What a sub-forum name!

[Godlovesmetwo]

Post deleted as requested.

 

[LaSorcia]

Hey, maybe that's not too bad an idea after all lol. An aunt or uncle would do as well.

 

[Chesterton]

You start out in courtship, you end up in a courtroom.

 

[thecolorsblend]

I don't relate at all to this modern fad of "Christian courtship". It's quite puzzling. Is the bride's virginity guaranteed? Is her father offering a dowry? I laugh every time I see some silly book or blog about "Christian courtship". It's just insane.

But live and let live, I guess.

 

[Godlovesmetwo]

MOOD HAT ON.
Thread now clothed at OP's request.

 

[Dave-W]

MOOD HAT ON.
Thread now clothed at OP's request.

And they should remain clothed until after the wedding ........

 

[Dave-W]

I don't relate at all to this modern fad of "Christian courtship". It's quite puzzling. Is the bride's virginity guaranteed? Is her father offering a dowry? I laugh every time I see some silly book or blog about "Christian courtship". It's just insane.

I guess we were way ahead of the curve. We did "courtship" back in the 1970s. (Josh Harris who kicked off the trend was still a pre-schooler)

Nothing was guaranteed. Parents had nothing to do with it. It was all the congregational leaders.

It had a horrid track record. I believe the 10 year divorce rate was over 60%. In the ensuing "purity culture" that Harris foisted, the track record was not much better.

 

[LaSorcia]

I really don't know what the courting movement was. When I hear the word 'courting', I think of Mennonites, especially Amish ones. They don't date, they court-at least that's what they call it. No emphasis on proving the woman is a virgin (and what about the man?), just 'dating' in a nice, Christian way.

 

[thecolorsblend]

No emphasis on proving the woman is a virgin (and what about the man?)

Um, "courtship" historically didn't really require the man to be a virgin in a lot of cases. The idea of it just bugs me, you know?

just 'dating' in a nice, Christian way.

I don't know why they can't just call it "Christian dating" or some such then. That's way less pretentious than "Christian courtship" in my opinion. And it's a least a bit more accurate. "It's a type of dating where the participants keep their clothes on!" Pretty simple definition, really, and it doesn't require writing some fruity little book about outdated (and typically one-sided) notions of "chivalry" or some such.

So anyway...

 

[Dave-W]

I don't know why they can't just call it "Christian dating" or some such then.

Because dating is all on the couple.

Courtship is initiated and coached by third parties; beit parents, congregational leaders, friends, etc.

 

[dayhiker]

So glad I'm old enough to not have third parties overseeing my life, including dating!