Weird for a Christian girl to behave this way?

[Jonathan95]

and so if the LORD is not leading her to you, you need to encourage her as your own sister in Jesus to be blessed in whichever way she goes in sharing with you. So, feeling rejected would be not at all relevant to relating with a Christian lady who lets you know how she finds our Heavenly Father is guiding her. If she trusts you by telling you, build on this for howsoever God desires for you to share as brother and sister

But if you are looking for mainly what you want, this is not denying yourself and taking up your cross of all-loving love > Luke 9:23. And the one God has for you can be a gentle and quiet person (1 Peter 3:4); so, whether she is for you or not, I think we need to not let our attention be so shanghai'ed mainly to her.

Yes I'm fine with having her as just a friend, seeing her as a sister in Christ. I need to be better on encouraging women as sisters in Christ, but haven't been talking to girls so much, so it's hard, but I've become more confident, otherwise I wouldn't even dare share the prophetic words with her even.
I'm an introverted person, and generally I'm not very social, but when it comes to evangelism and stuff I'm a lion.

I don't struggle with seeing women with lust anymore, so I can see Christian girls as sisters in Christ.

I'm not just looking for a relation, I've been single my whole life, it's more until now that I've been feeling more want of a woman in my life.

Also, the reason why I put more meaning to my recent meetings with this girl also, is because a man on facebook who lives in Kenya and who I haven't met before, he has prophesied over me before. He called me (before these recent meetings with this girl) and started prophesying over me, told me God's leading a woman to me because I need it to boost me, and described her as someone who loves to travel, is instrumental etc. And all of that fits in with this girl.

But I still wonder why when we first said Hi to each other, before all the hugging, she said she was going, as if she was trying to avoid me, or if she was just insecure/shy, or if she wanted me to take a step. I told her to wait and told her I wanted to talk to her, or something like that.

Ok . . . so, if we are family, we can talk with someone about something like this. But if you don't feel like you and she are brother and sister, for some reason you might not be ready to look into things with her. Pray and trust God to rule you in your heart about this. If we are family, she is your Jesus sister, first, so it does not matter if she wants to get romantic or married with you; because we so value being brother and sister, that personal details are too less important. So, appreciate any sharing you have with her > even a few minutes is plenty, in God's love. This is a new meaning I have learned from >

"be content with such things as you have" (in Hebrews 13:5).

Yes it's true, she's my sister first.

 

[OcifferPls]

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[paul becke]

'......I'm a woman, and I can tell you we are a strange lot. We don't even understand ourselves.'

I'm not saying anything, Galatea.

 

[com7fy8]

Hi, Jonathan > that's encouraging that you are learning and growing to see this way, I feel. So, God bless you to keep discovering how God blesses you.

I need to be better on encouraging women as sisters in Christ, but haven't been talking to girls so much, so it's hard, but I've become more confident

I think it is good not to push for getting more involved with women in general. But grow and enjoy how you discover each one you share with

They are not only a class of human beings, but each one is unique, and we need to feel our way with each one. There are ones who can be very good to help us learn and grow in how to relate in God's love and being good examples; but others can have issues and we need to know how to relate with them and be able to see how people are, so we don't go along with wrong things.

But be ready with compassion >

"He can have compassion on those who are ignorant and going astray, since he himself is also subject to weakness." (Hebrews 5:2)

So, with one you do not belong with, or with that special someone > we need to always be ready to forgive. We will discover things about people as we spend time with them. Will we still love each one, while we discover the real truth about him or her? Even our role model people can be wrong, at times > this, I now understand, is why our Father says we need to relate "with longsuffering" (Ephesians 4:2) with our Jesus family people >

"with all lowliness and gentleness, with longsuffering, bearing with one another in love," (Ephesians 4:2)

I'm an introverted person, and generally I'm not very social, but when it comes to evangelism and stuff I'm a lion.

Being prayerful is good. I think it is good to be able to reach out to lost people; this can take expression. But, for intimate sharing, possibly it is good to be able to be contemplative and sensitive so we can be mutually submissive >

"submitting to one another in the fear of God." (Ephesians 5:21)

Real relating, I consider, is deeper than our talking and expressing. So, there can be a helpful, way, I think, of being introverted > paying attention to how we are with God while sharing, and being attentive deeply to how we are while sharing so we aren't getting into lust or anger or controlling or trying to use people, and meanwhile we are enjoying and appreciating being with our really Christian Jesus family people.

I don't struggle with seeing women with lust anymore, so I can see Christian girls as sisters in Christ.

This is very good. I have been told not to consider women to be "objects" to use; love does not have us just using anyone. And I will add, like I offered above, it is good to not treat them like a group of all being alike.

I'm not just looking for a relation, I've been single my whole life, it's more until now that I've been feeling more want of a woman in my life.

So, possibly God has you getting ready for someone. But I spent some while praying to be corrected and prepared by God so I could do well with a really Christian lady. But . . . now that I am with one . . . big surprise > our close and personal sharing exposes how both of us are not perfect!! I see now how God meant for us to help one another get more correction and maturity in how to love with each other and love any and all others, including reaching to and being examples to the ones who do not know how to love >

"For if you love those who love you, what reward have you?" (in Matthew 5:46)

Also, the reason why I put more meaning to my recent meetings with this girl also, is because a man on facebook who lives in Kenya and who I haven't met before, he has prophesied over me before. He called me (before these recent meetings with this girl) and started prophesying over me, told me God's leading a woman to me because I need it to boost me, and described her as someone who loves to travel, is instrumental etc. And all of that fits in with this girl.

Prophecy can work in strange ways. He could be the man God uses; and she could be the lady He uses to confirm, but she might be a sample of the lady for you, and then you discover the real one. So, appreciate and enjoy however God does bless. With her, in any case, you can learn how to relate with patience and being sensitive to however God is really leading her, and support her whichever way God takes her. She is trusted to you, for more or for less.

By "instrumental", do you mean she is a musician who plays at least one musical instrument? Or, might you mean she is one God uses as His instrument? If she is, then be ready for however she is used, at times, and honor her.

But I still wonder why when we first said Hi to each other, before all the hugging, she said she was going, as if she was trying to avoid me, or if she was just insecure/shy, or if she wanted me to take a step. I told her to wait and told her I wanted to talk to her, or something like that.

We might not have time to figure or find out what is the meaning of what has already happened, Jonathan What comes next will be enough to handle! And how things develop can help interpret what has already happened; so enjoy discovering how creatively our Father does with us.

Yes it's true, she's my sister first.

very good

And while you are learning, you can be a good example to help others also to learn and grow. So, thank you for sharing such personal things with us all

 

[Jonathan95]

So, possibly God has you getting ready for someone. But I spent some while praying to be corrected and prepared by God so I could do well with a really Christian lady. But . . . now that I am with one . . . big surprise > our close and personal sharing exposes how both of us are not perfect!! I see now how God meant for us to help one another get more correction and maturity in how to love with each other and love any and all others, including reaching to and being examples to the ones who do not know how to love >

Yes I've grown a lot in 2 years, and many people have told me that. I've been praying to God to prepare me for the woman He has for me, I want to be a man after His own heart.

By "instrumental", do you mean she is a musician who plays at least one musical instrument? Or, might you mean she is one God uses as His instrument? If she is, then be ready for however she is used, at times, and honor her.

I meant musical, sorry, haha

We might not have time to figure or find out what is the meaning of what has already happened, Jonathan What comes next will be enough to handle! And how things develop can help interpret what has already happened; so enjoy discovering how creatively our Father does with us.

That's true, I tend to ponder over things a lot, sometimes too much, could be both good and bad at times.

However, I've been praying to God to help me encourage her and talk to her, and I did that now today, and today she told me she wants to come to my church on Sunday, and she also invited me to a Facebook group for Christians in her city, for people to give information about Christian events, Christian sports events, café social meet-ups and so, both in her city and my city, and encouraged me to share about any event if I know any.

 

[com7fy8]

I've been praying to God to help me encourage her and talk to her, and I did that now today, and today she told me she wants to come to my church on Sunday

It could be that, as you just love her and appreciate her and do not try to makes things happen, then things will happen

 

[Jonathan95]

It could be that, as you just love her and appreciate her and do not try to makes things happen, then things will happen

Yes could be But the other guy she tagged in a photo, who she went to church with before me, I never see him encouraging her and stuff like I do, commenting her photos and posts. Yet she seems to like him more.

I've just been a bit sad and frustrated realizing I haven't had so much friendship with girls, even less with Christian girls, in my life, and men to teach me about relations and stuff. I even find myself having it easier many times to talk with non-Christian girls and sometimes even find myself better friends with them.
So I've felt a bit rejected by God and my sisters in this area.

If I don't have Christian sisters to talk to, how should I know how to treat them, apart from what God has taught me.

Some time after I had invited her to my church, she one day said she wants to come, and asks if I'm going. So I met her there.
It was really interesting, because I was a bit worried first since she wasn't on time, and she came bit late, and it's not as if I looked around waiting for her. Just as I stood in worship, I turned to the right and there she suddenly stood smiling at me.

She came with two friends, who are a couple, and during the service she and her friend laughed a lot, and she told me why, the man had proposed to her friend in the church entrance, funny because my church's name is "One heart church".

At the church coffee, her friends she came with just sat with us briefly, and had to go early, yet she didn't go with them, and sat with me, and even though church members, some of whom she knew a bit invited us to their table, so we wouldn't sit alone, she still sat with me.

Afterwards, we were going to go on the subway train, commuter train together (and I'd go off on a station before hers), and we had a walk in the city a bit before. That's where things started to get really nervous for me and I think I was quite insecure around her, I had never really been alone with a girl that way before. But she seemed quite nervous as well, also during the church coffee.

I think she got really disappointed because I wasn't as secure as she thought.

Also, she doesn't follow me on Instagram, after about 6 months or so maybe, and yesterday, as I was praying for her, she randomly tagged me in a Christmas photo on Instagram, even though she doesn't follow my profile, and I told her that she doesn't follow me and she just laughed about it.

Then photos with quotes like ""Women do not need to be polite to someone making them uncomfortable"" that she likes on facebook comes up in my feed and I start thinking it's about me, and feel guilt.

I also fear she's going to talk bad about me to other Christian girls, the Christian world is small in my country, and she knows some of the girls in my church a bit.

 

[Jonathan95]

I seem to be more appreciated by worldly girls than Christian girls, even though I even share my faith and testimony with some.

 

[com7fy8]

So, it seems you and she have something in common. And while you are insecure, yes you can get the wrong impression of each other. So, I consider it is wise to pray (see Philippians 4:6-7) and not to trust any negative and insecure stuff, because Jesus does not put us to shame; but don't assume things are great, either, but >

"Test all things; hold fast what is good." (1 Thessalonians 5:21)

Test for however God blesses you, and you can become stronger and more secure, as we grow in Jesus.

If ladies around me don't stop for long to share with me, I consider they have things and people to take care of; so I appreciate every moment with each one, and at times ones do want to spend more time with me.

So, I stay ready for ones to talk quickly or for someone to surprise me by staying a while. But always be ready to free a lady to move on to whatever good she will be doing elsewhere. Because the ones who genuinely love me also love any and all others; so they have various people they dearly care about, and they want to check up on them all, maybe

And it's good to know a lady like this, because I might be able to help her to love all the people she loves. My lady friend is always talking about different people and their hard and their nicer things. So, loving a really Christian woman can include being able to listen to all her caring about a lot of people

But in case you are comfortable talking with worldly women . . . Jesus left Heaven itself in order to reach and share with us here on this earth. So, Jesus is not conceited, though He is so superior and has all He enjoys of Heaven. So, Jesus does want you to care for and take a personal interest in ones who do not know God. What matters, though, is we do not let their ways become our ways! But be their example of how they can become.

And God can make you more comfortable with each other . . . however He wants to trust you with each other. Whatever He really wants is enjoyable to discover.