Want to be Needed

[redblue22]

Do you want someone who needs you--or does not need you?

Do you want to need someone--or not need someone?

 

[yeshuaslavejeff]

Do you want someone who needs you--or does not need you?

Do you want to need someone--or not need someone?

It is very common to believe we need someone, or want to need someone, or want someone to need us.
This is almost always fleshly carnal worldly emotion and feelings that are 'natural' in the flesh, and
almost always are 'taught' to be important, even by Christian parents and teachers.

As Jesus says, "I did not come to bring peace, but a sword...." a sharp two-edged sword to separate even the thoughts and emotions/ intents of the heart (to get a man's whole heart to be devoted and obedient to Himself and His Father Yahweh) .....

It is probably rare to find teachers practicing or teaching the need to die to self, to learn the reality of being crucified with Christ (an already accomplished by Yahweh fact for all who abide and live and walk in Christ Jesus).

 

[JAM2b]

As far as needing another person in my life just for the sake of having relationship, everyone needs people and most people need a lifelong mate. God created us in a way that we need others for physical, psychological, and spiritual health. Very bad things happen to our minds, bodies, and souls when we are truly alone. That's why solitary confinement is such a horrible thing to put someone through. Can people survive being alone? Yes. Is it the best option for them? Absolutely not. Can God miraculously carry them through that? Definitely, but why would anyone want to be in that situation where they are in need of such intervention?

When my marriage was falling apart I remembered something an aunt had said when her marriage was struggling. Her husband threatened to leave her. She told him he could go if he wanted because she didn't need him. She said something to the effect of, "I love you and I want you, but I don't need you. I can make it without you." He straightened up his act and became a better husband. I remembered this, and I said the same thing to my husband. My husband balked and showed his tail. And guess what? I found out that I really don't need him. I'm OK.

I learned that a spouse isn't my provider, God is. I learned that a spouse isn't my protector, God is. I learned that God could make a way for healthier people to have relationships with when I broke away from the life of trying to please a bad mad. I learned that when I'm lonely, God is there and he makes my paths cross with people I can interact with and form relationships with. I get lonely, but it isn't constant and it isn't unbearable. I have all kinds of relationships with other people.

I don't want to be someone who can't make it without a spouse. I don't want to be with someone who can't make it without me. Anybody can use anybody. I want to be wanted. I want to be with someone who is independent and healthy enough to survive without me. Even if the relationship were perfect and going to last the rest of our lives, eventually one of us is going to die and the other will be alone again. I don't want my life or happiness to end with my spouse's and I wouldn't want his to end with my life.

 

[Noxot]

I want someone who needs me and who I need. I don't think souls die when they are crucified and married to Christ. I think they finally come alive and find themselves.

 

[Saucy]

I want to be needed and desired. I also want to feel desire towards someone, be a lover, protector, provider, etc. I don't care if anyone thinks that's wrong or not. I feel God created us with these emotions for a reason.