Hello. I'm a young 19 year old female and have been in a relationship with a guy for a few years. I love him dearly and we plan on getting married someday. However, he is away at college. I was going through a rough and confused time a few months ago, and ended up being unfaithful to him with two different men. I felt so much guilt, I prayed and prayed for help. I ended up telling him I was unfaithful, but ended up only telling him about 1 of the men. We are working on repairing our relationship and I am praying to God to forgive me and to help me to be a better person, yet the guilt of not telling the whole story is eating me up. I don't know what to do at this point because I don't want to hurt him or cause any sort of violence, but I am not sure how God feels about going through life without being completely honest with a loved one. What should I do? Thank you.
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What Do I do?
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You will be tormented unless you do tell him, and that will have real repercussions within your marriage. You need to take the risk. What you did was wrong, but sexual sins aren't the end of the world. Hopefully, both of you can see that. At 19 sexuality and good decisions aren't always well integrated.
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Ceili
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I don't know if the truth will set her free John. I have been unfaithful in relationships then told all and it just comes back at you. I think a good talk with your minister will help and ask forgiveness of God only and don't act this way again. We are human and we make mistakes but telling someone the entire truth only hurts them and they can't always forgive that. My opinion may not be what others agree with but I've had alot of things happen due to my own bad decisions. You do tend to think things differently once the damage is done.
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Thank you both! Gosh, I am torn. He is living out of state currently but is coming home for the holidays. I was planning on telling him sometime then in case he does want to make it work, then we can work on both fully healing. (I'm feeling a lot of guilt and sadness over the whole issue.) BUT on the other hand like Ceili said I'm just so scared of hurting him and losing him 
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