Straightforward,
Please note again, there is no accusation. To you directly or indirectly, so I do not see the judgemental part of my post. However, if to you it seemed that way, I apologize. I respect and appreciate, well, you're 'straightforwardness'.
straightforward said:
I heard what could be a rumor or myth and I am looking for information. I have to ask the question to find out if it is true or not. Why do you gasp at that?
If it's bath or hand soap, such as Dove, Camay, Dial, or even dish soap such as Palmolive, tasting some certainly won't cause death (unless a child is previously allergic to it). If it's Pinesol or even Mr. Clean, obviously, wouldn't recommend it.
My logic was, why would anyone want to consider anything as a form of punishment that can potentially cause death. That's why I gasped. A wooden spoon - low probability of causing death - may be useful in certain circumstances. A pellet gun - high probability of causing death - scratch off the list. Sorry if my understanding/assumption was wrong. In any case, note that I wasn't implying to you specifically.
straightforward said:
I have no problem in my house with swearing...or venting. The only time anyone in my house has had soap in their mouth was when they lied blatently! I know where they get that (but will not go into it here) and I would rather they learn that there are consequences for lies now when the consequence is soap in their mouth than later when the consequences are not so temporary and not just a bad taste in their mouth. Spankings do not work in this situation.
Noted, won't go into that behaviour issue, but safe to assume our 'styles' differ (which is ok
)
straightforward said:
I think I equate punishment with consequences.
In linear logic, yes. And no 'buts' from me. Suffice to say our application to that would be different also.
straightforward said:
Yet, hasn't he also created a world with consequences? I would ask you to remember the consequences of the garden for starters. There are plenty of other places in the Bible where God has followed through with consequences. The ultimate consequence would be hell...wouldn't it? .
When God so loved the world, was the world behaving correctly? No, the world was behaving very incorrectly, and very inappropriately. And this is how God disciplined the world: God so loved the world, that He took away their freedom, He sent them to their room, beat them severely. Of course not. God so loved the world that He
gave. I learned the God-method of discipline
that it was difficult to do because it did not make sense to the natural mind, but I learned how to discipline through giving. Instead of taking my son and putting him in his room, but taking my son and having a few words of correction and about what the problem was, and then taking him to watch a movie. And I found that mercy triumphs over judgment every time. I found that grace will change more things than punishment ever will. And most people do not come to salvation because of the threat of Gods punishment, they come because of the enticement of Gods grace. And its grace that changed our lives - not punishment, threat, deterence, or judgment. IMO, we have to start to see these things, from a different perspective.
straightforward said:
According to the Bible it is not what goes into the mouth but what comes out of it. Lies are of the devil. I happen to believe their are much larger, more severe consequences for lies than soap in the mouth. It is my responsibility, as a parent, to do my best not to allow this to continue and not to allow it to become a habit...for the welfare of my children. As a side note...I have not had to impliment this consequence very often. I don't think I've used it for a couple of years now. But it is still there as a consequence and therefore I find it important to find out if this story about soap causing death is true or not. This is about the welfare of my children.
Thank you for sharing that. There's no disagreement there as to what our responsibilities as parents are. That's the
what and
why as parents. It's the
how that we differ (and again, with respect, I won't debate it here)
.
straightforward said:
They have seen mercy and they have seen grace (many a time). It is important that they see a full picture. Judgement is a part of that picture. But even judgement is no good if not inspired by God. We pray for guidance when we are faced with any matter concerning discipline. IMO, your attitude seems to be pretty judgemental.
That's wonderful they have seen mercy and grace (although I'm not here to condescend as to validate that for you - that's just my opinion). Judgement is part of that picture
only if there's no repentance. Lastly, my attitude was qualified at the beginning of that post as to not being directed to you - they're from my thoughts and experience. If however you found that offensive, I sincerely apologize.