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I guess you must ask yourself, do you like her and want to pursue her?
If not, don't respond to her hugs in a way you deem inappropriate
In the US, many girls will hug and think nothing of it. Especially if they are younger- they don't realize that a warm embrace could be interpreted as interest.
Do you talk to her online or on facebook?
Why not call her up and see if she would like to go to lunch one day since she studies in your city. That way, you can see if she is interested or not.Yes I have talked with her a bit on facebook, but that's not the same as talking to her face to face, I don't want to get to know her (or any other girl either right now, for that matter) over facebook first, she lives in a city 1 hour away and studies at a university in my city.
But I live in Sweden, would you say it would be normal for a girl to embrace a man that way in USA, if she's not into you?
You're 20 from Sweden, I was around 20 when I was last time around charismatic Christians in Finland, so I would say our experience is somewhat comparable.
We did occasionally hug each others there with other Christians. Don't read too much into it, if she doesn't give any other signs. Some people like to give you a good hug just as a "you're nice person" -sign, and that's it. It could be something else, or not.
I see, well it's not just about the hug, why would we stare into each others eyes, and why'd she brush her head against my chest, moaning?
I've never heard of any Christian girl doing that to someone they don't know.
Why not call her up and see if she would like to go to lunch one day since she studies in your city. That way, you can see if she is interested or not.
Okay, I don't mean to be dismissive of the other people who have responded, but they've all been guys. I'm a woman, and I can tell you we are a strange lot. We don't even understand ourselves. The only way you will know FOR SURE if she likes you is to ask her, unless she volunteers the information. I know being rejected is awful, but it is much better to be rejected than to never know. Some girls are intentional flirts, some are unintentional. Hanging around her might give you an idea, but it may not.I've been thinking about that or coffee, but I fear rejection. I will think about it.
Some girls are intentional flirts, some are unintentional. Hanging around her might give you an idea, but it may not.
And then, some people are quite huggy at church. I've been in churches where it was normal for people to hug each other, so there may be that, akin to your praying with each other moments.Yeah.
I left the "ask her" part out because he already said he doesn't want to do that. That's the most obvious way, naturally.
Some people give more unintentional signs than others. People are different. There is also this thing as "heat of the moment" - if you have just prayed with someone or had a deep discussion, there might become a moment when it feels okay to show affection, and then it fades away and there was no big scheme involved in it.
But again, you never know what she had in mind for sure unless you get to know her, or ideally, maybe after some 'getting to know' first, ask her.
She might just be a hugger. A lot of women and girls are. They don't mean anything by it. I would say, it doesn't sound like she is interested in you since she didn't want to go to church with you. I wouldn't put much store in her hugging you.
It's kind of common in the US- in the South, anyway. I think the op is a charismatic, so hugging is normal in charismatic churches (actually one of the lovely things about pentecostals in general is their warmth).The only women huggers I know are my aunts! I never been hugged by any other women before even in the church.
So if any woman in the church hugs me, I would think it would be very very strange.
rejection stinks, but it's part of being a man in that you need to be willing to venture out and take the lead.
It's kind of common in the US- in the South, anyway. I think the op is a charismatic, so hugging is normal in charismatic churches (actually one of the lovely things about pentecostals in general is their warmth).
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