well.. I do not know can I try ..ex before marriage?

[ArmanaTirs]

Well..

I really do not know can I try or can not s..x before marriage?
My frind tell me, that I must pray once before and twice after to God.. then I can..

Is is trust? Please, HELP me, I really have doubt!!!

 

[Macx]

Do NOT have sex with your husband to be unless you are 100 and a little bit % sure he won't get cold feet. I am unconventional/ strictly Biblical . . . If a man lays with a woman he is taking her as his wife. Laying with a woman makes her your wife, laying with a man makes him your husband . . . adultery is anything outside that. Nothing magical about the ceremony. I contend that there is no such thing as sex before marriage . . . there is such a thing as sex with someone who isn't your spouse . . . there is such thing as marriage after lawful divorce & widows/widowers marrying . . . but sex equals marriage. Sex is how you seal the deal, doesn't matter if the words are spoken first or after, doesn't matter if there is a ceremony . . . none of that is specified in the Bible. What does matter is that after/as you have sex with a partner, you forever after regard them as your spouse & you don't enter into that blindly or without care.

You should note: I am an Anarchist, I chose no law but that that is explicitly dictated by Scripture. Some will argue that Scripture indicates adherance to worldly governments . . . I'll just lay it out there that Civil Disobedience is required by my polity. Ho Rah the 1st, 4th and 6th amendments!

 

[ArmanaTirs]

Thank you. I will think about it!

 

[scrofford]

The Bible is very explicit about sexual immorality. It says that the sexually immoral will not inherit the Kingdom of God. If you are a true Christian and are really living for Jesus Christ, then you will not do that. Period. Marry him and then you are able to enjoy what God has created between a man and a woman.

 

[Krystabelle]

It is quite clear that God forbids sex before marriage. He created sex, it's not a bad thing. It is perfectly normal that we are attracted to a person of different gender cause that's how God designed us. But sex is made by God and it's a seal of marriage. One man and his woman. Adam and Eve were in the gardens and I can guarantee you they weren't just picking fruit. But it was fine, they were married.

But if you think from another perspective, if you were to have sex before your marriage, what makes you think you or your husband won't do it with someone else when you aren't married. No offense intended, just some thoughts to ponder about.

If you are one of those who think intimacy needs "practice" (its ridiculous but I actually have heard of ppl deciding on the right person cuz of how good they are in bed), that's a balant lie. When you are married you have all the time to discover yourselves.

 

[Autumnleaf]

From a Christian perspective its better to wait. Most guys I know don't want to wait.

 

[Forealzchola]

However if it is a guy who loves and respects you, he will wait. Many times, that is the only test we have as women to see if a guy is genuine and sincere, if hes willing to wait and the faithful to you after that.

 

[Johnnz]

You don't always learna lot about sex the first time. It can take time for a couple to discover how deeply sex and intimacy go together. And, just the matter of 'technique' is something couples develop over time too.

God's design if for sex within a stable, committed relationship. That's when we can discover the best of sexual fulfilment.

John
NZ