. We consume Gods word and take so much in but if we don’t put something out we get a tummy ache. Often when we get involved with helping other people it takes our focus off of our own circumstances and teaches us how to be Christ like towards others by the workings of the Holy Spirit in our lives.

A few tips: Wash your mind in the word of God with scripture memorization. Also get into prayer as often as you can with other Christians and pray about everything! Yes serve in some way and I’ll tell ya that Sunday school is a serious blessing if you find time for that. Woohoo its a BLAST!! Lastly, if you don’t already, do keep a journal and try to track your spiritual and emotional progress with it, as time passes you can see your progress and if it stays the same than get to know a church counselor at your church and discuss good times and bad times for they are there to help too.

I look forward to reading how it goes with kindergarten. You’ll have a BLAST! ;)&nbsp; Blessings to you.

Peace

Thanks. :)

I'm hoping everything will work out and I'll be able to go and help out at least once a week. Being around children always makes me happy. I'm really looking forward to it and hoping I'll be able to volunteer there.
 
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