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Kristen.NewCreation and FreeinChrist
I can understand frustration with it for sure, and you're not the only one who'd rather be asexual sometimes. But there's a difference between that and acting like you're an evil sinner who's bound for hell simply for having such drives and a physical need for sex at a time when you're not married. I see the latter way too much.
If you're concerned about characterization, there's the Mary Sue litmus test. If you score too high than you can figure out what you've done wrong with your character, if anything.I'm trying but I keep getting stuck because I have too many ideas and none at all. I'm trying to figure out ways to describe everything because I'm one of those people and keep thinking it's not good enough. This story has to be perfect. I need it to be morally gray with no really good characters and no really bad characters. They need to feel flawed and human.
If you're concerned about characterization, there's the Mary Sue litmus test. If you score too high than you can figure out what you've done wrong with your character, if anything.
http://www.springhole.net/writing/marysue.htm
I, on the other hand, just get so amazed by other people's writing that I just assume I can't do anything to get to their level. I also get very concerned over what would-be criticism would say--not that they'd tell me I need improvement, but just that even if my writing was excellent they'd still hate it because they just didn't like it.
Have you considered showing it to others? Not just friends or family who will like it because they know you personally, but the typical average-Joe--or whatever equivalent you hope would read it.I've used it millions of times.
There's always, always room for improvement and I absolutely thrive on opinions because I need keep cultivating. But I hate the constant need for it to be good enough, and I know it's like opposites and it's a conundrum but I need to tell this story in a perfect way that can't be interpreted in a stupid love story. I want people see the two MC's relationship as abusive and unstable, not support it. I want people to see the story, not a romance, if this takes off. I want people to feel conflicted about the characters, I don't want people see anyone as good or evil in it. I need to just stop thinking about it, and do it.
Have you considered showing it to others? Not just friends or family who will like it because they know you personally, but the typical average-Joe--or whatever equivalent you hope would read it.
I actually am in the process of reading The Beautiful and the Damned (f. Scott Fitzgerald wrote it, same guy who wrote a great Gatsby). I say this because the protagonist and his wife are very human--they are far from innately "evil" or malicious, and they make plenty of mistakes. And yet you can't quite sympathize with them because they also have some very bad character traits. At first I got a bit upset when the book seemed to get more depressing, but then it ouccurred to me that i wasn't supposed to like the characters at all. Try reading that or something similar for an interest balance of "I don't like these characters, but I'm fascinated enough to keep reading because I want to see what will happen to them".
Thank for your care. I am still struggling with Depression and Social Scare . Because of the Web Block in China I can not visit here sometimes.How are you doing friend? Haven't seen you on here for a while.
I think there are some websites you could post it to. Sort of like fanfiction.net for original work. I wouldn't know if any in particular are good, though.I only show my friends who are writers and have a writing blog I sometimes post to, but don't tag because the website I post it on will get up in arms about what I write. For social justice or something. A few people have the link. If you do a little digging, you'll be able to find it.
I'll check it out. I didn't really like The Great Gatsby. I think I read it at a bad time. I like those types of characters.
I think there are some websites you could post it to. Sort of like fanfiction.net for original work. I wouldn't know if any in particular are good, though.
That actually sounds very interesting, but it sounds like it would be hard to write. have you considered something like writing "stepping stones?" I have this one novel I have in mind, but it's starting to occur to me that I can say some of the same things in some short stories. Like I could practice writing on a topic and then expanding it with a novel. Just a thought. You could hone the characterization with some practice in other stories.I didn't like fictionpress, and I do write fanfiction to practice. I'm good with where I post it, even if the user base is too sensitive for my taste. I can't stand people who want everyone to agree with them always. That's part of the reason why I'mw riting it. Like, my main character believes everyone should agree with her simply because she was born as the chosen one (heavily deconstructed) and is very disillusioned because of the life she lived, so she does what everyone wishes they could do: take control. But it costs her greatly. To some, she's a hero, to others, she's the villain.
Every now and then, I see threads in the Recovery section where members get so down on themselves simply for having a sex drive, and it makes me sad that they're so hard on themselves for something that is just part of how human beings are wired.
Passing by with hugs for you all that need one.
To those who feel unworthy. Prayers.
I've been up since 3am. Got up with an unusual feeling of anxiety. Not sure why or what is causing it at the moment.
Major random thoughts are racing through my head right now.
I feel like requesting for prayers to help me help others. I feel fearful that my own messy life and feelings gets in the way of helping out. It feels like I'm being completely greedy and way too needy.
Is that weird feeling in my tummy. Just like that feeling we get before surgery or a major job Interview. Makes me pace back and forth hoping it stops. I hate taking any type of meds, so I'm just relying on prayer right now.
Ugh.
I ended up sleeping for 8 hours over three times so that is not bad at all, the negative is that I'm as down as anything from it and feel like a bulldozer is clearing my good life every hour a bit more, it is already crushing and still progressively getting worse. Might crash soon and see if I can escape this reality for a bit.
I hope you people are feeling better than me.
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