What Age Did You Two Get Married?

[Sascha Fitzpatrick]

I'm just doing a little study, so please forgive me.

Most of my friends who are Christian got married a HECK of a lot younger than my non-Christian friends. I'm just wondering when applied over a far larger scale (ie the married population of this forum vs the married population of a non-Christian forum) if this still ends up being the case...

Also, if you have any thoughts, please give your opinions as to WHY you think the Christian population gets married FAR younger than the non-Christian population. I'm praying it's not just all to do with sex and the Bible's viewpoint on it!

Thank you!

Sasch

ps. Please answer the poll as YOUR age, and then add your spouse's age in your posting. If you have been married more than once, please just indicate the age you were at the first wedding, and then elaborate more as you desire!

 

[charligirl]

I was 32, he was 45 (second marriage for him)

I think christians get married younger for a number of reasons, obviously that sex/courtship/dating thing is a pretty big pull. I also think there is the whole view that marriage is God's plan, and you pray for the 'one' so when you meet them you may as well just jump in and get wed.

I have to say in the UK I have not observed many young christian marriages - many people I know were older (24-30) when they got wed... perhaps it is more a US christian thing.

 

[karla]

I was 22 and he was 23 - we were married the month after I graduated from college. We would have done it sooner, but we thought waiting until school was done was the best thing for us.

 

[LiberatedChick]

My husband and I were both 21 when we married.

I too have noticed that Christians tend to get married younger than non-Christians (many of those I know think you're mad if you get married any younger than 25-27). However, I can assure you that, at least in our case it wasn't due to sex, or even Christianity for that matter. When we first got engaged we were both non-Christians. Before our wedding we were living together, sexually active and both non-Christians. So for us the fact we married young (would have been younger if we'd had the money to have done so back then) was simply because we'd found someone we wanted to spend the rest of our lives with early on in life.

 

[Oblivious]

I was 26.

 

[HisWinterRose]

It was 1978 when my husband * I got married & it was wonderful too. He would be turning 22 in June & I was 21 so ... it's been a good time & we will be celebrating our 27th year together come APRIL 2005

 

[redwing030]

I was 22 and he was 25 when we were married.

 

[Jenna]

I was 20, and Michael had just turned 21. We got married when we did because of pregnancy though. I think that if things had worked out differently, we would have waited longer.......and lived in sin longer. I'm glad we married when we did.

 

[Lulubee]

I was 21, he was 24. I just wanted to be married but I have encouraged my younger sisters to WAIT! Of course, my situation will be different than theirs because I didn't follow God's will for my life back then. Most Christians I know do get married younger, especially in the church I grew up in but I look at the way the church imposed beliefs on families there and part of it is that people need to get married right away to procreate. It was all very 1950's.

 

[katelyn]

I was 20, hubby was 21. We dated for almost 3 years before we got married.

 

[KleinerApfel]

I was 19, and he was 21 just 2 days before the wedding!
23 years ago next month.

God bless, Susana

Edit to add:
Neither of us were Christians at the time, and he is not yet.

 

[Lena75]

I was 19 and he was 26. Mom and dad always said "it's only a number" before we started dating. Once we started dating and mom and dad were asking his age, I told them and their jaws dropped on the floor. I said, "Hey! It's only a number!" Goin' on anniversary number 10 December 4th!

 

[selune]

We were both 20. We wanted to get married earlier, but waited because of family wishes.

 

[Green Orchid]

I was 20, he was 22.
We would've gotten married sooner, but we wanted to finish college first.

I think Christians get married earlier than non-Christians because they don't move in together. So many people move-in together when they're very young, but if these people got married, the statistics would be higher for young marriages. Just like in the old days...

 

[Busybee]

We were both 23 when we got married on April Fool's Day lol.

 

[Singin4Him]

Both my husband and I are 22 (we were married in June). Any younger I just don't think it's a good idea, especially at 18 or 19, at that age you don't even know who you are as an adult or really even what you want in life.

 

[nvrbnunloved]

I was 24 and hubby was 26 - BUT - I was not a Christian yet at that time, that didn`t happen until the following year.

 

[andiesmama]

I was 31 and my husband was 25....we were & are both Christians, and for the record, didn't live together prior to getting married!!

 

[Yitzchak]

My first marriage, I was 20 and she was 19. For us the reason we married young was the fact that both of us had a life dream of having a Christian home together and out first priority was home and not career.

 

[LynnMcG]

I was 28, my DH was 27. We were both saved the year before we were married. We had been together for five years (lived together for 4) before we were married. We lived apart (3,000 miles apart) the last year before we were married which is when we were saved. It's a weird thing for our family (we were both raised Catholic) because we had this situation where we were going to have to live together in our old apartment for 6 weeks before our wedding. Since we were saved now, and didn't believe in pre-marital sex, we eloped. Most of our family doesn't know because some of our family became really angry when they found out. They're not saved and thought we were ridiculous and that we were simply conning the family at our big, second wedding. They couldn't be happy about our decision for Christ - they were simply concerned about us accepting gifts! Silly.