Hi all.
I have a relationship issue. I am recently divorced (finalized in April) and he is single (never been married). We were also in a long distance relationship and live 400 miles apart in different states.
So that and the fact that we met online make things difficult. The worst part is that we met and started talking a few months before i had the money saved up to actually file for divorce from my husband that i never had feelings for at all (we were only married because we were high school sweethearts- each other's first everything- and we were just comfortable and thought it was the next step in life - We divorced when i miscarried and was told i cannot have children - he now is in a relationship with someone else and is taking care of her two kids).
We did meet and sleep together before the divorce was filed once and again after my ex moved out and we were just waiting on the divorce papers to be finalized (in my state you are required to wait 60 days) Well. We've been together a year now and i would like to be Facebook friends and get to know his siblings and parents because things are getting serious. Like very serious. we're deeply in love and i can't imagine life without him. He is a very good Christian man and came from a very strict religious household. I was raised Christian too, but had been away from the church for about 12 years (This man actually talked me into going back and im happy to say i love my new Church family and was Baptized on 9/8/13!!)
The problem is, he is TERRIFIED to tell anyone about me at all. No one knows he even has a girlfriend and its been a whole year. I understand he couldn't tell anyone while i was still married, but now that we're both single, he still won't. His fear is that his very religious parents will judge us too harshly for the way we met (online and had an affair) and will force us to break up.
Now I posted this same question a while back, but we've made some changes and I wanted to see what ya'll thought since I really do get some great insight here.
We decided to break up. It wasn't right continuing in the sin that our relationship began in. Of course im broken to peices inside, and he's not too thrilled either, but we both came to be convicted because we knew biblically we shouldn't be together. But problem is, I still love him. So soo much. We don't really want to lose each other. Do you guys think that since we've repented, asked forgiveness, broken up, ceased contact for now, that will show his parents and everyone that we're on a good path spiritually and that maybe one day we would be ok in the general public, but most importantly God's eyes to get back together? I can't imagine having a family with anyone but him. He brought me back to God and he's the most wonderful man i know, we just didn't have the patience to wait for my divorce to start our relationship the first time and now are paying for that. any thoughts are appreciated. Thanks all and I hope you have a beautiful day
I have a relationship issue. I am recently divorced (finalized in April) and he is single (never been married). We were also in a long distance relationship and live 400 miles apart in different states.
So that and the fact that we met online make things difficult. The worst part is that we met and started talking a few months before i had the money saved up to actually file for divorce from my husband that i never had feelings for at all (we were only married because we were high school sweethearts- each other's first everything- and we were just comfortable and thought it was the next step in life - We divorced when i miscarried and was told i cannot have children - he now is in a relationship with someone else and is taking care of her two kids).
We did meet and sleep together before the divorce was filed once and again after my ex moved out and we were just waiting on the divorce papers to be finalized (in my state you are required to wait 60 days) Well. We've been together a year now and i would like to be Facebook friends and get to know his siblings and parents because things are getting serious. Like very serious. we're deeply in love and i can't imagine life without him. He is a very good Christian man and came from a very strict religious household. I was raised Christian too, but had been away from the church for about 12 years (This man actually talked me into going back and im happy to say i love my new Church family and was Baptized on 9/8/13!!)
The problem is, he is TERRIFIED to tell anyone about me at all. No one knows he even has a girlfriend and its been a whole year. I understand he couldn't tell anyone while i was still married, but now that we're both single, he still won't. His fear is that his very religious parents will judge us too harshly for the way we met (online and had an affair) and will force us to break up.
Now I posted this same question a while back, but we've made some changes and I wanted to see what ya'll thought since I really do get some great insight here.
We decided to break up. It wasn't right continuing in the sin that our relationship began in. Of course im broken to peices inside, and he's not too thrilled either, but we both came to be convicted because we knew biblically we shouldn't be together. But problem is, I still love him. So soo much. We don't really want to lose each other. Do you guys think that since we've repented, asked forgiveness, broken up, ceased contact for now, that will show his parents and everyone that we're on a good path spiritually and that maybe one day we would be ok in the general public, but most importantly God's eyes to get back together? I can't imagine having a family with anyone but him. He brought me back to God and he's the most wonderful man i know, we just didn't have the patience to wait for my divorce to start our relationship the first time and now are paying for that. any thoughts are appreciated. Thanks all and I hope you have a beautiful day
