I will attempt to keep a long story as short as possible. I just need to know if I am crazy because I have been wondering for three years now. Three years ago, I was dating this guy. I trusted him and thought I would be safe with him. One night, he attempted to get more physical than what I was comfortable with. He put his hand down my pants and I asked him to stop. He didn't. I said, "No, no, no. Stop. No." He just nodded his head "Yes" and kept going in an aggressive manner. I started to panic, thinking he wasn't going to stop. I started to panic and tried to squirm away, saying, "No, no, no, no," almost in tears. My voice got louder and he got up, annoyed, and said he wasn't going to hurt me.
Later on, I was pretending to be asleep because I was tired and didn't want him to try being physical with me again. He had put his hand in my pants prior to me pretending to be asleep, but I just let him keep it there so he wouldn't get upset. BUT I specifically told him, "Don't move it down or anything, please, okay? Just leave it where it is, please." Twenty minutes passed and he whispered, "Are you asleep, babe?" I didn't reply because I wanted him to think I was asleep. After a few minutes, he began to move his hand lower and lower, and started trying to do what he tried to earlier. I was afraid. I knew he wasn't going to stop, but I didn'twant him to know I was awake. It was hard to pretend I was sleeping because I just wanted to get up and run. Instead, I flipped over to my side so that he would HAVE to move his hand. I never spoke to him about it, but when he dropped me off at home, I suddenly didn't feel like I was safe with him anymore.
About a week or two later, he wanted to try something else. I said no multiple times, saying I was not comfortable with it. He proceeded to pull my pants down and do it anyway.
I don't know if he crossed a line or not. I tried talking to my sister about it and she said it was my fault. Maybe it was? I tried talking to a very close friend and she said what he did was sexual assault, but isn't that an extreme term to put on it? Was he in the wrong for doing that or was I just being too much of a chicken?
I have been wondering for years now, but especially lately since I'm currently dealing with a sexual harassment issue by one of the men at my work. The managers can't do anything about it aside from watch out for me when I walk to my car. They cannot fire him because he makes too much money for the company. The sad part is that they know it's been happening, that he has even physically touched me. They know the disgusting things he has said to me. He has been in trouble with the same thing two times before, before I started working there. So this has just raised even more questions about the aforementioned situation from three years ago.
Later on, I was pretending to be asleep because I was tired and didn't want him to try being physical with me again. He had put his hand in my pants prior to me pretending to be asleep, but I just let him keep it there so he wouldn't get upset. BUT I specifically told him, "Don't move it down or anything, please, okay? Just leave it where it is, please." Twenty minutes passed and he whispered, "Are you asleep, babe?" I didn't reply because I wanted him to think I was asleep. After a few minutes, he began to move his hand lower and lower, and started trying to do what he tried to earlier. I was afraid. I knew he wasn't going to stop, but I didn'twant him to know I was awake. It was hard to pretend I was sleeping because I just wanted to get up and run. Instead, I flipped over to my side so that he would HAVE to move his hand. I never spoke to him about it, but when he dropped me off at home, I suddenly didn't feel like I was safe with him anymore.
About a week or two later, he wanted to try something else. I said no multiple times, saying I was not comfortable with it. He proceeded to pull my pants down and do it anyway.
I don't know if he crossed a line or not. I tried talking to my sister about it and she said it was my fault. Maybe it was? I tried talking to a very close friend and she said what he did was sexual assault, but isn't that an extreme term to put on it? Was he in the wrong for doing that or was I just being too much of a chicken?
I have been wondering for years now, but especially lately since I'm currently dealing with a sexual harassment issue by one of the men at my work. The managers can't do anything about it aside from watch out for me when I walk to my car. They cannot fire him because he makes too much money for the company. The sad part is that they know it's been happening, that he has even physically touched me. They know the disgusting things he has said to me. He has been in trouble with the same thing two times before, before I started working there. So this has just raised even more questions about the aforementioned situation from three years ago.
