Wait? What's Wrong With it?

[sister_maynard]

As long as both parties are consenting, trusting, and careful, I think that it's their affair. It could turn into a problem if one person was pressured into it or if one person was using it as an outlet to take out frustration on the other; however, those issues would indicate a problem with the relationship and basic trust issues, not necessarily the BDSM itself. Problems in bed mirror problems that the people involved have with each other, so trouble with BDSM would be more of a warning light than the root of a problem.

 

[Jakkaru]

Woah! This thread got alot of hits while I was away.

Well, now I am kinda embarassed, lol, I was expecting more talking and explaing to me why the other things like homosexuality was wrong and not so much the BDSM thing but whatever...wish I had more to add but I don't, hate talking about my personal life.

 

[Vylo]

I don't think it is very formally spelled out anywhere in the bible, but perhaps there is a general feeling that over-indulging in matters of the flesh will cause you to worship them instead of god.

 

[bammertheblue]

Sorry but I have to clear up some misconceptions here.

In many ways BDSM is representative of a lot of sexual indulgence. I have heard that it can sometimes involve groups of people practicing,

Untrue. Group sex is certainly not always or even frequently a part of bdsm. I don't know any stats, but many couples are monogamous.
Also, like the poster below you said, sex and bdsm can be separated and often are.

Furthermore, someone who shows such an interest in taking sex to a different level perhaps has sex too much on the mind, so to speak.

I'm not sure I understand the reasoning here. What makes you assume that someone who has different sexual preferences or kinks has sex on the mind any more than anyone else?

Christian life does not center around indulging in sexual activity, and anything that involves acting out roles on such a level, in a sadomasochist relationship, does not seem in any way to jive with Christianity.

The lives of people who do bdsm also do not, by and large "center around sexual activity" either. They do the same things everyone else does- go to school, go to work, take care of their kids, cook, clean, watch TV, etc.

Although there is nothing directly against it that I can think of off of the top of my head, in many ways it is against the spirit of the Christian life, being that in many people's views it represents a large indulgence and taking sex to an odd level, and is even violent in nature.

Bdsm is not always violent. Not everyone who is into bdsm is a sadist or a [bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse], although many are. I don't think bdsm is any more of an indulgence than any other kind of sexual relationship.

Edit: I'm not trying to convince you that bdsm is or is not acceptable for a christian. It really does not matter to me one way or the other but most people don't understand and get weird ideas. (Well, it is weird At least to most people. But you know what I mean.)

 

[sister_maynard]

Woah! This thread got alot of hits while I was away.

Well, now I am kinda embarassed, lol, I was expecting more talking and explaing to me why the other things like homosexuality was wrong and not so much the BDSM thing but whatever...wish I had more to add but I don't, hate talking about my personal life.

There's some stuff in Leviticus that I'm not going to bother finding because I see it enough already and some New Testament stuff that tends to devolve into a debate about Greek roots every time someone mentions it. It'll probably show up soon. As long as homosexual relations are between consenting adults, I don't have a problem or think it's wrong.

 

[AnEvangelist]

The questions and answers to this thread should be categorized.

The first category should be "I am not a Christian and this is what I believe..."

The second category should be, "I am a Christian, I believe the Bible is God's revealed will, and this is what I believe..."

A third category should be, "I am a Christian, I'm not sure the Bible is the "inerrant word of God" and this is what I believe..."

The person who is not a Christian is not under any moral or ethical restraint to live by a particular ethic - other than what they see as being relevant to their own life experiences.

The person who claims to be a Christian, by virtue of their own claim, have submitted themselves to a certain morality and ethic. That is if they feel their Christianity is of a Biblical base.

Some who claim to be Christian carry into their Christianity the same moral relevancy that guided their life before becoming Christian.

I personally see myself as a Christian whose maorality and ehics are based in a belief that the Bible is the absolute authority because it is God's revealed will for mankind.

If you do not agree with me on that point, then we have no basis for debate; but we do have a basis upon which to have some very good discussion.

 

[TooCurious]

The person who is not a Christian is not under any moral or ethical restraint to live by a particular ethic - other than what they see as being relevant to their own life experiences.

Rather, a person who is not a Christian is not under any moral or ethical restraint to live by the Christian ethic. They might well be under a moral or ethical restraint or obligation to live by a different ethical paradigm, imposed by a different religion or philosophy.

 

[sister_maynard]

Woah! This thread got alot of hits while I was away.

Well, now I am kinda embarassed, lol, I was expecting more talking and explaing to me why the other things like homosexuality was wrong and not so much the BDSM thing but whatever...wish I had more to add but I don't, hate talking about my personal life.

I thought about this a bit- there are a lot of threads that morph into discussion of whether homosexuality is wrong and almost none about BDSM. Given the outlet for a new topic, people are more likely to discuss that than the same tired things.

 

[Gentle]

Not sure if this so much belongs in the question thread or here but who goes.

I had a good buddy of mine a few days ago, Christian but nice to me for not being one and what not. Now I always liked the guy becuase evn though he is a Christian, he is not exactly afraid to talk..well..like a teenage guy. ANywho we got to talking about things and a mentioned BDSM and how I am kind in to it. BOOM! This guy explodes on a religious rant towards me. Now this spread to other things, homosexuality, masturbation, etc.

Now..what exactly is wrong with these things? No where in the bible does it say these activites are sins, it may frown upon homosexuals but it does not directly say homosexuals can't go to heaven or that masturbation earns you a ticket to the firey pit of hell and who ever heard of Satan getting your soul becuase a whip is brought out when you have sex? It's not hurting anybody and it makes you happy, no more then indulging in some chocolate chip cookies so tell me, what is exactly wrong with these activites?

You should have spanked him as soon as he started. Cat O Nine