wats going on.........

[Yoshi426]

well....





let me put it this way,





i think im falling for one of my friends,





problem is she is a girl





and she isn't the first girl ive liked





to add to that, well ill leave it at that for now

thanks for caring

 

[AllForJesus]

Oh dear! Don't worry we all sin(and i think i'm the most sinner on earth) but the point is that we must try to stop by asking God's grace.

 

[Johnnz]

Long before homosexually became an everyday term these were called "teenage crushes". Most survived them and moved on to be pretty heterosexual people.

Most likely its just you new sex drive seeking expression, and you haven't got all its newness fully intergrated into your thinking, like most teenagers.

John
NZ

 

[Yoshi426]

Long before homosexually became an everyday term these were called "teenage crushes". Most survived them and moved on to be pretty heterosexual people.

Most likely its just you new sex drive seeking expression, and you haven't got all its newness fully intergrated into your thinking, like most teenagers.

John
NZ

but how do i know if they're just "teenage crushes" or something else...

 

[Akathist]

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[SmackYouTwice]

Pray about it. Ask God to help you understand that having those feelings (and taking them any father) is wrong and why.

This is also something I have struggled with since... well, I spose it really made an impact when I was 17-ish. I know it's wrong! But that's not to say I don't still struggle... altho, it's been a good year since I have, so maybe I got it thru my head/body and hormones (lol), with the guidance and grace of God, that it's WRONG, NO NO.



I'll be praying for you!

 

[Finn88]

This girl is your friend right?
So maybey you love her? I love alot of my friends, but when your hormones are all over the place like they are at your age (I still have trouble sorting out feelings in my head sometimes) loving a friend can really easily get mixed up with being in love with said friend!
Its pretty normal really.
Where it becomes a problem is if you start dwelling on, fantasising about or acting on feelings! So make sure you take it to God, ask him to help you clear your mind of wrong thoughts you have towards your friend! Youll be fine
does that make sense?

Finn.

 

[BelindaP]

It's not uncommon at your age to be confused about your sexuality. While it is possible that you are fully homosexual, it is also just as likely that you are confused.

Boys your age are pretty icky, so don't worry if they don't have any appeal for you right now. It'll take another 10 years or so before they are really presentable.

Your hormones have kicked in now, too. You are experiencing your sexual awakening at a time when boys are generally icky, and (at the same time) you are developing very close friendships with other girls. It's easy to get confused.

I think that the more you dwell on these thoughts, the more confused you will become. Try focusing on other things when these feelings come up. You may find that they aren't as much of a problem if you keep at it. *** In the meantime, try not to worry about it too much. It's something that many people go through.

 

[Buttermilk]

s and s for you

 

[Johnnz]

but how do i know if they're just "teenage crushes" or something else...

Thanks for asking an unanswerable question, lol

Hormonaly active teenagers are often very sexual. This can result in a general sexual awareness and an idenifiable desire for some kind of sexual expression. That desire meets moral boundaries head on. But a general sexual awareness is normal, and that can sometimes be somewhat bisexual in some younger teenagers, although most don't actively indulge in homosexual actions. Within a year or two most are clearly normal heterosexual people.

Internally, there may be little discernable differences between a 'crush' and a real same sex orientation. Broken hearts result from the loveof one's life suddenly going AWOL. The perspective of years usually shows the immaturity of those early feelings, but they were very real and painful at the time.

I can only suggest that time will tell. If you have good heterosexual relationships, good social interests, are people focused most young girls who wonder about their sexual orientation will discover that guys are great.

Feel free to fire away with any more questions.

John
NZ