WARNING---VENT ahead

[psalms66]

UGH. UGH!!! UGH!!!!!!!!!!!

Goodness. What is up with people thinking that OBVIOUSLY since my first marriage failed that I have no business dating anyone who doesn't meet their criteria for me. And of COURSE I can't date for at least a YEAR after my divorce is final. ANd it's APPARENT that I have no business trusting my own intuition on who to date because it is PLAIN TO SEE that I have a horrible track record at choosing whom would be a good fit for me.

And I should be wearing a wedding ring, or a purity ring or some of the such NONSENSICAL talisman to protect my purity so I won't start sleeping around.

Good grief. Get off my back and BUTT OUT.

Now if I could only say that to them in real life. I have put my opinion out there but very graciously. Translation: they don't get it and keep throwing advice my way.

UGH.

 

[Prodical]

My advice to you would be to pray and ask God what does HE want you to do. Dont just follow your heart, as that cliche, but follow the word of God and humble yourself to the plans of Christ. identify "Is this what I FEEL I WANT? Or Lord, is this what YOU WANT.'

 

[tryingtobeagain]

Prodical ahs some good advice there.

I would also say to talk to them a bit less graciously. Be honest, but not rude. Let them know that you are calling the shots and that you feel that they are pushing their opinions on you at a time when you need to figure things out for yourself.

I hope things get better for you psalms

 

[psalms66]

Prodigal,

THis is what I'm already doing. This is the only way I have SURVIVED the past 5 months. NO, living like what you described is how I have survived the last 14 years of my life. I'm doing it more fully now but the same principal applied then too.

People assume that since the marriage failed that I must not be or wasn't living in obedience to God. That's just not true.

People are so judgemental when it comes to divorce. It is just infuriating. They think that x + y = z everytime. That given the "perfect plan" you can have a "perfect marriage".

So now that I've ranted again, please accept my humble apologies. I'm just fed upw ith hyper-critical so-called christians who sit at the city gate with stones in hand, ready to toss one at my head and the first sign of "wrong-doing".

Of course, my supposed "sin" is posting on my blog about the dress vs. pants on women debate. I used to be dresses-only.

 

[tryingtobeagain]

Psalms,
I understand your frustration. I thought that if I did everything just right that my marriage would work out. I didn't count on my husband not complying with the "magic formula". I think that in cases where both parties want to comply then it can work, but when one dosen't, the formula goes down the tubes.

People are judgemental and I'm sorry that you have to go through that. Remain true to God and He will reward you. Remember that all of us are sinners in one way or another and what matters is the personal relationship you have with God. No person can break that. God has plans for you and don't let people get you down.

((((BIG HUG)))))

 

[Brotherfromanothermother]

Prodigal,

THis is what I'm already doing. This is the only way I have SURVIVED the past 5 months. NO, living like what you described is how I have survived the last 14 years of my life. I'm doing it more fully now but the same principal applied then too.

People assume that since the marriage failed that I must not be or wasn't living in obedience to God. That's just not true.

People are so judgemental when it comes to divorce. It is just infuriating. They think that x + y = z everytime. That given the "perfect plan" you can have a "perfect marriage".

So now that I've ranted again, please accept my humble apologies. I'm just fed upw ith hyper-critical so-called christians who sit at the city gate with stones in hand, ready to toss one at my head and the first sign of "wrong-doing".

Of course, my supposed "sin" is posting on my blog about the dress vs. pants on women debate. I used to be dresses-only.

Psalms,
I understand your frustration. I thought that if I did everything just right that my marriage would work out. I didn't count on my husband not complying with the "magic formula". I think that in cases where both parties want to comply then it can work, but when one dosen't, the formula goes down the tubes.

People are judgemental and I'm sorry that you have to go through that. Remain true to God and He will reward you. Remember that all of us are sinners in one way or another and what matters is the personal relationship you have with God. No person can break that. God has plans for you and don't let people get you down.

((((BIG HUG)))))

Ladies.... So true.
I had (emphasis on HAD) a friend who when I told him my ex wanted a divorce (1st ex) he asked "what did you do?" as in what did I do wrong to cause this. On one hand that is an accountability tact on the other you have a hurting friend whose spouse has just left them. (In my case she was an adulterer)
Divorce is such a hot button type topic that I don't know if it is ever easy on anyone involved/ not involved.

 

[Lost]

UGH. UGH!!! UGH!!!!!!!!!!!

Goodness. What is up with people thinking that OBVIOUSLY since my first marriage failed that I have no business dating anyone who doesn't meet their criteria for me. And of COURSE I can't date for at least a YEAR after my divorce is final. ANd it's APPARENT that I have no business trusting my own intuition on who to date because it is PLAIN TO SEE that I have a horrible track record at choosing whom would be a good fit for me.

And I should be wearing a wedding ring, or a purity ring or some of the such NONSENSICAL talisman to protect my purity so I won't start sleeping around.

Good grief. Get off my back and BUTT OUT.

Now if I could only say that to them in real life. I have put my opinion out there but very graciously. Translation: they don't get it and keep throwing advice my way.

UGH.

I totally understand your venting!

*lost vents also*

There's this guy that likes to flirt with me.

He's:

Cute
Handsome
Kind
Funny
Intelligent
Responsible
Financially secure
Smells nice :o
Likes me a lot
Loves God

The reasons for my divorce are accepted in the bible.

When I finally called him out on the flirting but not dating he said:

"I won't waste time dating because the bible says marrying you would send me to hell."



Naturally I put an end to his "wasting time" with the flirting.

His loss!

 

[AirForceTeacher]

I totally understand your venting!

*lost vents also*

There's this guy that likes to flirt with me.

He's:

Cute
Handsome
Kind
Funny
Intelligent
Responsible
Financially secure
Smells nice :o
Likes me a lot
Loves God

The reasons for my divorce are accepted in the bible.

When I finally called him out on the flirting but not dating he said:

"I won't waste time dating because the bible says marrying you would send me to hell."



Naturally I put an end to his "wasting time" with the flirting.

His loss!

Oh dear ... you're right, his loss.

 

[Lost]

:o

(i sure thot so)

lost

 

[klynnmiller]

I totally understand your venting!

*lost vents also*

There's this guy that likes to flirt with me.

He's:

Cute
Handsome
Kind
Funny
Intelligent
Responsible
Financially secure
Smells nice :o
Likes me a lot
Loves God

The reasons for my divorce are accepted in the bible.

When I finally called him out on the flirting but not dating he said:

"I won't waste time dating because the bible says marrying you would send me to hell."



Naturally I put an end to his "wasting time" with the flirting.

His loss!

Yeah, I had that happen to me too, well...kinda...

It was OK to date me/sleep with me (before I accepted Christ) but marrying me would have been committing adultry??? WHAT?!?!

This is one of those things that kept me from submitting to Christ sooner than I did because I thought that accepting Him would mean that I was doomed to spend the rest of my life alone.

OK, Hello Kettle, this is Pot! You're Black!

Anyway, you did right by cutting it off, and God does have a plan for you!

Much Love and Prayers!

K Lynn

 

[Lost]

Yeah, I had that happen to me too, well...kinda...

It was OK to date me/sleep with me (before I accepted Christ) but marrying me would have been committing adultry??? WHAT?!?!

This is one of those things that kept me from submitting to Christ sooner than I did because I thought that accepting Him would mean that I was doomed to spend the rest of my life alone.

OK, Hello Kettle, this is Pot! You're Black!

Anyway, you did right by cutting it off, and God does have a plan for you!

Much Love and Prayers!

K Lynn

Someone with double standards.

I'm sorry he used you like that!

HIS LOSS!!

Sure wish his plan included a boyfriend........and soon. LOL :o

I'd rather be doomed spending the rest of my life alone than doomed spending it with a jerk.



God Bless You!

 

[klynnmiller]

Someone with double standards.

I'm sorry he used you like that!

HIS LOSS!!

Sure wish his plan included a boyfriend........and soon. LOL :o

I'd rather be doomed spending the rest of my life alone than doomed spending it with a jerk.



God Bless You!

Exactly, well, now, I have a wonderful fiance who is more than I ever imagined, thank God!!!

God will show you your way once He is ready, and not a moment before. But it will only happen if you let Him and try not to do it all yourself.

Keeping you in my prayers!

K Lynn

 

[Lost]

Exactly, well, now, I have a wonderful fiance who is more than I ever imagined, thank God!!!

God will show you your way once He is ready, and not a moment before. But it will only happen if you let Him and try not to do it all yourself.

Keeping you in my prayers!

K Lynn

Wow, that's great! Congratulations!

Thank you.

 

[Gimpy]

Is double standards better than no standards at all?

 

[AirForceTeacher]

Is double standards better than no standards at all?

Yes, they're twice as good!

 

[Brotherfromanothermother]

Yes, they're twice as good!

 

[Lost]

 

[Gimpy]

UGH. UGH!!! UGH!!!!!!!!!!!

Goodness. What is up with people thinking that OBVIOUSLY since my first marriage failed that I have no business dating anyone who doesn't meet their criteria for me. And of COURSE I can't date for at least a YEAR after my divorce is final. ANd it's APPARENT that I have no business trusting my own intuition on who to date because it is PLAIN TO SEE that I have a horrible track record at choosing whom would be a good fit for me.

And I should be wearing a wedding ring, or a purity ring or some of the such NONSENSICAL talisman to protect my purity so I won't start sleeping around.

Good grief. Get off my back and BUTT OUT.

Now if I could only say that to them in real life. I have put my opinion out there but very graciously. Translation: they don't get it and keep throwing advice my way.

UGH.

Dont worry about them. Just smile, nod and go about doing what you know is right.

 

[Gimpy]

Yes, they're twice as good!

Oh, good, I was becoming kind of concerned.

 

[Lost]

UGH. UGH!!! UGH!!!!!!!!!!!

Goodness. What is up with people thinking that OBVIOUSLY since my first marriage failed that I have no business dating anyone who doesn't meet their criteria for me. And of COURSE I can't date for at least a YEAR after my divorce is final. ANd it's APPARENT that I have no business trusting my own intuition on who to date because it is PLAIN TO SEE that I have a horrible track record at choosing whom would be a good fit for me.

And I should be wearing a wedding ring, or a purity ring or some of the such NONSENSICAL talisman to protect my purity so I won't start sleeping around.

Good grief. Get off my back and BUTT OUT.

Now if I could only say that to them in real life. I have put my opinion out there but very graciously. Translation: they don't get it and keep throwing advice my way.

UGH.

Stopping in to see how you're doing.