Hello. I'm a young 19 year old female and have been in a relationship with a guy for a few years. I love him dearly and we plan on getting married someday. However, he is away at college. I was going through a rough and confused time a few months ago, and ended up being unfaithful to him with two different men. I felt so much guilt, I prayed and prayed for help. I ended up telling him I was unfaithful, but ended up only telling him about 1 of the men. We are working on repairing our relationship and I am praying to God to forgive me and to help me to be a better person, yet the guilt of not telling the whole story is eating me up. I don't know what to do at this point because I don't want to hurt him or cause any sort of violence, but I am not sure how God feels about going through life without being completely honest with a loved one. What should I do? Thank you.
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What Do I do?
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DMMullinax
I could live in hope
I think the best way to go about this would be tell him the whole truth. I know if my girlfriend had been unfaithful or dishonest at some point I would definitely want to know everything, no exceptions. Sure, he'll be angry, but it'll all be out on the table and you can get on with repairing that relationship with no rocks left unturned. I know that'll be hard, but you can do it.
Just make sure to continue to pray about it!
Have a blessed day, and with whatever option you decide, good luck!
Just make sure to continue to pray about it!
Have a blessed day, and with whatever option you decide, good luck!
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I think the best way to go about this would be tell him the whole truth. I know if my girlfriend had been unfaithful or dishonest at some point I would definitely want to know everything, no exceptions. Sure, he'll be angry, but it'll all be out on the table and you can get on with repairing that relationship with no rocks left unturned. I know that'll be hard, but you can do it.
Just make sure to continue to pray about it!
Pretty much covered what I had to say... Don't beat yourself up about it.. sure, you have to recognize your mistakes and ask for God's forgiveness, but don't keep putting yourself down.. I would definitely want to hear the whole story too, if my girlfriend ever cheated on me.. Even if he ends the relationship, you would know that you were completely honest, rather than getting dumped later on after he finds out everything by himself.. Try to get your mind off things.. Read the bible, talk to people, and just live your life.. Hope everything works out fine..
God bless you!
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Godchaser_70
Married happily to my nupreacher
let me say that lying is not good,but as christians we do make mistakes and do it.
what you need to do is pray and go back to your boyfriend,and ask him how much does he love you. then be honest and tell him the whole truth not half truth. tell him you were afraid to tell him.
lying to yourself is making you feel guilty,thats not gult hun thats conviction. know that all will be better and that things will get better for you. trust god to save your relationship,he is the only one who can fix it sweety.
what you need to do is pray and go back to your boyfriend,and ask him how much does he love you. then be honest and tell him the whole truth not half truth. tell him you were afraid to tell him.
lying to yourself is making you feel guilty,thats not gult hun thats conviction. know that all will be better and that things will get better for you. trust god to save your relationship,he is the only one who can fix it sweety.
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Thank you all! He is living out of state currently but is coming home for the holidays. I am planning on telling him sometime then in case he does want to make it work, then we can work on both fully healing. (I'm feeling a lot of guilt and sadness over the whole issue.) But I'm just so scared of hurting him and losing him I guess I will just leave it in God's hands Any ideas of how I should go about telling him?
I guess I will just leave it in God's hands Any ideas of how I should go about telling him?
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DMMullinax
I could live in hope
I think when he comes home it should be the one of the first things you tell him. That's the most respectful thing to do. Tell him fully, and the weight of regret you have over this. I don't think there's much else to pretty up the situation. Honesty is the key.
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HarborOrange
I am a sieve.
Yeah, honestly, be honest. I'm with a girl right now, we're not dating yet, but we will be dating as soon as January rolls around. She held hands with a guy about a month ago at a party, and she felt like she had cheated on me. However, she told me as soon as she got home what had happened, and she and I were able to talk about it and work it out. I didn't get mad, I was hurt, yeah, but I wasn't mad. In the end, it all turned out alright and we're still together. So, I think telling the truth to your significant other is essential to make sure it might all turn out alright. He might be mad, yes, but he'll probably take it better than he would if he heard it from a friend. Also, he'll probably be proud of you for being able to have the guts to tell him the truth.
It will not be easy, but you'll have to do it. It'll come out one way or the other.
It will not be easy, but you'll have to do it. It'll come out one way or the other.
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Screamforjesus
reborn
i sorta know what you're going through but i was on his end and i'm not gonna lie it killed me. its not an easy thing to hear. honestly you need to just tell him
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