Wedding ring

[cajunhillbilly]

It has been two years since my beloved wife, Christy, died. I still wear my wedding ring. When is it right to remove it? I hope some day to remarry, but I feel like removing it is like saying Goodbye to her forever and she is still in my heart. Oh I am 54 years old.

 

[memoriesbymichelle]

My husband died in January 2005. My wedding ring was "broke" due to the diamond falling out. I never had it fixed because I wanted my husband to buy me a bigger diamond. Mine was very tiny as we didn't have much money when we bought it (which was 3 years after we were married). I took his ring off before he died and I still wear his band on my right hand with one of my rings on the same finger (to keep it in place). I would say whenever you feel comfortable taking it off, would be the right time for you. You aren't saying good-bye to her. Just maybe to the relationship you knew on earth. You will see her again in eternity, and she won't have minded if you got remarried either. I used to be concerned with that, but I know my husband would have remarried if I had died, and I wouldn't have been upset with him if he had either. I heard of one couple that were both widows and they had their "old" wedding rings made into necklaces for themselves to honor their first mates.

 

[pammie54]

You wear your ring for as long as you need to. It is different for everyone. In the first year I could not even imagine not wearing mine. Then in the 2nd year I bought a ring to wear in it's place. I called it my widow's ring. Now I wear no rings at all.

 

[JeanR]

I go back and forth with my rings. Some days it is a comfort, some days I feel like I shouldn't wear a wedding ring since I am now single. I like what my grief counselor said: there are no rules.

 

[Chrystal-J]

I took my husband's ring and put it on a gold chain/necklace of mine and placed it on a teddy-bear that I won at the State Fair (a place he used to enjoy going with me each year). I may put mine on there with his.

 

[Mary60]

My husband has been gone almost two years & I still wear my wedding ring. I do wonder sometimes if it would be better if I took it off. I think that as long as I wear it I still feel married & can not come to terms with the fact that I am not. It is nice to read about how others have handled it.

 

[cajunhillbilly]

I took my ring off finally. It was last week. I now feel it was the right choice. I bought a chain and will be putting the ring on the chain around my neck as a remebrance of my beloved Christy. I think she will like that. I am sure she is smiling in heaven and will keep praying for me. (Yes I believe the saints in heaven pray for the saints on Earth).

 

[AnnMarie2007]

My husband has been gone almost two years & I still wear my wedding ring. I do wonder sometimes if it would be better if I took it off. I think that as long as I wear it I still feel married & can not come to terms with the fact that I am not. It is nice to read about how others have handled it.

I think when you are ready, you will take them off. Until then, see yourself as married to our Lord.

Time will heal all. Don't push yourself. When the time is right, the Lord will show you.

(((HUGE HUGS)))

 

[AnnMarie2007]

I took my ring off finally. It was last week. I now feel it was the right choice. I bought a chain and will be putting the ring on the chain around my neck as a remebrance of my beloved Christy. I think she will like that. I am sure she is smiling in heaven and will keep praying for me. (Yes I believe the saints in heaven pray for the saints on Earth).

That was a very nice idea

 

[IBLuke226]

I took my ring off finally. It was last week. I now feel it was the right choice. I bought a chain and will be putting the ring on the chain around my neck as a remebrance of my beloved Christy. I think she will like that. I am sure she is smiling in heaven and will keep praying for me. (Yes I believe the saints in heaven pray for the saints on Earth).

Hi Ya


I see you have made a choice
Don't be suprized if you go though different moods about wearing your band.

I wore my ring for about 6 months after Kim died
on the left hand. Then I took it off and set it with
her set on the dresser. I have felt for about the last three months that I wanted to put it back on so
now I wear it on my right hand.

And my daughters still do not want to look at her
jewery and choose what they would like to have.

 

[Hisbygrace]

Hi everyone. My husband Buck died in May 2002. I wore my ring until my daughter married and then I passed it on to her. Not wearing my ring has not made me feel any less a part of the bond that him and I shared. I don't know how I feel about remarriage for myself, but I am leaving that up to God. Buck and I were married for thirty six years and though he has been home with the Lord for five years now, there are still times when I miss him terribly. But I know that God is with me and He carries me through those days. My faith is in Him who comforts my soul.

 

[Mary60]

I took my ring off finally. It was last week. I now feel it was the right choice. I bought a chain and will be putting the ring on the chain around my neck as a remebrance of my beloved Christy. I think she will like that. I am sure she is smiling in heaven and will keep praying for me. (Yes I believe the saints in heaven pray for the saints on Earth).

I tried not wearing my ring today when I went to the grocery store & it felt very strange. I don't know if it was the right thing or not. Don't you think if it was right for me it would not have felt so strange?

 

[memoriesbymichelle]

I tried not wearing my ring today when I went to the grocery store & it felt very strange. I don't know if it was the right thing or not. Don't you think if it was right for me it would not have felt so strange?

Not necessarily...it's something new, so of course it might feel weird. But I agree with everyone else, each person is different and whatever we choose to do, is right for us at the time.

 

[JeanR]

Just take your time and if you want to wear your ring, then wear it. I went back and forth, sometimes wearing my ring and other times not, and in both situations it felt strange. I have not worn my rings now for about 2 months and it is the first time I feel ok with it. Just take your time.

 

[cajunhillbilly]

My wedding ring is on a chain around my neck which I wear all the time

 

[LadyLace]

Hi....I am new to the boards. What a nice site!

After my husband died, I sent both of our rings to our jeweler and asked her if she could melt both of them down and make a new ring for me using all of the gold.

At my request, she made a triple band intertwined together, each band to the other symbolizing my husband, myself and our Lord together in our marriage.

For me, it was and is a good thing to do!

 

[memoriesbymichelle]

Hi....I am new to the boards. What a nice site!

After my husband died, I sent both of our rings to our jeweler and asked her if she could melt both of them down and make a new ring for me using all of the gold.

At my request, she made a triple band intertwined together, each band to the other symbolizing my husband, myself and our Lord together in our marriage.

For me, it was and is a good thing to do!

What a wonderful idea. I recently lost my wedding ring because it was in a tote bag because the diamond had fallen out and someone broke into my truck and stole the tote bag! Bummer. Insurance paid me for it but it wasn't a very expensive ring. I needed the money more than I needed a ring so now I don't know when/if I will ever get a ring like it again. I really loved the ring too because it had a dove on it, and I'm told that doves only mate once for life.

 

[LadyLace]

What a wonderful idea. I recently lost my wedding ring because it was in a tote bag because the diamond had fallen out and someone broke into my truck and stole the tote bag! Bummer. Insurance paid me for it but it wasn't a very expensive ring. I needed the money more than I needed a ring so now I don't know when/if I will ever get a ring like it again. I really loved the ring too because it had a dove on it, and I'm told that doves only mate once for life.

Oh Michelle....your ring sounds beautiful!! I am so sorry that someone stole it!!
The dove only mates with one for life? Wow, I didn't know that!!

 

[memoriesbymichelle]

That's what they say! http://www.maweddingguide.com/dovesaflight.htm

 

[LadyLace]

Thanks for the link!