What do the women look for in a man?

[cloudstrife007]

Character? Personality? Interests? Values? Appearance?

What does matter for the females? Because I'm quite confused

 

[LivetoLove]

When I think about the guys I've liked in the past, they've all been very varied in appearance and personality... The only real similiarity was their passion for God.

I always enjoy being able to laugh with whoever I'm with, so a sense of humour is pretty important. Being kind and gentle is also important, but he should also have a strength of character about him.

The only physical feature I insist upon is a tall man... I'm 5'8, and I'd very much like my future husband to be taller than I am.

 

[c1ners]

I'm pretty sure what each of us look for will be unique to our tastes. As for me, I look for a man who not only loves God, but a man who proves that he loves God by showing it. A man who I feel safe with. Who can not only make me laugh and smile, but someone who I don't have to be afraid to be angry at. I like a strong man with a kind heart, but not too kind that people take advantage of him. Mostly just kind kind to me. I don't care if the world sees him as a big macho meanie as long as with me he's gentle and loving. I also like a man who won't put up with my shenanigans. Someone who will gently put me back in place when I've stepped over that line of being reasonable. Oh my goodness, I could go on and on right now, but hopefully you get my gist.

 

[LivetoLove]

I'm pretty sure what each of us look for will be unique to our tastes. As for me, I look for a man who not only loves God, but a man who proves that he loves God by showing it. A man who I feel safe with. Who can not only make me laugh and smile, but someone who I don't have to be afraid to be angry at. I like a strong man with a kind heart, but not too kind that people take advantage of him. Mostly just kind kind to me. I don't care if the world sees him as a big macho meanie as long as with me he's gentle and loving. I also like a man who won't put up with my shenanigans. Someone who will gently put me back in place when I've stepped over that line of being reasonable. Oh my goodness, I could go on and on right now, but hopefully you my gist.

Such a great list! Couldn't have (and didn't) say it better myself!

 

[Luther073082]

I don't know why men and women do this a lot but a lot of them both seem to think that the opposite sex all want the same things or close to it.

Each woman, like each man is an individual with their own needs, wants, desires, and priorities.

 

[c1ners]

I don't know why men and women do this a lot but a lot of them both seem to think that the opposite sex all want the same things or close to it.

Each woman, like each man is an individual with their own needs, wants, desires, and priorities.

I do believe that in my own words that I said exactly the same thing!

 

[gracefulone1980]

Personality, sense of humor, can he make me laugh and does he get me like no ones else does.

 

[GloryBe!]

DEPENDABILITY! If you say you're gonna call, you better call. If you say you love me, you better show up if I'm in danger. If you're with me, you'd better not forget that I'm there.

Also, respect for my standards, respect of my parents,& willingness to provide a Christian home for us.

Glory be!

 

[Romanseight2005]

Character? Personality? Interests? Values? Appearance?

What does matter for the females? Because I'm quite confused

Values and faithfulness

 

[Autumnleaf]

Money. Women tend to be drawn to money, or the likelihood that you will be making good money soon. I work with many single women and they talk about such things. I'm old enough that I'm invisible to them so they are at ease around me.

 

[AmericanCacophony]

It depends on their age and their temperament. Money isn't a huge thing, but the older they are, the more they desire someone who is secure financially and has a car. They also usually want someone who is confident, but not arrogant. Sweet, but not too sensitive. Generous, but not a doormat. If the woman has values, they'll want the man to have strong values that are usually similar. But everyone is different.

 

[Autumnleaf]

It depends on their age and their temperament. Money isn't a huge thing, but the older they are, the more they desire someone who is secure financially and has a car. They also usually want someone who is confident, but not arrogant. Sweet, but not too sensitive. Generous, but not a doormat. If the woman has values, they'll want the man to have strong values that are usually similar. But everyone is different.

You are going to confuse the guy. Women want a guy who is interesting to be around. Money helps with that but it isn't necessary if you are interesting in other ways. Different girls are interested in different things.

 

[AmericanCacophony]

You are going to confuse the guy. Women want a guy who is interesting to be around. Money helps with that but it isn't necessary if you are interesting in other ways. Different girls are interested in different things.

If you are a slacker and going nowhere, they'll lose interest. And I said money wasn't that important and people are interested in different things. The point you bring up about being interesting is a good one.

 

[LinkH]

Women want guys with great skills.

Napoleon Dynamite - YouTube

Sorry I couldn't find a clip of the whole scene with video.

 

[Romanseight2005]

Again, guys speaking for women. Why do you bother asking us, if you are just hoing to tell us, anyway? I agree with the comment that different women want different things though. I must also say that I have yet to meet a woman who's top priority isn't faithfulness.

 

[mattyb1982]

Again, guys speaking for women. Why do you bother asking us, if you are just hoing to tell us, anyway?

Because, while I am sure you are capable of explaining what attracts you, Women statistically have been unable to explain what pushes their "attraction triggers"....IE.....Woman saying she wants, kind man/provider, but dates the jerks. Basically she says one thing and really does the opposite.

 

[Romanseight2005]

Because, while I am sure you are capable of explaining what attracts you, Women statistically have been unable to explain what pushes their "attraction triggers"....IE.....Woman saying she wants, kind man/provider, but dates the jerks. Basically she says one thing and really does the opposite.

I just can't help but put up a quote from Hermione Granger


"Just because you've got the emotional range of a teaspoon doesn't mean we all have." Hermione Granger-J.K. Rowling

 

[cloudstrife007]

hehehe
I guess I ask because I'm at odds into how relationships should work.

My dumb and naive mind thought that a godly man and godly woman who were close'ish friends could potentially come together. BUT boy was I wrong. There's this compatibility thing that I haven't quite understood

I definitely understand that we're all different and we all want/seek/desire different things. The bible doesn't tell us who to marry, it just gives us wisdom and guidelines on what's best and most helpful. Christian, godly, loving, one who fears the Lord, etc.

I guess compatibility and stuff comes from the wisdom that we learn from the bible. We might as well pick someone whom we get along with and understand right?

 

[richard william]

physical appearance should be the least one has to worry about thats for sure.....

 

[.Iona.]

I thought I knew, but as I get older I realise that I really have no idea what it is I look for. My relationships have all been so very different. I suppose the main things would be faith, and being there for me when I needed him - and even when I think I don't.