wedding night

[Beth1231]

Sex on the wedding night would have been waaay too stressful. You are still processing "Whoah! We got married today!" and you probably just traveled to a hotel and you're tired. I was looking forward to the emotional connection and the physical intimacy, but not sex. We talked about it beforehand, so there was no pressure. Just lots of cuddles, kissing...all those things we kept back during courtship and engagement. The next morning, though ..that's a different story.

 

[DragnGT]

Oh I know that, thats why you need to bring lube and have a little fun before you get ater and remember to bring towels...sorry that was prob TMI

Oh and guys be gentle and go sloooooow.

Nah, not tmi, some may have need that info.

I wouldn't not marry someone because of that, its not like its the end of the world. What if shes on her period????

Could be part of the wedding planning. And I agree that's not a reason to not marry someone. Odd though.....

 

[Periann]

Seriously, is there one topic that IS sacred on CF? lol.

Ok Im strange I guess (this is rhetorical no response necessary lol) but I think it would depend on when my wedding night is for me to be comfortable about doing the physical things. For example if it's on a Saturday and the next morning we have to go to church I think I would be more comfortable on holding off for all that until later. Because then you're going to have everyone knowing that we just had sex and that would so ruin it for me. I know Im strange and I probally lost everyone with this thought. But as in hopefully most things I hope to be able to submit to my husband on my wedding night in what he wants to do!

LOL, so I guess I would have to go with emotional connection...

 

[Sketcher]

Seriously, is there one topic that IS sacred on CF? lol.

Ok Im strange I guess (this is rhetorical no response necessary lol) but I think it would depend on when my wedding night is for me to be comfortable about doing the physical things. For example if it's on a Saturday and the next morning we have to go to church I think I would be more comfortable on holding off for all that until later. Because then you're going to have everyone knowing that we just had sex and that would so ruin it for me. I know Im strange and I probally lost everyone with this thought. But as in hopefully most things I hope to be able to submit to my husband on my wedding night in what he wants to do!

LOL, so I guess I would have to go with emotional connection...

Wouldn't you be on your honeymoon the next morning? I'd think that if you were going to church, you at least wouldn't be in town. Besides, people are going to assume that anyway.

 

[Periann]

I don't know I guess leaving for the honeymoon the day after would have to be in the plans I guess. Im thinking of the weddings Ive been to among church members and how many of them (I can only think of one exception) went to church the next day and were formally introduced as a married couple. Honestly I dont know how much I'd care when I get to that point but it's such an intimate thing to me that even sharing the knowledge of that happening with someone else (let alone an entire community of relatives and people who've known you forever) is distasteful to me now, even if it's an assumption that everyone is sharing anyway. I think the only solution is to have an immediate and extended honeymoon

 

[bella_song]

I can see it now..."we would now like to announce the union and marriage of Mr and Mrs (insert name here) who were married yesterday, and who consumated all of last night, let's give them a round of applause!"


But you know, even if you don't do the deed that night, everyone is going to think that you did anyway, so you might as well!

 

[Periann]

I can see it now..."we would now like to announce the union and marriage of Mr and Mrs (insert name here) who were married yesterday, and who consumated all of last night, let's give them a round of applause!"

Oh...the horror. That is not happening to me! LOL! Now Im all thinking of where I would like to go on my honeymoon...Im thinking Bhutan, Nepal, or Singapore...nice scenery and all of that...hmm.

 

[Alenci]

I can see it now..."we would now like to announce the union and marriage of Mr and Mrs (insert name here) who were married yesterday, and who consumated all of last night, let's give them a round of applause!"


But you know, even if you don't do the deed that night, everyone is going to think that you did anyway, so you might as well!

Oh...the horror. That is not happening to me! LOL! Now Im all thinking of where I would like to go on my honeymoon...Im thinking Bhutan, Nepal, or Singapore...nice scenery and all of that...hmm.

ROFL.

Oddly enough I've had that same hilarious thought. "Oh dear, they'll know I have sex with my husband!" It's not as if most people aren't married and haven't been there before. They're just happy for you. Besides, sex is a gift and not an embarrassment. And let's be honest... we have to assume they're normal people and aren't going to put too much thought into it.

 

[InTheFlame]

I think I'd have to say the emotional part. There's a difference between premarital and marital (whoops, almost typed 'postmarital') sex. Hubby and I abstained before marriage, but I hadn't with other bf's. Anyway, I was looking forward to the physical pleasure in part, but boy am I glad that wasn't the main focus... I was so lost in 'oh cripes, we're goin' past ALL the boundaries!' that it would've been quite a let-down. Think it was similar for hubby - probably our worst performances ever

PS. Don't be afraid to schedule 'time for relaxation after reception and before sex' into your wedding day. We deliberately planned to have everything finished by about 4pm so that we could head straight to our honeymoon destination (about 1/2 hour down the road - go the destination wedding!) and just veg out together. Maybe the best wedding day decision we made!

 

[Jedi]

Oddly enough I've had that same hilarious thought. "Oh dear, they'll know I have sex with my husband!"

Haha, I love that thought. You know others are thinking it: "I know what they'll be doing tonight." Dang right. I'll be ready to jump on her like a grasshoper! Rawr!

Well, gently of course.

 

[Sketcher]

Oh...the horror. That is not happening to me! LOL! Now Im all thinking of where I would like to go on my honeymoon...Im thinking Bhutan, Nepal, or Singapore...nice scenery and all of that...hmm.

Yeah, and don't return until you've had your first child. Wait, that's not going to change their perception either.

Just a little hint: Don't honeymoon in France.

 

[sweetlambofgod]

Yeah, and don't return until you've had your first child. Wait, that's not going to change their perception either.

Just a little hint: Don't honeymoon in France.

why?

 

[InTheFlame]

Yeah, and don't return until you've had your first child. Wait, that's not going to change their perception either.

Course it will. OK, they'll know you HAD sex, but everyone knows the sex stops when the first child comes along

 

[Sketcher]

why?

Because the French are the only culture I know of that is obsessed enough with sex to care about which saint consummated his marriage where. If anybody's going to give her this grief she fears, it would be the French.

Course it will. OK, they'll know you HAD sex, but everyone knows the sex stops when the first child comes along

But they'll still know you had sex, and the evidence will be irrefutable. You will be forever busted.

 

[bella_song]

Because the French are the only culture I know of that is obsessed enough with sex to care about which saint consummated his marriage where. If anybody's going to give her this grief she fears, it would be the French.

Hehe....I have wanted to go to France and Italy for several years, I suppose it is a good thing that I am not shy! Fankly, I'll probably be giggling and joking about the fact that we are having sex for the entire first five years that I am married! It will probably become five years for it to seem like a normal part of everyday life (yes, I did say everyday life).

But they'll still know you had sex, and the evidence will be irrefutable. You will be forever busted.

I suppose this is a case where you had better not destroy the evidence...

 

[JulySheMustFly]

I was so excited to be able to sleep the whole night(don't translate sex) with my husband and not have to get up at 2 am to go home just so others wouldn't think we were living together. I was looking forward to the relief of not having to worry about how others were judging that aspect of my life.

 

[Alenci]

Course it will. OK, they'll know you HAD sex, but everyone knows the sex stops when the first child comes along

Whaaaa...?

Noooooooooooooooooo!!!

 

[gbalaundrygnome]

Sex on the wedding night would have been waaay too stressful. You are still processing "Whoah! We got married today!" and you probably just traveled to a hotel and you're tired. I was looking forward to the emotional connection and the physical intimacy, but not sex. We talked about it beforehand, so there was no pressure. Just lots of cuddles, kissing...all those things we kept back during courtship and engagement. The next morning, though ..that's a different story.

I agree. I was looking more forward to the connection. I was tired, and had a cold, and traveled 4 hrs after waiting several hours to leave for there. We ended up getting there at 1am, so we were plumb tired. We cuddled, then the morning was a different story.

 

[The Princess Bride]

ROFL.

Oddly enough I've had that same hilarious thought. "Oh dear, they'll know I have sex with my husband!" It's not as if most people aren't married and haven't been there before. They're just happy for you. Besides, sex is a gift and not an embarrassment. And let's be honest... we have to assume they're normal people and aren't going to put too much thought into it.

BWahahahaa!!

That is the best phrase I have heard in a while....

I must admit I have had that thought cross my mind several times....

Though I personally wont care, I'll be having to much fun!

 

[Periann]

Yeah, and don't return until you've had your first child. Wait, that's not going to change their perception either.

Just a little hint: Don't honeymoon in France.

Well thanks for the hint I guess. I don't want to honeymoon in Europe anyway, if we can afford a trip out of the country I want it to be somewhere really unique. And it's not about changing the perception, it's just...uncomfortable IMO that other people will be thinking that about your wedding night, even though there isn't anything wrong with it. Oh my goodness what is wrong with me! LOL. I know it's a little ridiculous, but Im glad that this thought has at least crossed other peoples minds as well.