wedding night

[Alenci]

I wanted to say "both," but since that's not really an option and the question is what I'm looking forward to "most," I put the emotional connection. Knowing that here I am with this girl, no boundaries between us, able to lose ourselves in each other in a cloud of love and adoration, holding her close in the most intimate way possible, fully trusting and open with each other, being as close as possible to each other - actually inside her.

Dang. That's freaking awesome. Now, um, just to find that girl - or better yet, have God bring us together. Oh, how impatient I grow in learning this lesson of patience.

Note: of course, I do not mean to downplay the physical aspect at all. Of all people, I know very well the power of pleasure the body is capable of feeling and so desperately desire for that special young lady to experience that powerful rush of raw, unbridled, physical pleasure. How true it is that the physical pleasure fiercely forges the bond between a man and his wife in a passionate heat that reigns supreme.

To be honest, I've believed that the connection is part of the pleasure, and that is one reason why I want to save myself. It's God's complete sex package, vs. the world's cheap shortcut.

EXACTLY. I was confused when I started to read some of these responses. To me, the physical and emotional are BOTH components of sex. I intended it as "physical pleasure versus emotions both within the context of sexual relations." Yet when most of you read my question, you framed it in your mind in terms of "sex versus emotions." Goodness gracious. Do we all want cold, passionless sex, void of all love, trust and commitment? What is sex when you remove all the glory of God's design? It is two animals procreating. I don't understand how anyone could view sex in such an unflattering light... much less want so little from it. What a cheap, secular view of God's gift.

 

[Alenci]

I voted physical That was my first thought and I didn't take much time to focus on the answers. See, the emotional connection and intimacy is overall more important in the long run. But the way I see it, the major thing that the wedding night implies is being able to have sex with that person you already love and are already emotionally connected to but not physically. So yea, I look forward to that. That doesnt mean that's my reason for marriage. Like I said the emotional and spiritual respect is more important in the long run but I have to admit, I'd be looking forward to physical intimacy on my wedding night more than anything else.

. . . . . .Maybe I'm the only one really being honest??

. . . .Well, I really don't think I'm shallow. I just went with my first instinct.

B4A

See, I don't view sex as a puzzle piece that completes a relationship. To me, marital sex takes a relationship and elevates it to a completely new plane. Sex will take that former emotional and spiritual connection and completely blow it out of the water through physical unity. It is a sort of glue that makes marriage work. God makes two seperate, unique people one. That oneness gives them incentive to strive toward a more harmonious relationship.

 

[Weasel7711]

For the wedding night and the honeymoon, im definately looking forward to the physical aspect, but hopefully there will be strong emotional feelings fused with it to make it that much more exciting and enjoyable.

 

[connectadot18]

I Have to admit that I do Look forward to the Physical side but the Emotional Connection is way more important to me which gives me the patience to wait for who ever God has chosen for me.

 

[american_eggroll]

i am definatly looking foward to both

 

[sweetlambofgod]

The physical enhances your emotional connection. You recognize that contact as love, commitment and trust, in more than just words.

To be bluntly honest, on my wedding night I hope I don't hear "I'm not doing that."

Both but the Emotional connection more so

 

[Beautiful Fireball]

Everything, not having any boundaries or regrets, pretty much what others have said.

 

[CrystalBrooke]

well I already had the other 2 things (I know shame on me)...honestly I was looking forward to having someone to go to bed with, for the longest time I have hated sleeping alone...now I have my hubby to cuddle with when I go to sleep

 

[Cordelia]

I voted other because what I look forward to most is being able to just wallow in the feeling of being married (if it exists, I hope so!) and spending that first bit of time together as husband and wife.

I would hope the emotional connection would already have been happening, or else why marry? And the sex will happen when it happens. I wouldn't care if it wasn't that night.

 

[Beanface]

other: dowry

pssht not really. I'd say it's neither one of the two, but an equal combination of both

 

[JacobHall86]

Where is the "doin the dirty dance" option?

The connection will already be there, if there was no connection she wouldnt be my wife.

 

[AceHero]

wedding night...I imagine we'll be so tired not alot happens..

honestly, I'm just looking forward to being able to fall asleep holding the woman I love. (And waking up with her as well...)

Yeah, the "waking up with her for the very first time" definately sounds awesome. Just the feeling of waking up with someone else with no regrets makes the wait worthwhile.

I wanted to say "both," but since that's not really an option and the question is what I'm looking forward to "most," I put the emotional connection. Knowing that here I am with this girl, no boundaries between us, able to lose ourselves in each other in a cloud of love and adoration, holding her close in the most intimate way possible, fully trusting and open with each other, being as close as possible to each other - actually inside her.

Dang. That's freaking awesome. Now, um, just to find that girl - or better yet, have God bring us together. Oh, how impatient I grow in learning this lesson of patience.

Note: of course, I do not mean to downplay the physical aspect at all. Of all people, I know very well the power of pleasure the body is capable of feeling and so desperately desire for that special young lady to experience that powerful rush of raw, unbridled, physical pleasure. How true it is that the physical pleasure fiercely forges the bond between a man and his wife in a passionate heat that reigns supreme.

Both, but mainly the emotional connection. I want to feel his body over me and to feel him inside me...to be able to trust him so fully and give him the thing that I can't give to anyone else.

In some ways I think the physical pleasure helps to create that intense emotional bond that wouldn't be possible outside of marriage because without commitment, I don't see anything other than physical—and it wouldn't necessarily be a physical connection, because it would be greedy and unequal—the only emotional feelings might be heartache.

 

[Alenci]

I really wasn't very clear in setting out the question. Hence I've gotten a lot of confused and ambiguous responses. But that's alright.

Next time I will come out and say "sex" instead of using an ambiguous euphemism like "wedding night." Just because they're synonymous to me doesn't mean others interpret them that way. (Although I, for one, would be horrified at the thought of NOT having sex on my wedding night.)

 

[Jedi]

(Although I, for one, would be horrified at the thought of NOT having sex on my wedding night.)

Thank you so much for being honest about that. I've heard numerous girls say they wouldn't mind at all if they didn't have sex on their wedding night and I'm like :o

 

[JacobHall86]

Thank you so much for being honest about that. I've heard numerous girls say they wouldn't mind at all if they didn't have sex on their wedding night and I'm like :o

Come on, you know thats not your response, your response is the same as mine. "Well, its been fun, have a good evening"............

 

[DragnGT]

To the ladies... I know that you want this to be a great experience and all, but you understand that it will be uncomfortable right? Some may, some may not but that's what I understand from other girls.

 

[sweetlambofgod]

To the ladies... I know that you want this to be a great experience and all, but you understand that it will be uncomfortable right? Some may, some may not but that's what I understand from other girls..

Oh I know that, thats why you need to bring lube and have a little fun before you get ater and remember to bring towels...sorry that was prob TMI

Oh and guys be gentle and go sloooooow.

 

[sweetlambofgod]

Thank you so much for being honest about that. I've heard numerous girls say they wouldn't mind at all if they didn't have sex on their wedding night and I'm like :o

I wouldn't not marry someone because of that, its not like its the end of the world. What if shes on her period????

 

[mina]

hmmm, I think it's important to talk with your fiancee about expectations on the wedding night. Realistically both the groom and the bride are probably going to be exausted to do all that much, but it can still be a fun time and enjoyable time. Communication between you and yer beloved is important and it should be talked about beforehand so that your spouse is ready and comfortable for what is going to happen. Communication is the key to great sex, or so i've been told, lol. that and practice.

 

[sweetlambofgod]

hmmm, I think it's important to talk with your fiancee about expectations on the wedding night. Realistically both the groom and the bride are probably going to be exausted to do all that much, but it can still be a fun time and enjoyable time. Communication between you and yer beloved is important and it should be talked about beforehand so that your spouse is ready and comfortable for what is going to happen.

I totally agree!