What do I do?

[crimson_dragon]

Hey

I don't knoe how to start really but here it goes.
There's this boy at skool(Jon) who likes me and I like him too. He's interested in my Christian life and really wants to go out with me. He's not a christian though.
Another one of my friends likes me too(Karl) but I don't like him the same way as I used to(he's an ex-boyfriend). He said that Jon only wants me for sex. He doesn't seem to be like that to me but I don't know. I don't want to start a relationship with him and then him to preasure me.
Also I want to be celibate when I marry. Jon keeps on saying "I bet that you'll give into temptation" and so on. I won't give in. I have determination. What should I do?
There's another thing too.
Earlier this year I was going out with a boy (Bradley) and he tried to pressurise me. I said no. But one night he was sleeping around (in the spare room) and came to wake me up at 5:00am to go downstairs. We went into the red room and he started touching me and getting 'horny'. I wanted him to stop but I loved him so much. We didn't have sex. I was sacred and wanted to say no but I didn't know how too.
Eventually, about a week or two later I got up the courage to tell my mum what had happened. I dumped him but I still feel really unclean.
I've asked for forgiveness.
What should I do?
Please help

 

[Rafael]

Just don't do it again till your older and married. You wouldn't want children at this young age, and the committment that goes with true love only comes with marriage to another believer where you can pull together towards the goal of a Christian life for the Lord.
I know that being young and having excessive amounts of hormones in the body during sexual maturity is a difficult time, but it is also a time where things can happen that will effect the rest of your life with regret. Believe me, ask for God's help to remain pure until you have a person you can follow after God together with in marriage. Then you can have a happy life with no regrets or mistakes to drag you down.
Love is so much more than sex....
God bless...

I JOHN 3:16-19 This is how we know what love is: Jesus Christ laid down his life for us. And we ought to lay down our lives for our brothers. If anyone has material possessions and sees his brother in need but has no pity on him, how can the love of God be in him? Dear children, let us not love with words or tongue but with ACTIONS and TRUTH. This then is how we KNOW that we belong to the truth and how we set our hearts at rest in his presence whenever our hearts condemn us.

 

[razzelflabben]

First advise, don't date an unbeliever. 2 Cor. 6:14 There are reasons why God doesn't want believers and unbelievers marrying and one of those reasons is that they do not share the same convictions, as you have already mentioned, one of those is premarital sex.

Young people often fall into a, I didn't know it would lead to this trap. (heck, we all can fall into that trap) This is one of satan's tools to trap people into sins of all kinds. Protect yourself from the possibility of opertunties for problems in the future. Don't be too trusting, even with people with the same convictions, including trusting yourself, we all fall, we all sin, even when we are determined not to, to court temptation, even if we didn't know at the time that it was temptation is setting ourselves up for a fall.

As to forgiveness, your feeling of unclean is most likely three things, one a warning to prevent the oppertunity of future indiscresions, and secondly, your need to forgive yourself not so much to forgive yourself for doing anything but rather for allowing yourself to be led in that direction. Thirdly, your boyfriends betrayal of you and his attempt at defiling you before your Lord. You did great to tell your mum btw. People need people they can trust, confide in, get help from.

Look for someone who wants to present you blameless before God for this is the role of the husband in marriage. Learn to allow yourself to be strengthened through all that is happening in your life, for this is what it means to submit and that is the role of the wife in marriage. Then, when your turn comes to marry and know the intimacy that a husband and wife share, you will be well on your way to a Godly marriage.

 

[desi]

Avoid people who you know are out for sex, joke with you about sex, or 'bet you'll give in to temptation.' Stick with nice guys instead.

 

[Ceris]

"He said that Jon only wants me for sex"
"Jon keeps on saying "I bet that you'll give into temptation" and so on."
I think that shows it right there. Get rid of this guy, immediately. Even I (one of the most oblivious people in the world) can see that based off of this, this guy Jon is not good for you.

(I'm sorry if I come across as uncaring but sometimes the best way to get a message across is by being blunt about it.)

 

[crimson_dragon]

Hey

Thanx everyone. I'm not going to go out with him.
I really want to find someone like me (a christian) but there arn't that many in England. Well, in my area anyway.
I'm 17, so I s'pose I have all the time in the world.

 

[Rafael]

Hey

Thanx everyone. I'm not going to go out with him.
I really want to find someone like me (a christian) but there arn't that many in England. Well, in my area anyway.
I'm 17, so I s'pose I have all the time in the world.

If you pray and ask God, He will send the right person, but you have to honor Him with your body until then. When we sin, we open up ways for the devil to attack our faith and lives with misfortune. Wait upon the Lord as His maiden. He can make your and my sins as white as snow.

Ro 12:1 ¶ For this reason I make request to you, brothers, by the mercies of God, that you will give your bodies as a living offering, holy, pleasing to God, which is the worship it is right for you to give him.

Isa 1:18 Come now, and let us reason together, saith the LORD: though your sins be as scarlet, they shall be as white as snow; though they be red like crimson, they shall be as wool.

 

[JVD]

At 17, unless you plan to get married in a year or so I think the best thing is not to go out with any boys at all. Group get togethers are one thing but hanging around with one boy at a time is a big waste of emotions, time, energy, and etc.

You have lots of time to find a great guy. Wait awhile and grow in the Lord. He will provide the right guy for you.