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What Can I do About My Enemy?

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I have read the gospels. I am reading the NT from start to finish. So if you think there is something that needs to be refreshed please let me know.

You have heard that it was said, ‘Love your neighbor’ and ‘Hate your enemy.’ But I tell you, love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you, that you may be sons of your Father in heaven. He causes His sun to rise on the evil and the good, and sends rain on the righteous and the unrighteous.
(Matthew 5:43-45)

And when His disciples James and John saw this, they said, “Lord, do You want us to command fire to come down from heaven and consume them, just as Elijah did?”

But He turned and rebuked them, and said, “You do not know what manner of spirit you are of. For the Son of Man did not come to destroy men’s lives but to save them.” And they went to another village.
(Luke 9:54-56)
 
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My mom has alot to deal with. The tenants that live above my mom have been harassing her for nearly four years now.

My mom talked with them about the noise they make and my mom tried to sort it out amicably. They refuse to accept the issue. My mom filed a complaint against them and that only made mattters worse they began downright harassing her, by making even more noise. I tried to talking to them and wind up calling the cops, so they are not easy to talk to. My mom has done everything she could, she has filed a complaint with the company that rents out the apartments. They don't want to do anything about it, because it's he said, she said situation. My mom say they make noise, they say they don't.

My mom escalated the case and filed a complaint with residents complaintt board wich is higher up in the Danish system and the highest place you can complain as a resident so it's pretty official. A meeting was said in place. It was the same thing over again, my mom say they make noise, they say they don't. The board can't or won't do anything because to them there is no evidence. It's he said, she said. Wich is the same as giving the tenants above my mom carte blanche to continue harassing her.

My mom have talked with the police several times and they say it's, not there juristiction because it's not tangible. So stomping in the floor day and night is not enough even though my mom never knows if she can sleep at night or relax in her own home.

This is a couple of years ago. My mom had an attempted break in when she was at the hospital. Even though there are surveillance cameras in front of the apartment building and inside by the stairs, the police said that no one came into the the stairs that did not belong. So by simple deduction it's someone that lives there, and yet the police closed the case. My mom's dog was home alone, thank God she was not hurt or stolen. But still my mom to this day does not leave her apartment unless there is one home to take care of her dog. So if she has a doctor's apointment or any other apointment, I am there taking care of her dog. When she is out walking her dog she does not care about the apartment because it's dead things. So it's all about the dogs safety for my mom.

My mom thought about moving. But why should my mom have an expense because these people don't know how to behave in a civil manner. My mom is not wealthy by any means and the rent she has is very affordable and all the other apartments that's up for rent are newer and therefore also cost alot more. In some cases 3 times as much as the apartment my mom has now.

They are still harassing my mom after nearly four years. She has come to the point where she is considering going to the media. But she does not know if that is the right thing to do. All she realy wants is to live a peaceful life.

I have prayed for vengeance.
Romans 12:19
Do not take revenge, my dear friends, but leave room for God’s wrath, for it is written: “It is mine to avenge; I will repay,” says the Lord.

My question is what more can I do to get rid of this enemy?

1 Timothy
1:18-20

18 Timothy, my son, I am giving you this command in keeping with the prophecies once made about you, so that by recalling them you may fight the battle well, 19 holding on to faith and a good conscience, which some have rejected and so have suffered shipwreck with regard to the faith. 20 Among them are Hymenaeus and Alexander, whom I have handed over to Satan to be taught not to blaspheme.

Can I hand over my mom's bane and harraser to Satan?
It is probably an older building with wooden or pergo floors and no carpet. Newer buildings have concrete floors and less noise. One way out is to move to another apartment, or put up with the noise. It is also bad near an airport, major highway or railroad tracks.

“Judge not lest you be judged...” Matthew 7:1-2
 
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My mom has alot to deal with. The tenants that live above my mom have been harassing her for nearly four years now.

My mom talked with them about the noise they make and my mom tried to sort it out amicably. They refuse to accept the issue. My mom filed a complaint against them and that only made mattters worse they began downright harassing her, by making even more noise. I tried to talking to them and wind up calling the cops, so they are not easy to talk to. My mom has done everything she could, she has filed a complaint with the company that rents out the apartments. They don't want to do anything about it, because it's he said, she said situation. My mom say they make noise, they say they don't.

My mom escalated the case and filed a complaint with residents complaintt board wich is higher up in the Danish system and the highest place you can complain as a resident so it's pretty official. A meeting was said in place. It was the same thing over again, my mom say they make noise, they say they don't. The board can't or won't do anything because to them there is no evidence. It's he said, she said. Wich is the same as giving the tenants above my mom carte blanche to continue harassing her.

My mom have talked with the police several times and they say it's, not there juristiction because it's not tangible. So stomping in the floor day and night is not enough even though my mom never knows if she can sleep at night or relax in her own home.

This is a couple of years ago. My mom had an attempted break in when she was at the hospital. Even though there are surveillance cameras in front of the apartment building and inside by the stairs, the police said that no one came into the the stairs that did not belong. So by simple deduction it's someone that lives there, and yet the police closed the case. My mom's dog was home alone, thank God she was not hurt or stolen. But still my mom to this day does not leave her apartment unless there is one home to take care of her dog. So if she has a doctor's apointment or any other apointment, I am there taking care of her dog. When she is out walking her dog she does not care about the apartment because it's dead things. So it's all about the dogs safety for my mom.

My mom thought about moving. But why should my mom have an expense because these people don't know how to behave in a civil manner. My mom is not wealthy by any means and the rent she has is very affordable and all the other apartments that's up for rent are newer and therefore also cost alot more. In some cases 3 times as much as the apartment my mom has now.

They are still harassing my mom after nearly four years. She has come to the point where she is considering going to the media. But she does not know if that is the right thing to do. All she realy wants is to live a peaceful life.

I have prayed for vengeance.
Romans 12:19
Do not take revenge, my dear friends, but leave room for God’s wrath, for it is written: “It is mine to avenge; I will repay,” says the Lord.

My question is what more can I do to get rid of this enemy?

1 Timothy
1:18-20

18 Timothy, my son, I am giving you this command in keeping with the prophecies once made about you, so that by recalling them you may fight the battle well, 19 holding on to faith and a good conscience, which some have rejected and so have suffered shipwreck with regard to the faith. 20 Among them are Hymenaeus and Alexander, whom I have handed over to Satan to be taught not to blaspheme.

Can I hand over my mom's bane and harraser to Satan?

Wow. That's a LOT to unpack.

I'd first like to ask if she's taking a cell phone and recorded the disturbances? A few good recordings from different locations in her apartment, the hallway, etc. can quickly show that the tenants above are not being entirely honest by saying they aren't making noise. Getting a few recordings on a few different days should adequately prove your mother's case.

Now, I want to discuss imprecatory prayer. Such prayers are seen throughout the Psalms, Gospels, and Epistles with saints of God praying that God arise and smite their enemies, etc. They are even found in the book of Revelation, so yes, they are for today.

However, a deeper look at imprecatory prayer reveals that it isn't about vengeance or getting even. It is typically about justice and the relief of oppression or abuse at the hands of persecutors or abusers. Maybe this is at a level of serious abuse towards your mother. But you'll notice that the goal of imprecatory prayer is that God bring peace between all parties involved and even save their souls if at all possible... before God arise and shatter their teeth or drag them upon the hills of Zion. Also remember, imprecatory prayer is highly symbolic. God may not literally shatter their teeth... but He might throw them into a trial to correct their behavior nonetheless. Ultimately, imprecatory prayer has to be to cease the abuse and must have a deep love for the enemy and desire for their salvation and reconciliation. It's never wise to pray such prayers while angry. Remember, the measure with which we judge is the measure God demands we must meet. So, such a spirit of vengeful imprecatory prayer could actually bring God's correction... upon you. So, beware. Make sure your heart is absolutely right when engaging in this level of warfare. You must want what is best for all parties involved. Not just God's punishment or your own vindication.

Typically such prayers are seen under persecution, during war, etc. Tread lightly. But yes... PRAY.
 
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There is that. But what made Paul give up praying for Hymenaeus and Alexander and hand them over to Satan? I guess at some point enough is enough.

Jesus also said
Luke 22:36
He said to them, “But now if you have a purse, take it, and also a bag; and if you don’t have a sword, sell your cloak and buy one.

I don't think the sword is for cutting fruit.

Politicians, police, the authority in my country is weak and unrightous.

I am the authority no one is above me but God. I will pick up that sword! I will be God's servant!

Romans 13:1-5
Do you want to be free from fear of the one in authority? Then do what is right and you will be commended. 4 For the one in authority is God’s servant for your good. But if you do wrong, be afraid, for rulers do not bear the sword for no reason. They are God’s servants, agents of wrath to bring punishment on the wrongdoer.
There is such a thing as leaving room for God's wrath, if kindness is not your natural inclination. (Romans 12:19-20, see also Romans 12:18)
 
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Like I said my mom has a good apartment. Why should she move?

Move, and the harassment ends.
An apartment you can't sleep in isn't a good apartment.

"Resentment is like taking poison and waiting for the other person to die"
"Murder is when you've poisoned yourself so much, you've gotten tired of waiting"
 
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Move, and the harassment ends.
An apartment you can't sleep in isn't a good apartment.

"Resentment is like taking poison and waiting for the other person to die"
"Murder is when you've poisoned yourself so much, you've gotten tired of waiting"

Sadly, not everyone has the resources to simply move. Not only must you typically put down money for first months rent and deposit, but you also have to transfer utilities, this requires being all paid up, and then there is the expense of hiring movers to help you move your things if you're not a young buck who can move it all yourself.

I vote she records the disturbance and take it to the office. If they still won't help her, turn to the media with the video for all to see.
 
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My mom has alot to deal with. The tenants that live above my mom have been harassing her for nearly four years now.

My mom talked with them about the noise they make and my mom tried to sort it out amicably. They refuse to accept the issue. My mom filed a complaint against them and that only made mattters worse they began downright harassing her, by making even more noise. I tried to talking to them and wind up calling the cops, so they are not easy to talk to. My mom has done everything she could, she has filed a complaint with the company that rents out the apartments. They don't want to do anything about it, because it's he said, she said situation. My mom say they make noise, they say they don't.

My mom escalated the case and filed a complaint with residents complaintt board wich is higher up in the Danish system and the highest place you can complain as a resident so it's pretty official. A meeting was said in place. It was the same thing over again, my mom say they make noise, they say they don't. The board can't or won't do anything because to them there is no evidence. It's he said, she said. Wich is the same as giving the tenants above my mom carte blanche to continue harassing her.

My mom have talked with the police several times and they say it's, not there juristiction because it's not tangible. So stomping in the floor day and night is not enough even though my mom never knows if she can sleep at night or relax in her own home.

This is a couple of years ago. My mom had an attempted break in when she was at the hospital. Even though there are surveillance cameras in front of the apartment building and inside by the stairs, the police said that no one came into the the stairs that did not belong. So by simple deduction it's someone that lives there, and yet the police closed the case. My mom's dog was home alone, thank God she was not hurt or stolen. But still my mom to this day does not leave her apartment unless there is one home to take care of her dog. So if she has a doctor's apointment or any other apointment, I am there taking care of her dog. When she is out walking her dog she does not care about the apartment because it's dead things. So it's all about the dogs safety for my mom.

My mom thought about moving. But why should my mom have an expense because these people don't know how to behave in a civil manner. My mom is not wealthy by any means and the rent she has is very affordable and all the other apartments that's up for rent are newer and therefore also cost alot more. In some cases 3 times as much as the apartment my mom has now.

They are still harassing my mom after nearly four years. She has come to the point where she is considering going to the media. But she does not know if that is the right thing to do. All she realy wants is to live a peaceful life.

I have prayed for vengeance.
Romans 12:19
Do not take revenge, my dear friends, but leave room for God’s wrath, for it is written: “It is mine to avenge; I will repay,” says the Lord.

My question is what more can I do to get rid of this enemy?

1 Timothy
1:18-20

18 Timothy, my son, I am giving you this command in keeping with the prophecies once made about you, so that by recalling them you may fight the battle well, 19 holding on to faith and a good conscience, which some have rejected and so have suffered shipwreck with regard to the faith. 20 Among them are Hymenaeus and Alexander, whom I have handed over to Satan to be taught not to blaspheme.

Can I hand over my mom's bane and harraser to Satan?
Don't make any deals with Satan. But regardless, it is not yours to do, but God's.

At this point, I would go about collecting evidence.
 
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Like I said my mom has a good apartment. Why should she move?

Pslams 37:10-11
A little while, and the wicked will be no more;
though you look for them, they will not be found.
11 But the meek will inherit the land
and enjoy peace and prosperity.

My mom has endured 4 years of this.

There has been no incident before they moved in above my mom. She has been living there for 40 years, but the last 4 years have been horrible.

The building is made of concrete. with wooden floors on top. New apartments cost 2-3 times at much, my mom can not afford it.
Your mother may stay there. It is difficult to move when you are old.

I bought my first condo in 2001. It was in a high rise with concrete floors in a high crime area with the occasional sound of gunfire on a summer Saturday night. On 9-11 Al Qaeda terrorists flew a jet plane into the Pentagon a few miles from my home. My car was vandalized more than once. I was robbed by a gang of youths while walking to buy a Sunday paper. One of the community residents died after being attacked by a gang of juvenile thieves after he refused to give them money. I moved to an older red brick building in the suburbs where there was little crime. It had wooden floors above the ground floor. The owner of the unit above me put pergo on the wood floor. The children above me made too much noise dropping or throwing things. I did not file a complaint. I moved from there after five years. Six years ago I bought a manufactured home in a gated 55+ community. It went up in value. A year ago I bought a vacant lot as an investment. It has risen in value. I am supposed to be thankful and not complain too much. Others have to endure worse conditions than I.
 
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I vote she records the disturbance and take it to the office. If they still won't help her, turn to the media with the video for all to see.

What they are doing is evil;

She can love the evil (bake them a cake every day anonymously and leave it on their doorstep until the decide to be nice to her, but this might also turn into casting pearls before swine and she might find it rejected)

"Love your enemies" Matthew 5:44

Resist the evil (take them to court, media, complaints, in which case they will lie and fight it and make her as miserable as they can while doing so, possibly the cakes are full of laxatives in this case)

"I say to you, do not resist an evil person" Matthew 5:39

Or leave the evil (inconvenient, unfair and unfortunate, but often the best choice and leading to a better peace) "shake the dust off your feet"

I'd strongly consider 1 or 3. I doubt 2 is going to do much more than encourage them to escalate. And an elderly woman is going to get the worse of it in a war of escalation, as she has already seen.
 
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