Was I wrong?

[JPPT1974]

Sometimes I wonder why people have emails but don't want to respond. What is their point of getting them?

 

[HoosierCanuck]

I don't think you were wrong. I'd rather play it safe too. Too many weirdos out there. I've browsed personal sites and where it asks for religion they'll put 'Christian' but I think it's because it's the religion they are most familiar with and they figure it sounds good. Kind of like having a 'title' on a resume'...you may not have the skills or the experience but hey...you were the 'director' of something. I dunno...I guess I've come across too many pervs and it really makes me mad....and suspicious.

 

[Talie]

I just thought about another possibility! email would leave traces for his wife to find

ok....that was a bit tongue-in-cheek - but it's not impossible!

 

[bostonlass]

I just thought about another possibility! email would leave traces for his wife to find

ok....that was a bit tongue-in-cheek - but it's not impossible!

egggggsaaaaaaaaaaaaaactly!

 

[london boy]

I was at Match a few years ago. Isn't it something to with the system at Match? You can only respond to internal stuff if you're a member? Anyway, I believe you did the right thing and anyone in your shoes would have done the same

 

[WITNESS8]

Hmmm...Just stand your ground, girl...let him miss out...you're cool

 

[HoosierCanuck]

I think all of those personals sites are scams anymore. Make it sound enticing then when you have looked around and 'found someone interesting'......you can contact this person for $19.95 a month.....money talks....mine says "pay your bills!" haha Granted for someone like me living in a hick town full o' lowlife it would be an option but I just don't like getting ripped off.

 

[Tumbleweed64]

You absolutely did the the right thing in NOT calling! If this guy is in a rush like that, then he is just not worth it, to coin an old phrase, "there are plenty of fish in the sea"

 

[JPPT1974]

I don't think you were wrong. I'd rather play it safe too. Too many weirdos out there. I've browsed personal sites and where it asks for religion they'll put 'Christian' but I think it's because it's the religion they are most familiar with and they figure it sounds good. Kind of like having a 'title' on a resume'...you may not have the skills or the experience but hey...you were the 'director' of something. I dunno...I guess I've come across too many pervs and it really makes me mad....and suspicious.

They do put religion more than Christianity it seems. And even though it's good for business, it isn't so good in the long run. It not just makes me cynical and skeptical when I see them. But also it makes me suspicious of them as well.

 

[scraparcs]

Another vote for "nah, better to email a bit first." I understand that some prefer phone conversation, but I definitely believe it better to email/IM/whatever for a while. Frankly, I'd rather write for weeks or even months before calling, but I know that preferences vary.

 

[Stanfi]

No, your defnitely not wrong. If the guy wanted to get to know you, he would have taken the time to do whatever communication method you were comfortable with. Better to be safe than sorry.